Phoenixpua-london
Don Juan
Girlfriends.
I have been thinking about girlfriends. Namely the whole reason we always look for one.
Now this is strange because it is only really directed at PUAs I suppose, however it is a bit bleak where the line is, so you may have to bare with me for a while as I am writing this straight form the brain.
Ok so got into the community, got a small level of success with women (on the grand old scale of it) met a woman and fell in love, we are now happy my time spent out chatting to women is very limited blah blah blah.
Here is the problem. Why do I need a girlfriend? I mean what does she give me that a random cold approach couldn't – when I was dating multiple women I was getting sex every night and having amazing fun with it. I used to go out with my friends have fun chat to women, make people go "wholly **** look at him he is a ****ing natural" and all that crap. I used to help other guys get women, show them what to do yada yada yada, we used to share tips and tequneques etc…
Although I wasn't ****ing all of the time and didn't have 3solms etc… this was my choice I turned down soooo many women in 6 months. In fact I have only ever slept with 9 women. 2 were as a normal guy. The rest was in 6 months. But I turned town about 30 – 40 women. WHY? Well I just didn't want to have sex with any old chick, it was too easy – I like the chase, I don't like it on a plate. My best friend will tell you, I always want what I can’t have.
So anyway back to the point.
What more can a man want if he has all of this in his life – happy, nice home, enough money to be comfortable with, multiple women, sex on demand, and a **** load of good mates. Surely there would be no point of being in a relationship.
Here is the problem with all of that. IT CAN ALL BE TAKEN AWAY IN A DAY.
I don't care what any one says everything you have can disappear in a day. EVERYTHING, even your own life. All we have, all we see, all we are everything is given to us. However it can also be taken from us.
Stop and think about that. (Take 2 minutes really think)
Think of all those things you have at the moment – girlfriend, money, family, dog, house, the love you have for someone in your heart, the feelings you have for that hot woman that lives next door. Now imagine it gone.
It is a strange thought but it is a very real thought.
I want you to picture this:
There is a man who is the only survivor of a huge tidal wave that has killed and destroyed everything. He is floating in the middle of nowhere on a bit of wood or something. The water is slowly draining away back into the ocean and he can now stand on what once was central London. Everything is gone no buildings or people not even a bit of road all there is, is mud.
Now he knows what he has lost and knows that he has nothing left – does he decide to try to survive or just kill himself? Well human instinct tells him to keep going, why? Because it is what he is designed to do; Survive and replicate right?
I know that this is a far fetched story but the principles are there and it is the only way I can show you this.
So he is still alive and he has to survive and **** but that is irrelevant at the moment. What does matter in this post is what is inside – the universe has taken it all but what does he still have? His feelings his brain, memories, love everything we all feel inside.
That hasn't gone; therefore he can continue to live. He has these memories to hold onto I think this is why we get a partner.
I think this is what we fight for everyday. I mean I hear all this stuff saying men just want to replicate, but I believe there is deeper things that just wanting to have sex and “sow the seed”.
If any of you have found love then you will know what I mean. You see I'm a lucky guy I have found love twice now.
Love is a funny little thing. I mean no one really knows what it is, it isn’t a thing I suppose, I think love is basically a relief from being alone; it is like a comfort thing. Knowing that this person will be there for you – it is like the whole stress of the world is cut in half because you have someone to help you, someone to support you, someone that will understand when you are down, someone who doesn’t care if you win or loose.
My girlfriend doesn’t care that I'm successful with women, it amazes her that I can get any woman to fall for me, but she isn’t threatened. Why because she loves me and she knows I love her.
I used to think that I never wanted another woman in my life again. I didn’t want love – it was a bad thing girlfriends were a bad thing, they only lead to hurt pain and a whole bunch of stress.
The game has taught me that this is untrue – there will always be hurt, pain, stress and all that stuff – it is better to have it with a woman that on your own. Women really are amazing things I love them all – I love my girlfriend and I'm not scared to say it.
This is a post for all of the guys out there that think women are just a game to play – THEY ARE NOT!!! They are very delicate and special and should be treated as such.
I know that there is allot of women who are “*****es” when you approach but I can guarantee you this, they are only like this because of a man.
Women are loving amazing people – they are just waiting to be swept off there feet, don’t be scared to “get in to deep” don’t shy away from love. But just bear in mind, don’t let love **** you up. If you are unhappy and are only together because of the love you have for a woman, this should not be a reason to stay.
I believe in soul mates, but I don’t believe there is one soul mate per guy I have found two – one didn’t work out. Lets hope this one does, if not I will continue to search for the right woman for me, I advise you to do the same.
