I think there’s some truth to that for some women and men for sure.
I don’t mean communicate blanket standards at the jump. I mean bringing it up on a case by case basis like you said. I agree.
You girls have to be told "indirectly" and "with no time constraint" .
A women self-image and concept is harder to change than a man.
You cant tell your gf: "you need to lose 15pounds before week or the wedding"
Girls find direct communication in these matters to not touch the "emotional" string to the object they need to relate
You have to be subtle: "you know honey, our wedding is coming up next week, this dress would suit you perfectly and would make you standout from the other girls.." ... Than girl see she sees on the tag that the dress requires 15 pounds to lose lol.
Girls love to be right. They must own the emotion
You need to make them think they got the idea.
Men need to communicate smoothly (which is a contradiction to how we communicate).
Laraider, double like.
Men are being feminized by society, also by the birth control pill residue in the water (when in montreal i drink from the Tap, the water have residue from Toronto girl birth control pill).
But LaRaider, i agree with your post BUT it was ALWAYS a MAN JOB to create STABILITY for the women to reproduce.
A male was always judged by his provider status.
Opportunists where sure Entrepreneur/business people and they typically were MALE because they found more ressources.
However, opportunists male often came from Rich/Aristocrats families... Or where gifted individuals outside of the "norm" .
Women were always opportunistic in the management of her space because it was needed for survival.
In the past, society/nature/religion were used to create a frame for women and men.
Notice, women barely go beyond what they are told is "acceptable" . They really on a autority figure for that, that autority is based on her emotions.
They challenge that autority often in subtle ways especially if they find a "doubt" (emotional), we can call it "test" because they seek the strongest and most solid authority to submit too.
Now in modern society, the authority is the Gouvernement. Gouvernent are raising kids, are taking care of the eiders, are promotion health, are promotion religion (laïc state) etc...
Family unit was reduced to delegate to the State some of it's nurturing/raising/duties.
So Women now submit to the State message: be the leader, be the number 1 etc...
Before when it was the family the authority, the Father/male was the leader to be listen too... Because he was the provider. The women were also forced to listen to their nature call (no birth control, disease could kill, infant would not survive in many cases, 1 income was enough for a whole family, women were forced in the home).
It was mentionned here alot: Women cant shutdown their brain and their space is the space they take by being given, and they never let go of the space.
Why women are considered harder negociator than m'en? Cause they never compromise on her territory (it's mine, dont touch).
So OP GF listened to her emotions and tested OP... OP was in my opinion shown by his GF
1) she love him (she did only a bit, instead whole
2) she doesnt approve his communications méthods (he need to communicate better)
3) a test to see if he can be man enough to overlook what she did or reframe her positively
She took a bit, to see how he will react, if he pass the test she will stop there, if OP rails, she will add a color to her hair (until the head is fully covered, and woman always change hair style when she change man) LOL , no stress OP.
Remember the PUA book: What doesnt make sense to a man, make sense to a woman.
In modern society, women can be opportunitistic (that is new to them), they can be like men/guys.
Women were always strong and controling, and crazy but they always submitted to the frame they were told to HOLD.
You need to communicate that, it's just for her to understand you need to touch her emotions and communicate in a way that reach her (the opposite of what guys use for communication).
To OP: tease her smoothly, mention she looks goods with that amount, maybe even joke she would look funny fully covered.
Remember: you want to win the argument or you want to win the girl
