Girls Are ****in' Weird...Check this out!!

[Elf]

Guys try to tell me what went wrong cuz i don't ****ing understand even if i try my best.

Met this hot chick ( 16 years old , i'm 23 )at a cafe near my university, i noticed that she was into me by the way she looked at me, she was always trying to get my attention, then i go up to her and start some convo, she gives me the digits and give her my number too, she even tells me, be sure to make use of it. Before that she asked my age and i told her 23 almost 24, then she coughed and start laughing at her friend ( she thought i was 19) .15 minutes passed when i receive a sms on my cell phone saying this: " Erase my number and i will erase yours. i have a boyfriend and he is very jealous. forget that you just met me". Later that night i told her via sms that i didn't understand that change of behaviour on her behalf and that i was only trying to get to know her not necessarily showing sexual interest in her.

Now the 2nd weird part. She replies with lots of calls and messages, asking me what i wanted from her, which i replied, tell me what U want from me, we exchanged some cool words with each other until the time she becomes a ***** again, saying that i'm too old for her, that i need to find girls my age, and to never call/see her anymore or else i would have problems with her boyfriend. i became wtf, this girl is crazy and always changing her mind. why was she after me? was her IL real or she just wanted to make fun of me?

doubt 1 ) when a girl gives her digits in free will and asks for ours, it is said that she is interested right? so if she was, what motives could lead her to change her mind so fast ( a question of minutes )? a physical turn off? age?

doubt 2) if it was the age, why did she gave me her number. also it is said that young girls like older man, so that just doesn't cut it for me.

doubt 3) her bf? i highly doubt that she has a bf, if she had one why was she trying to tease me?


doubt 4) why so many changes of behaviour on her part?


I would really like that someone could share their opinions on the subject.

Thanks

 

[Elf]

btw here the minimum age is 16, so it's not considered a crime.

 

[ScrewIt]

forget her, she's still young and stupid

Just forget her bro, for 16 she's probably very immature about all this and puts herself on the pedestal.

probably hearing that you're 23, just fed her ego...ex: "OMG OMG!! im 16 and he's 23 and he's after me."

now she probably thinks any guys of any age are after her. so yea, now she thinks YOU want something from her cuz of her overloaded ego. thats why she asked those questions and suggested you find someone your age...pfft only a line like that would come out of a 16yr old.

 

[Ice Cold]

When you're trying to guess what the other person is thinking, you've gone too far.

She's flaking?

DJ quiz:

What should you do with flaky girls?

 

[Ebach]

Don't tell her your age. Let her guess. And everytime she guesses, say YES THAT'S IT in a sarcastic way. Don't even bother replying to her ****. NEXT!

 

[Kuen1]

She is 16 years old, and you're 23.




Nuff said.

 

[xblitz44x]

Dude, move on. Forget about it. Most 16 year girls are screw balls anyway; but this one is actually TELLING YOU: "Don't talk to me." I don't understand what is so difficult to figure out.

She said you're too old. She said she has a boyfriend. What exactly do you not understand? Maybe if you were closer to her age, she would have hung out with you and cheated on the boyfriend (like most 16 year old girls do), but your age turned her off. No problem, just find somebody closer to your age.

 

[Elf]

that's another of my problems, it may seem strange to some of you but when i'm with young girls let's say between 16 and 20 i feel really cool, i'm not shy at all around them i'm even ****y and funny and they seem to like that, a fun cool guy. Now when it comes to older girls i seem to block, i dont know what to say, i try to dont do stupid stuff etc. That's why my girl friends were all teenagers, i dont know why iam this way with older girls.

This happens to me frequently ( i have a very low self esteem so i try to think people dont like to see me depressed and so they say cool stuff just to see me well ).

