paradox/paradine
Don Juan
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I seriously need help/advice on this topic, first off my now present girlfriend had a crush on me when we first started talking because her and I had took a class together but we didn't talk to each other i the class and we started to talk months after only because her friend sorta knew me and that is how I got to meet her. When we first started talking I admired her for being a strong and fierce female, she stuck out to me as a girl who wouldn't take bull**** from anyone which I liked cause not all females tend to be like that. She admitted to having a crush on me and things picked up from there and we started dating, the first few months of the relationship was fun and exciting because i had previously taken a hiatus off of relationships because of the stress level in my life. I felt safe and not bored around her like i usually get with other girls and she seemed so sweet that i had to tell her that I was promiscuous and was the cheating type before and never serious i all my relationships but with her I was willing to try to not be like that.
So then we would talk about the experiences we had prior upon meeting each other and it shocked me when she told me she had sex with 12 guys because I didn't expect that from her and I had been mostly with virgins before. The first guy she lost her virginity to was when she was 18 and she said the guy treated her with compassion but he was only in the neighbourhood for a couple months and she had sex with him a few days before he left to go back and he promised he would call which he did but the messages she was receiving from him were now becoming less and less and when she told her mom she lost her virginity her mom got furious ad threatened to kick her out of the house cause her mom told her she raised her better than that. The second guy i really hate because he was the one that messed her up and telling her things that if she left her he would hurt her family and no other guy would be able to please her like he did and he asked her to be his girlfriend and she said yes and when other people would ask him if they are an item he would deny, they went out for three years, he was the biggest scum of them all and i shocked me that she stayed so long with him, the third guy was the second guy's cousin and my girlfriend said she got a text from this guy, went to his house and one thing lead to another, they had sex 3 times, the 3rd time being she said he raped him because after they had sex twice she stopped talking to him and one they he showed up where she was in a van with her friend and her friend boyfriend and he showed up and got on top of her and she started to cry then he realized and quickly got off and apologized.
The fourth guy got her pregnant and abandoned her when he messaged him about prompting her to get an abortion, the fifth guy was when she was in a summer program and he told her she would ask her out when the time was right and she said he didn't asked for but she had the mentality to have sex before getting into a relationship to see how it would be like before entering the relationship and she ended things with him because he had a baby with another girl, the sixth, and seventh guys were fb which she didn't want but her friends persuaded her to like them back and she irrationally followed their advice, the eight guy was a friend who she only had sex once and who i don't know much about, the ninth guy also had a kid with another girl and my girlfriend said she didn't want to come between him and his kid, the tenth guy cheated on her and she wanted revenge this is where the eleventh guy comes in because the other guy didn't like him and she started to hang around the guy more and eventually having sex with him, the twelfth guy was because the eleventh guy lied to her about something and she got mad with him and the twelfth guy got her pregnant also with her getting another abortion only this time her parents found out about it cause she told them. Out of the twelve guys six were her boyfriends and four of them told her the same thing about waiting to get in a relationship with her at the right time which never happened and the other two guys were flings. Sorry for the long post
P.S She feels stupid now for allowing herself to be used and not paying proper mind to herself which she says most of it happened because she was rebelling and she is 22 btw, most of the guys happened in a two year time frame and she is the only girl i don't feel pressured into showing her my feelings and we both really love each other and want to be together and i'm 19 btw
P.P.S What bothers me the most is that I didn't expect to here this about her, sure the number bothers me but she didn't seem like the type of girl to falter so easily
So then we would talk about the experiences we had prior upon meeting each other and it shocked me when she told me she had sex with 12 guys because I didn't expect that from her and I had been mostly with virgins before. The first guy she lost her virginity to was when she was 18 and she said the guy treated her with compassion but he was only in the neighbourhood for a couple months and she had sex with him a few days before he left to go back and he promised he would call which he did but the messages she was receiving from him were now becoming less and less and when she told her mom she lost her virginity her mom got furious ad threatened to kick her out of the house cause her mom told her she raised her better than that. The second guy i really hate because he was the one that messed her up and telling her things that if she left her he would hurt her family and no other guy would be able to please her like he did and he asked her to be his girlfriend and she said yes and when other people would ask him if they are an item he would deny, they went out for three years, he was the biggest scum of them all and i shocked me that she stayed so long with him, the third guy was the second guy's cousin and my girlfriend said she got a text from this guy, went to his house and one thing lead to another, they had sex 3 times, the 3rd time being she said he raped him because after they had sex twice she stopped talking to him and one they he showed up where she was in a van with her friend and her friend boyfriend and he showed up and got on top of her and she started to cry then he realized and quickly got off and apologized.
The fourth guy got her pregnant and abandoned her when he messaged him about prompting her to get an abortion, the fifth guy was when she was in a summer program and he told her she would ask her out when the time was right and she said he didn't asked for but she had the mentality to have sex before getting into a relationship to see how it would be like before entering the relationship and she ended things with him because he had a baby with another girl, the sixth, and seventh guys were fb which she didn't want but her friends persuaded her to like them back and she irrationally followed their advice, the eight guy was a friend who she only had sex once and who i don't know much about, the ninth guy also had a kid with another girl and my girlfriend said she didn't want to come between him and his kid, the tenth guy cheated on her and she wanted revenge this is where the eleventh guy comes in because the other guy didn't like him and she started to hang around the guy more and eventually having sex with him, the twelfth guy was because the eleventh guy lied to her about something and she got mad with him and the twelfth guy got her pregnant also with her getting another abortion only this time her parents found out about it cause she told them. Out of the twelve guys six were her boyfriends and four of them told her the same thing about waiting to get in a relationship with her at the right time which never happened and the other two guys were flings. Sorry for the long post
P.S She feels stupid now for allowing herself to be used and not paying proper mind to herself which she says most of it happened because she was rebelling and she is 22 btw, most of the guys happened in a two year time frame and she is the only girl i don't feel pressured into showing her my feelings and we both really love each other and want to be together and i'm 19 btw
P.P.S What bothers me the most is that I didn't expect to here this about her, sure the number bothers me but she didn't seem like the type of girl to falter so easily
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