Girls dont care how a guy looks?
I'm writing this tip in response to a recurring theme in this forum which underplays the importance of 'looks'. Now I know not everyone has said this but I think this is an underlying feeling of many people who post here.
Their posts go something along the lines of 'well looks are important, but even if you're a 4/10 you can still get a 9/10 girl, what you really need to focus on is c+f/kino/confidence/(insert alpha trait here)... etc,etc...
Your chances of picking up a girl lie nothing more or nothing less than in the message you give her about yourself. And since 55% of communication is visual you'd better start paying attention to how you look!
You can't do anything about your genes, so forget about that, but most 4/10's have a huge amount of room for improvement!
So then here's the tips:
1. Your hair cut + style is really important
2. Make sure your eyebrows look good, especially not too bushy.
If your eyebrows are too bushy then cut them.
3. Clean up your diet and go to the gym
4. Buy and wear nice clothes, shoes and accessories. They dont necessarily have to be expensive but make sure they look good, and at least have a FEW brand named items.
5. Nice cologne is really worth the money
6. Keep up-to-date with fashion! Just because you think it looks good doesn't mean everyone else does.
7. Seriously, follow fashion! Look what really cool guys are wearing and copy them! If your body's in shape and your fashion is good you can't go wrong (unless your personal hygene is bad).
A girl will sum you up with a single glance, way before you get a chance to use c+f or play touchy feely with her. And in case you think this post is aimed at ugly guys only, this is for anyone who is not at least a 9/10. I believe the NUMBER ONE most important factor when it comes to picking up a girl is the way you look. If you're not constantly doing your best in that area then you've got room to improve.
You may have guessed that I dont care much for DJ techniques. Sure things like c+f, kino, or whatever can be fun to use, but it really depends on the situation. DON'T think that any technique can make up for the fact that you just look average. If these techniques work then they will ONLY work alongside you LOOKING COOL and the NUMBER TWO most important factor:
CONFIDENCE!
This is the one technique/trait that I believe is essential.
However CONFIDENCE CANNOT BE FAKED.
Either you are confident or you are not. Approaching girls and trying to ACT confident will not work. In this sense I guess I believe in confidence as a TRAIT but not as a TECHNIQUE.
You can't aquire confidence by yourself! Your lack of confidence is because of a negative image you have of yourself. You can only become confident when others (esp. girls in this case) ACNOWLEDGE that you are a cool, and the same kind of person as they are (either verbally or non-verbally). When people you respect (or in this case, girls that are cute) hold a POSTIVE image of you, you will find it easy to adopt this positive image yourself.
And what will make others hold this positive image of you? YOUR LOOKS!
Once you look great and feel confident you can go out and use whatever techniques you think will work, or you can be like me and just improvise. Really it doesn't matter as long as the message she gets about you is that you're COOL, POPULAR and the kind of guy she's interested in.
[And on popularity, I know there are people who recommend telling the girl you're after about all your other girlfriends, or bringing female friends as 'wingmen' when you go out, or whatever... but if you feel the need to do all these things then you are ultimately FAKING it. Why bother creating the ILLUSION that you are popular? Look COOL and you'll gain CONFIDENCE and then you will BECOME popular]
So damn it throw out your old wardrobe, go shopping for new clothes, shoes, colognes, a new hair style, neck-chains --whatever's cool, take care of your body, and then go hang out with some cute women!
I'm writing this tip in response to a recurring theme in this forum which underplays the importance of 'looks'. Now I know not everyone has said this but I think this is an underlying feeling of many people who post here.
Their posts go something along the lines of 'well looks are important, but even if you're a 4/10 you can still get a 9/10 girl, what you really need to focus on is c+f/kino/confidence/(insert alpha trait here)... etc,etc...
Your chances of picking up a girl lie nothing more or nothing less than in the message you give her about yourself. And since 55% of communication is visual you'd better start paying attention to how you look!
You can't do anything about your genes, so forget about that, but most 4/10's have a huge amount of room for improvement!
So then here's the tips:
1. Your hair cut + style is really important
2. Make sure your eyebrows look good, especially not too bushy.
If your eyebrows are too bushy then cut them.
3. Clean up your diet and go to the gym
4. Buy and wear nice clothes, shoes and accessories. They dont necessarily have to be expensive but make sure they look good, and at least have a FEW brand named items.
5. Nice cologne is really worth the money
6. Keep up-to-date with fashion! Just because you think it looks good doesn't mean everyone else does.
7. Seriously, follow fashion! Look what really cool guys are wearing and copy them! If your body's in shape and your fashion is good you can't go wrong (unless your personal hygene is bad).
A girl will sum you up with a single glance, way before you get a chance to use c+f or play touchy feely with her. And in case you think this post is aimed at ugly guys only, this is for anyone who is not at least a 9/10. I believe the NUMBER ONE most important factor when it comes to picking up a girl is the way you look. If you're not constantly doing your best in that area then you've got room to improve.
You may have guessed that I dont care much for DJ techniques. Sure things like c+f, kino, or whatever can be fun to use, but it really depends on the situation. DON'T think that any technique can make up for the fact that you just look average. If these techniques work then they will ONLY work alongside you LOOKING COOL and the NUMBER TWO most important factor:
CONFIDENCE!
This is the one technique/trait that I believe is essential.
However CONFIDENCE CANNOT BE FAKED.
Either you are confident or you are not. Approaching girls and trying to ACT confident will not work. In this sense I guess I believe in confidence as a TRAIT but not as a TECHNIQUE.
You can't aquire confidence by yourself! Your lack of confidence is because of a negative image you have of yourself. You can only become confident when others (esp. girls in this case) ACNOWLEDGE that you are a cool, and the same kind of person as they are (either verbally or non-verbally). When people you respect (or in this case, girls that are cute) hold a POSTIVE image of you, you will find it easy to adopt this positive image yourself.
And what will make others hold this positive image of you? YOUR LOOKS!
Once you look great and feel confident you can go out and use whatever techniques you think will work, or you can be like me and just improvise. Really it doesn't matter as long as the message she gets about you is that you're COOL, POPULAR and the kind of guy she's interested in.
[And on popularity, I know there are people who recommend telling the girl you're after about all your other girlfriends, or bringing female friends as 'wingmen' when you go out, or whatever... but if you feel the need to do all these things then you are ultimately FAKING it. Why bother creating the ILLUSION that you are popular? Look COOL and you'll gain CONFIDENCE and then you will BECOME popular]
So damn it throw out your old wardrobe, go shopping for new clothes, shoes, colognes, a new hair style, neck-chains --whatever's cool, take care of your body, and then go hang out with some cute women!
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