Girls asking guys out

[Miran]

Hi guys, we all know that modern society taught us to approach and contact girls first, it is like obligation to us, unwritten rule, I did same things and ofcourse you sometimes score and sometimes you dont but my last girl actually asked me out and she was like 9/10 and I was bit shocked because it rarely happens and she was ****ing beautiful, I guess my first impact on her was strong.. so what do you think about this? ofcourse a lot of shy and beta guys would like this, how many times girl called you out or approached in your long dating history and were those girls hot or not?

 

[TheProspect]

It's happened a few times to me.

Make sure you quickly assert your dominance over her and begin to lead her or she'll lose interest quickly (unless she's desperate, and if she's truly a 9/10, she's not desperate).

 

[AlphaNate]

All girls with high interest will put themselves in your path. Some are bolder than others.

 

[resilient]

Sometimes I think it comes down timing. Women love to monkey branch.

They want to feel they're still attractive or validated by a man. If she just got out of a LTR or LDR relationship or marriage, they'll make their IOIs strong, known, and will look for a quick rebound in the sheets.

Afterward, she'll determine how high her interest level remains if she wants to stay in or invest herself emotionally. This is especially true the more extroverted, dominant, or social her personality is.

 

[wifehunter]

Let's see...they can drive cars, vote, have career/job etc. etc. etc... Yes, the can ask a guy out!

Unspoken rules are stupid, and they restrain nothing but freedom.

 

[kronreiff]

When I was with a well known company, this HB 9+ asked me out to lunch. After work, we went out for drinks and then to her place for a night of porn star type fvking and svcking. Total porn star wh0re in bed and I'm sure I wasn't her first or last gig. Due to our schedules we agreed to be FWB's. We had awesome sex and alot of it while keeping the emotions out. Like "The Prospect" said, you have to assert your dominance right away and take control. It keeps her around. I spun her for over four years.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Yeah it's happened a few times before. None of hem were hot though. Actually, there was this one chick back in high school who was so fat that she weighed more than my dad. Must have been at least 250 lbs at 16 or 17 years old. And she was still a b!tch too. I was the best athlete in that school so I don't know what the hell she was thinking. I also had another chick who was the exact opposite; she had a max squat of 415 and she was 16 or 17 as well. Still pretty chubby though so I turned her down and she got all pissy lol.

 

[Krueg]

Be weary of women who ask you out. Sometimes there's a hidden agenda or their not that serious or maybe just desperate. Its better when YOU do the choosing.

 

[BeExcellent]

It's not the natural order of things. It robs the man of the leadership role and it sets the woman up as the dominant party. All bad omens. Feminine women are not going to ask men out, and men are generally going to find women who ask them out masculine or presumptuous (fine for ONS or FWB - not fine for relationships).

As an experiment before I've tried it. It sends all the wrong messages (too forward, too pushy, too masculine, too presumptuous, few options) and can be even be seen as "Gee what's wrong with her...she's pretty...why is she doing the approaching." All of which gets back to:

It's not the natural order of things. Lions aren't vegetarians either. Own who and what you are and deal with it.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

It's not the natural order of things. It robs the man of the leadership role and it sets the woman up as the dominant party. All bad omens. Feminine women are not going to ask men out, and men are generally going to find women who ask them out masculine or presumptuous (fine for ONS or FWB - not fine for relationships).

As an experiment before I've tried it. It sends all the wrong messages (too forward, too pushy, too masculine, too presumptuous, few options) and can be even be seen as "Gee what's wrong with her...she's pretty...why is she doing the approaching." All of which gets back to:

It's not the natural order of things. Lions aren't vegetarians either. Own who and what you are and deal with it.

Just because she was the first to approach doesn't mean the roles can't be flipped, they don't have to stay with her being in the "leadership" role per se. Now granted it's only happened to me a hand full of times. With only 1 being a 18mo RL.

 

[devilkingx2]

As an experiment before I've tried it. It sends all the wrong messages (too forward, too pushy, too masculine, too presumptuous, few options)

any guy who thinks those things just because they got asked out is probably an idiot lol

 

[Von]

It happened 3 times in the past month

Girl 1) Ask to meet for drinks... she said only available in april. So we booked the date 1 month in advance. I confirmed the day before... however she flaked 2 hours before the due date.... we didnt talk since closing the date, nor I hadn't seen her in 6months

Girl 2) when I was driving her home, said: we have to go to do XXX like you suggested..... however Von, you have to be proactive.... Later during the week, we texted and scheduled the event for in 2 weeks

3) A girl I meet through friends, it was instant connection, I was told she's ''reserved and defensive'' on interested parties.... she was during our meeting, however, she added me on FB and since she keeps saying we will do X together, you have a concert partner, dance partner etc... However, it been a month now since we meet... both our schedule seems to make that we should meet next week (when I booked the date... she replied ''for sure''.... but today she wrote to me ''how is your week'' in french... our mothertonge while we spoke english).... i doubt its good news.,... Reason we didnt meet before: My work, her 2 week trips, this weekend she's out of town etc.. So it also took 1 month to book...

Girls coming to you, which should happen more often... in the past month it happened 3 times.... but all 3 times... it took 1 month to schedule anything... I had 1 flake.... now I will see the other 2.... and hope it aint the friendzone.

In these girls hitting on you... I believe closing the deal is key... so you want to do it fast... in my case... the fact it took 1 month to be ''free'' might have hurted... So OP escalate and book within 1 week

 

[NSX-R]

A woman doing the first move , considers you to have lower value than hers. There are also many other red flags .

I would run away .

 

[RangerMIke]

All girls with high interest will put themselves in your path. Some are bolder than others.

THIS!!!! Do not kid yourself, women give you signals to approach, many are sub-conscious and you just naturally pick up on them. If you REALLY pay attention to what is happening you will know this is true.

 

[homie]

Never happened to me, I mean asking me out directly. I got girls trying to mess with me jokingly or giving other signs like said above "putting themselves in my path", you know.
But I don't see how that can be a bad thing. It's not a marriage proposal after all. Speaking of natural way and all this macho crap - seems like an ego defensive thinking if you ask me. Why it can get you uncomfortable if a girl asks you out when you are confident?
It's like when low self esteem guys think like when they get attention from girls it is a joke to have fun of them and f*ck everything up because of their insecurity. Totally not cool.

 

[zekko]

It's not the natural order of things. It robs the man of the leadership role and it sets the woman up as the dominant party. All bad omens. Feminine women are not going to ask men out, and men are generally going to find women who ask them out masculine or presumptuous (fine for ONS or FWB - not fine for relationships).

I have to disagree here. I've had nice, feminine girls ask me out before. It may not be the natural order of things, but there's nothing wrong with it. I didn't think any less of them, and it didn't hurt the relationship.

These were girls that I knew socially though, but I didn't pick up that they were attracted to me (I can be incredibly clueless lol). Now maybe if you're talking about cold approaches, that's not very feminine. That's happened to me also, but didn't go as well, it seemed kind of like a blind date.

 

[dk1990S111]

Both my long term gfs 3 years and 4 years made it blatantly obvious they were interested. ofcoarse the 4 year one was bpd for sure so that explains her going out of her way to hook me

 

[hockeyfreak79]

A woman doing the first move , considers you to have lower value than hers. There are also many other red flags .

I would run away .

No bro this is ridiculous. They are ALWAYS looking to date up. DJ's aren't scared little pvssys that run away. Unless it's captain obvious & she's a 5 or lower or bat shvt crazy. Never be scared to play the game. You only get better which each new adventure.