lizardfloyd
Don Juan
I've been dating this girl for 2 months now. We're not officially a couple, but she is starting to hint that we need to be official. I'm 30 years old and she is 29 years old (HB 7). Last night we went out for a nice dinner (date #9) and went to go see a cool band play for an hour. Afterwards, we go back to her place and we cuddle/make out on the couch. In the middle of that going on, she tells me that she is on her period and that there would be nothing more than making out that was going to happen. Of which was cool with me, since I saw her tampons out on her bathroom counter before we left for dinner and I knew it was around that time of the month for her anyways. She said that we are getting close to having sex and that she has made me wait since she didn't want to be "another notch on my belt". I rolled my eyes and laughed about it and said it's cool and you know I'm not a player and that I've invested time into this and what not.
After she said that, she threw a curve ball and told me she does not give BJ's and to not to ever expect a BJ from her, since she thinks the idea of it is dirty and prefers not give them. She said "if you're not cool with that then you know where the door is". WTF!?!? I haven't been that stunned in a very long time, and have never heard that from any girl that I have ever dated or been with. Hell, I didn't even bring it up at all the whole night. I told her that was disappointing to hear and that I am always down to go down on her, even though she gets nothing out of it. I even told her that I keep everything looking clean down there, but she could of cared less. After a few minutes of awkwardness, we made out a little more and then we fell asleep on the couch watching a movie.
Since we have only been dating for 2 months, the most that she has let me do is finger-bang and go down on her. Before I ever went down her, she told me that she didn't like for guys to do that for her and that she gets zero pleasure out of it. I went down on her on date #5 when the moment felt right and she got nothing out of it and then said "I told you so". She also does not shave well "down below", since she does not like to have razor burn in that area
She got better at it once I said something about it, but she could still do a better job at it.
She's a really cool professional/classy woman, fun to be with, very spontaneous and I like her a lot, but I am not sure where to go from here. Everything is perfect until the sexual stuff comes up. Anyone else been in this position with a solution? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!
*Background info. on her* She is kind of old-fashioned and came from a strict religious family upbringing. She was born and raised in the "bible-belt" of the south, as was I. She attends church every Sunday on a regular basis. Donates time to help multiple charities. She was in a very up-tight sorority in college that kind of sucked. The girls in her sorority were 50/50, in matter of attractiveness and coolness.
I honestly think that she is inexperienced and some of the previous things mentioned have something to do with the hesitation. I know that I should have dug down deeper when getting to know her, but I didn't want to un-earth some crazy emotional Pandora's box thing. But I am still pissed the fvck off about the ultimatum thing. If I hadn't been so buzzed off the beer that we had drank, I would have definitely left or at least went out to my truck and waited to she if she would of came out to stop me. Sorry, but I'm not fond of drinking and driving.
She even told me that she has my birthday present picked out for me, which is a month from now. And she was/is in talks of planning a weekend trip together to go see our favorite rival baseball teams play each other in a few weeks. Very confused!
After she said that, she threw a curve ball and told me she does not give BJ's and to not to ever expect a BJ from her, since she thinks the idea of it is dirty and prefers not give them. She said "if you're not cool with that then you know where the door is". WTF!?!? I haven't been that stunned in a very long time, and have never heard that from any girl that I have ever dated or been with. Hell, I didn't even bring it up at all the whole night. I told her that was disappointing to hear and that I am always down to go down on her, even though she gets nothing out of it. I even told her that I keep everything looking clean down there, but she could of cared less. After a few minutes of awkwardness, we made out a little more and then we fell asleep on the couch watching a movie.
Since we have only been dating for 2 months, the most that she has let me do is finger-bang and go down on her. Before I ever went down her, she told me that she didn't like for guys to do that for her and that she gets zero pleasure out of it. I went down on her on date #5 when the moment felt right and she got nothing out of it and then said "I told you so". She also does not shave well "down below", since she does not like to have razor burn in that area
She got better at it once I said something about it, but she could still do a better job at it. She's a really cool professional/classy woman, fun to be with, very spontaneous and I like her a lot, but I am not sure where to go from here. Everything is perfect until the sexual stuff comes up. Anyone else been in this position with a solution? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!
*Background info. on her* She is kind of old-fashioned and came from a strict religious family upbringing. She was born and raised in the "bible-belt" of the south, as was I. She attends church every Sunday on a regular basis. Donates time to help multiple charities. She was in a very up-tight sorority in college that kind of sucked. The girls in her sorority were 50/50, in matter of attractiveness and coolness.
I honestly think that she is inexperienced and some of the previous things mentioned have something to do with the hesitation. I know that I should have dug down deeper when getting to know her, but I didn't want to un-earth some crazy emotional Pandora's box thing. But I am still pissed the fvck off about the ultimatum thing. If I hadn't been so buzzed off the beer that we had drank, I would have definitely left or at least went out to my truck and waited to she if she would of came out to stop me. Sorry, but I'm not fond of drinking and driving.
She even told me that she has my birthday present picked out for me, which is a month from now. And she was/is in talks of planning a weekend trip together to go see our favorite rival baseball teams play each other in a few weeks. Very confused!
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