Girlfriend says I always hurt her feelings.

[youngdon]

I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months. The thing is though she says I 'm always mean and hurt her feelings. For example she says "I'm gonna take a class with 40 guys in it and I say cool I'm gonna take dance with all the girls in it in ****y funny manner. She then went and started a fight and ignores me saying "are you ready to be nice yet? "every time I tried to talk to her. I've tried to ignore her and it makes things worst with. Given she does this kinda of thing like 4 times a week or more. Then I usually don't apologize and she gets over by like 15 mins when shes in her next class.
Also anytime I say something ****y funny reply to her question like Would you risk yourself if I'm falling off a cliff now she says" you would do that to your girlfriend? Fine you don't get anything now". Anytime she doesn't get her way she walks off or backs away from and waits for me to say something .So any advice on these **** test would helpful and she does these everytime I'm with her now?

Note: She will try to bring her friends into something about what i did that was mean and they are her best friends they will agree me everytime that I didn't mean it like that.

 

[getready]

Your doing the right thing. Let her get pissed. Don't worry about it. Don't show any weakness when she gets pissy and if she says "fine you don't get anything now then" or whatever, be like that's cool i've got other things to do with my time. Remember to say it ****y and funny, like everything is not a big deal. Don't sound too serious and you'll be able to diffuse her soon enough.

 

[888]

ditch her, right now, before you get attached.

There's a difference between sh*t tests and self-pitying/guilt-tripping. This is the latter.

She's trying to guilt you into not doing things she doesn't like; this will absolutely destroy your frame and your self-esteem, not to mention it'll just make you feel like cr*p, 100% of the time. Nothing will ever be her fault, because she will always make herself out to be the victim, so eventually you'll be forgiving all of her flaws, while she calls you out on every little thing you do.

When I started dating, i went through two girls who were exactly like what you've described, and seriously, it's pure hell, but I couldn't get myself out because i was so emotionally bonded.

i swear to god dude, this girl will bring you down and just totally consume you if you let her. this is the one type of girl that you never, ever want to be involved with.

EDIT: I know it might sound pretty ridiculous to take such drastic measures, but seriously, if she's doing this so early in the relationship, she has really deeply rooted problems with self-esteem; you need someone you can joke around with and tease, not someone who can't take a little C&F. Chances are, no matter what you do, she won't be able to change, and what will end up happening is you will stop using C&F, and you'll just be walking on eggshells all day long around her. Don't get sucked into this dude, seriously.

 

[abcde]

dump that ho

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Start with seeing if you are the problem. Maybe you are too ****y and not so funny? It's a common misconception.
If that's not the case, just ignore her comments that bother you. Set a boundary.
If that doesn't work, then you can enjoy your life as a single man

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

For example she says "I'm gonna take a class with 40 guys in it

She is playing head games. Shes trying to make you feel jealous and insecure so she has the power in the relationship. She gets upset because your refusing to be phased by her immature and obvious tactics.

A girlfriend shouldnt play head games with her boyfriend. A girlfriend should be obediant and know her place, BELOW YOU, in and out of the bedroom.

This should be seen as extremely disrespectful behavior. Either get her in line or kick her to the curb.

Goodluck