Girlfriend's going out to a party w/ her 2 friends

[omgwtfm8]

I know she's going over her friend house w/ no parents and spending the night there and she's going out to the local college town to party, her friends are single and teases and makeout *****s.

I don't quite trust her going out with the friends she's with, because we're on a break. Last time she hooked up with someone at a party while we were on a break.

Same break period, I had hooked up with someone as well.

We decided to start over and forget the past and I told her one last time she screws up and she's out of my life.

So now I know she's going out tonight, we've been going good and now we're back to normal.

She hasn't talked to me today about this party. I wouldn't mind going myself as I have nothing to do tonight.

What should I do in this situation? I'm trying to go to this party.

Should I just ask her, "Can I come"?

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

You know that someone is going to **** her? You should follower her to make sure that other guys dont talk to her.

 

[Phyzzle]

because we're on a break

You're on a break? Right now? Then the parties she goes to are none of your business.

 

[Stud]

In a very similar situation right now dude. Are you guys on a break right now? If you are, then don't give a **** about what she does and go hang out with your friends and other girls.

If you guys are back together, then don't give a **** about what she does. Listen, I just got out of a two year relationship. I know its very tempting to say, "you can't do this" "you cant do that", because your scared about what might happen and probably justifiably so because you know she has strayed from your love nest before. But, when you put restrictions on whatever activity, it kind of adds scarcity and puts the action on a pedestal that she now all of a sudden sees as a wayyy more desirable thing to do than she normally would. Whenever you try to control her, you pretty much act like every other dude in a relationship. Whenever you say, "oh go have a good time with your friends, i'm gonna have a good time with mine.", it shows your not stressing about the situation and it kind of works like reverse pyschology. Besides dude, it's never good style to sweat *****.

You have to look at the problem emotionless to see the real solution. What happens if she does get trashed and cheat on you? She's out of your life for good. One less slut you have to screen out when you're looking for your soulmate. What happens if she doesn't cheat, doesn't drink, and is the DD for her ***** friends? Not only do you see that you have a reformed girl who deserves your respect, you get the self confidence that you don't have to stress out everytime she goes to a party. I know it can be nerve racking whenever you don't know what she's doing, but once you get over the hump, you start to view her actions without your emotions clouding your judgement. Once this happens, you can deal with her bull**** drama easily and with little stress to you.

I know it's kinda sad that you can't just tell a girl how you feel, but this is how I would work the situation.

 

[Scrumtulescence]

Think of it as a test. If she cheats on you, then you know what kind of girl she is and you know you should dump her. If she is that kind of girl, then don't you want to find out sooner rather than later?

 

[Krassus]

Get a new gf. What the hell, you were on a break before, and now again? That and she hooked up with someone and now she's about to do it again? How much louder do the circumstances have to scream "RUN LIKE HELL!" before you listen?

 

[MightyMate]

I wouldnt let her.

 

[flexion_]

Unless this is a Friends episode I'm very confused. You are in a non-exclusive relationship.

What you want her to do relationship-wise is not in your control. So why are you fretting over it?

 

[Colinski282]

your on a break cause she wants some new ****....thats what breaks are for....cmon man why are u having feelings for her. If u dont wanna next her then make sure u dont get ur heart broken cuz this doesnt sound like gf material if yall take breaks every so often