Love
Phoenix.
I have been thinking about girlfriends. Namely the whole reason we always look for one.
Now this is strange because it is only really directed at PUAs I suppose, however it is a bit bleak where the line is, so you may have to bare with me for a while as I am writing this straight form the brain.
Ok so got into the community, got a small level of success with women (on the grand old scale of it) met a woman and fell in love, we are now happy my time spent out chatting to women is very limited blah blah blah.
Here is the problem. Why do I need a girlfriend? I mean what does she give me that a random cold approach couldn't – when I was dating multiple women I was getting sex every night and having amazing fun with it. I used to go out with my friends have fun chat to women, make people go "wholly **** look at him he is a ****ing natural" and all that crap. I used to help other guys get women, show them what to do yada yada yada, we used to share tips and tequneques etc…
Although I wasn't ****ing all of the time and didn't have 3solms etc… this was my choice I turned down soooo many women in 6 months. In fact I have only ever slept with 9 women. 2 were as a normal guy. The rest was in 6 months. But I turned town about 30 – 40 women. WHY? Well I just didn't want to have sex with any old chick, it was too easy – I like the chase, I don't like it on a plate. My best friend will tell you, I always want what I can’t have.
So anyway back to the point.
What more can a man want if he has all of this in his life – happy, nice home, enough money to be comfortable with, multiple women, sex on demand, and a **** load of good mates. Surely there would be no point of being in a relationship.
Here is the problem with all of that. IT CAN ALL BE TAKEN AWAY IN A DAY.
I don't care what any one says everything you have can disappear in a day. EVERYTHING, even your own life. All we have, all we see, all we are everything is given to us. However it can also be taken from us.
Stop and think about that. (Take 2 minutes really think)
Think of all those things you have at the moment – girlfriend, money, family, dog, house, the love you have for someone in your heart, the feelings you have for that hot woman that lives next door. Now imagine it gone.
It is a strange thought but it is a very real thought.
I want you to picture this:
There is a man who is the only survivor of a huge tidal wave that has killed and destroyed everything. He is floating in the middle of nowhere on a bit of wood or something. The water is slowly draining away back into the ocean and he can now stand on what once was central London. Everything is gone no buildings or people not even a bit of road all there is, is mud.
Now he knows what he has lost and knows that he has nothing left – does he decide to try to survive or just kill himself? Well human instinct tells him to keep going, why? Because it is what he is designed to do; Survive and replicate right?
I know that this is a far fetched story but the principles are there and it is the only way I can show you this.
So he is still alive and he has to survive and **** but that is irrelevant at the moment. What does matter in this post is what is inside – the universe has taken it all but what does he still have? His feelings his brain, memories, love everything we all feel inside.
That hasn't gone; therefore he can continue to live. He has these memories to hold onto I think this is why we get a partner.
I think this is what we fight for everyday. I mean I hear all this stuff saying men just want to replicate, but I believe there is deeper things that just wanting to have sex and “sow the seed”.
If any of you have found love then you will know what I mean. You see I'm a lucky guy I have found love twice now.
Love is a funny little thing. I mean no one really knows what it is, it isn’t a thing I suppose, I think love is basically a relief from being alone; it is like a comfort thing. Knowing that this person will be there for you – it is like the whole stress of the world is cut in half because you have someone to help you, someone to support you, someone that will understand when you are down, someone who doesn’t care if you win or loose.
My girlfriend doesn’t care that I'm successful with women, it amazes her that I can get any woman to fall for me, but she isn’t threatened. Why because she loves me and she knows I love her.
I used to think that I never wanted another woman in my life again. I didn’t want love – it was a bad thing girlfriends were a bad thing, they only lead to hurt pain and a whole bunch of stress.
The game has taught me that this is untrue – there will always be hurt, pain, stress and all that stuff – it is better to have it with a woman that on your own. Women really are amazing things I love them all – I love my girlfriend and I'm not scared to say it.
This is a post for all of the guys out there that think women are just a game to play – THEY ARE NOT!!! They are very delicate and special and should be treated as such.
I know that there is allot of women who are “*****es” when you approach but I can guarantee you this, they are only like this because of a man.
Women are loving amazing people – they are just waiting to be swept off there feet, don’t be scared to “get in to deep” don’t shy away from love. But just bear in mind, don’t let love **** you up. If you are unhappy and are only together because of the love you have for a woman, this should not be a reason to stay.
I believe in soul mates, but I don’t believe there is one soul mate per guy I have found two – one didn’t work out. Lets hope this one does, if not I will continue to search for the right woman for me, I advise you to do the same.
Love
Phoenix.