This chick friend of mine introduced to a girl friend of hers and to some other guys, this girl is hot and sometimes i hang out with them. My friend told me that she asked if i was the one that had a girlfriend and that i was cute but i didn't believe in her until her friend came to me and said it right in my face: that she found me attractive, but there's a problem she has a boyfriend and it seems like he is a moron from what i've been told, so my friend was trying to hook me up with her. And i instead of making a move, avoided her like the plague, when i'm near her i feel anxious, stupid, maybe because i was expecting more attention from her, when my friends are together i'm the one that doesn't talk to or look at, and that pisses me off. i seem to have made a big mistake, because i was way to depressed last friday night and i smoked pot and i had 3 antidepressives before that, and that made me violent and rude with her and all of my friends. i think the 1% she told me i had has been lost, even my friend is a lot agressive with me now, always *****ing with me when i do or say something that she doesn't like. i think i blew my chances up, but that's life. i'll be with them tonight again, is there something i can do to turn things to my side again?

 

[Don Ronny]

Did you ever change your wardrobe? I remember you posting pictures a while ago and you looked really gay. No offense or flaming, but you really did look like a flamboyant homosexual.

 

[Elf]

1st - im not GAY, i dont like ****S I LIKE *****S is that understood?

2nd - I'm here looking for help, to learn how to be a better man,not to be ogled or ridiculed ok? is that so ****ing hard to understand?

 

[blienk]

Originally posted by Elf
she becomes a ***** again, saying that i'm too old for her, that i need to find girls my age,

Yeah you should take her advice. Forget the legal aspects of it, why are you messing around with 16 year olds? I mean really, WHY? I'm only 19 and I wouldn't bother myself with a 16 year old.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

elf...you are trying to interpret the actions of a 16 year old girl?

go to the high school forum for your answers.

 

[On_the_Top]

When she told you she was 16 and all theat boyfriend crap, you shoulda just replied, "Whoa, since when did you think I was sexual intrested in a immature 16 yr old," or something along those lines. See kept txt msg you, so that must of ment she wanted your attetion is some sort of way, she was probly still on the high of having a grown man hit on her. Replying with "What do you want for me" IMHO wasn't the best route to take, woulda been better to reply with "I'll chat with you when you are mature and grown up good bye." Basicaly you should have called her out on all the **** she gave you. She is 16, so she probly went to her friends bragging "a 20 odd something man hit on me, but I turned him down because I am that damn good."

 

[ScrewIt]

simple. you have more confidence with someone younger. why?

maybe for your age, you feel like dating someone around your age will have higher expectations of you VS someone who is much younger than you and is less experienced, that doesnt expect a lot out of you, or has limited expectations.

That's how i look at it sometimes. Plus that's how i look at ppl who date interracially. Specific ethnicities whether it's guy/girl will have high or low expectations or doesnt expect high expectations to live up to, that they will date them.

if u get what i mean then good, if u dont then think hard.

 

[Big-J]

Originally posted by Elf
1st - im not GAY, i dont like ****S I LIKE *****S is that understood?

2nd - I'm here looking for help, to learn how to be a better man,not to be ogled or ridiculed ok? is that so ****ing hard to understand?

Well that sure didn't answer his question.

 

[backbreaker]

a little story, that's true BTW:

I am 20, will be 21 in 19 days. I have an ex girlfriend who is around 2 and a half years younger than me.

Anyway we broke up right before I turned 18, exactly 3 years ago.

To get to the point, I was in the mall last week buying a new watch, and I hear a familar voice from the crowd. Low and behold it was her. A friend told me she worked at the mall, but I am not going to advoid going to the freakin mall to not see her, and I really didn't want to see her.

Anyway, we get to talking and she seems pretty mellowed out. I was thinking maybe, just maybe I can get away.But I made the mistake of saying that I am happy about her and her BF who she has been with for 1 year, who I found out from her Best friend that she doesn' t know that I talk to. anyway, as I was walking off, she pulls me back and makes me talk to her longer. After a while, I got the sence that she was waiting for me to ask for her phone number, so I did. She is fun to be around and is cool as long as you don't date her.

