This time last year I [27M] found out that my girlfriend [22f] of 2 years was sexting her ex. It was a one time event and nothing physical ever happened. I confronted her about it and she agreed to block him.
Things were good for another 6 months when I noticed a message pop up from him on her phone. Apparently she ran into him on campus and his grandparents died and she wanted to comfort him. She showed me the messages and they were strictly platonic. We almost broke up then but I gave her another chance. She, again, blocked him as well as taking the extra step in deleting his number. She also started going to counseling to figure out what the problem was and it seemed to really help. She has stopped going, though.
Before she deleted his number, I wrote it down. A couple of months ago, curiosity got the best of me and i checked to see if he was still deleted. His number was saved under the name, "G". He was, however, still blocked so I didnt bring it up.
A couple of nights ago I noticed "G" under her recent texts. I didnt say anything then and when i looked later, the messages were deleted. I have a feeling what they were about. That day, Facebook showed her a "memory" of my gf and her exes new gf (who he cheated on her with, causing their breakup). So im guessing she sent him that.
I dont know what to do. I really do love this girl and want to be with her for the rest of my life and she feels the same way about me. She constantly tells me how she wants to marry me, we talk about what we will name our kids, and were about to inquire about a house last week!
The thought of losing her breaks my heart but I need to have some self respect. I almost wish that their follow up texts were also bad so that this decision was a lot easier.
They were high school sweethearts, were together for 5 years, and were each others first love. I understand why she would want to know whats going on in his life but IDK what world she is living in where she thinks its ok to maintain a platonic relationship with her affair partner!
Things were good for another 6 months when I noticed a message pop up from him on her phone. Apparently she ran into him on campus and his grandparents died and she wanted to comfort him. She showed me the messages and they were strictly platonic. We almost broke up then but I gave her another chance. She, again, blocked him as well as taking the extra step in deleting his number. She also started going to counseling to figure out what the problem was and it seemed to really help. She has stopped going, though.
Before she deleted his number, I wrote it down. A couple of months ago, curiosity got the best of me and i checked to see if he was still deleted. His number was saved under the name, "G". He was, however, still blocked so I didnt bring it up.
A couple of nights ago I noticed "G" under her recent texts. I didnt say anything then and when i looked later, the messages were deleted. I have a feeling what they were about. That day, Facebook showed her a "memory" of my gf and her exes new gf (who he cheated on her with, causing their breakup). So im guessing she sent him that.
I dont know what to do. I really do love this girl and want to be with her for the rest of my life and she feels the same way about me. She constantly tells me how she wants to marry me, we talk about what we will name our kids, and were about to inquire about a house last week!
The thought of losing her breaks my heart but I need to have some self respect. I almost wish that their follow up texts were also bad so that this decision was a lot easier.
They were high school sweethearts, were together for 5 years, and were each others first love. I understand why she would want to know whats going on in his life but IDK what world she is living in where she thinks its ok to maintain a platonic relationship with her affair partner!