(To show you how imature she was, we had sex every freaking day before we started dating but when we did, she said that she wanted to go 1 month without having sex). I didn't want to, and all of her friends thought she was a retard, but I wasn't going to rape her so I had no choice. Anyway, she broke up with me a month later because there was no "connection" between us any longer. Go figure)

So I decide I would give her a shot, because she was good in bed and like i said, isn't bad if you aren't dating her. So I call her 2 days later and invite her to a movie. She says no because she is going out with her BF and tells me to call her for next weekend, which is tomorrow.

So, I call her on Wednesday to setup a date for Saturday. She picks up the phone and acts like she doesn't know who I am, and hangs up. I called her back later, figuring she was with her Bf at the time and she wouldn't pick up the phone, so I left a short message telling her about the movies, that she invited me to in the first place. I had a feeling what was going on, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt and called her the next day, same thing.

to wrap this up, 2 years ago, I would have called her every day ,and went up to her job and confronted her about why she is flaking like this. BUT THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT SHE WANTS ME TO DO. So I just put her in my "bottom dwellers list", or girls who for some reason, flaked out or I am not really that interested in. I call them once a month just to keep in contact, because you never know when they might come in handy.

Anyway, by showing her that you are fustrated by her motives, she won. If is just 18 and a half, and hasn't changed much from when she was 16. What did I expect? I didn't take it personal. I know it wasn't a problem with ME, but if she wants to play games, let her, they just won't be with me.

If I see her, and I will, I won't confront her, nor will I hold a grudge.

The girl you are dealing with is high matinence. Run. Far away. Even if she did become interested in you, you dont' want a relationship with her. She is emotionally unstable.

 

[Don Ronny]

Originally posted by Elf
1st - im not GAY, i dont like ****S I LIKE *****S is that understood?

2nd - I'm here looking for help, to learn how to be a better man,not to be ogled or ridiculed ok? is that so ****ing hard to understand?

Whoa! Easy there tiger. It was an honest question. No need to get all defensive. I am not ridiculing you but just curious if you ever fixed your old problem, which was looking slightly effeminate. Actually I take that back, I know a few PUAs who are effeminate but the difference is that they are not insecure.

Your response to my post shows how low your self-esteem is, that some random guy on the internet could even manage to piss you off says a lot about who you are.

I think you need to forget about this girl..hell forget about girls period and focus on this insecurity issue that you have.

Also, it couldnt hurt if you stopped wearing that thuper crop top with the leather choker.

Just playin man. Learn not to take yourself so seriously. It will work wonders for you, I promise

 

[Panther]

Your response to my post shows how low your self-esteem is, that some random guy on the internet could even manage to piss you off says a lot about who you are. I think you need to forget about this girl..hell forget about girls period and focus on this insecurity issue that you have.

I was about to post the same thing. I happen to be trying to get over my insecurities as well, and I can now tell the signs. A secure person would dress the way he likes and just smile at any negative comments.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

picking on young girls becuase of your low self esteem issues is not the answer.

Fix whatever it is about yourself that you don't like.

 

[Big-J]

Originally posted by Don Ronny
Whoa! Easy there tiger. It was an honest question. No need to get all defensive. I am not ridiculing you but just curious if you ever fixed your old problem, which was looking slightly effeminate. Actually I take that back, I know a few PUAs who are effeminate but the difference is that they are not insecure.

Your response to my post shows how low your self-esteem is, that some random guy on the internet could even manage to piss you off says a lot about who you are.

I think you need to forget about this girl..hell forget about girls period and focus on this insecurity issue that you have.

Also, it couldnt hurt if you stopped wearing that thuper crop top with the leather choker.

Just playin man. Learn not to take yourself so seriously. It will work wonders for you, I promise

Whew someone said it, I was gonna, but it wasn't gonna be put so mildly .