Girlfriend has been in a threesome..dont know if i like it.

[Mr.Fantastic]

So I've been seeing this girl for a while now, its getting kinda relationship-ish and last night she told me that she has made out with girls before and she has been in a ffm threesome. She said that her first kiss was with a girl. I asked her if she was bi-sexual and she said no, that she had tried it and she doesn't do it anymore. The thing is, i don't like the idea of her having had a threesome. When she told me i was all like 'oh right, cool' or whatever, but now that I think about it I don't like the idea that some other guy has had my girl and another girl all to himself. I mentioned it the next morning and laughed and said that it 'gave me ideas' and she was all like 'no way'.

Do you guys think it is worth pursuing the idea of a threesome with her? How would I go about this?

Also, it seems to me that she has had a LOT more sexual experience than me, she is a pretty hot blonde, its not surprising, but i kinda feel weird about it now she has told me about a few of her past girlfriends. I mean, I really havnt had that many girls in my life. Anybopdy else have these insecurities?

 

[So pimp its scary]

It's only an issue if it bothers you. Bottom line.

If it does give her the old in and get the fudge out, if not then date the girl. Your call.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What is the attraction of wanting to know the vivid details of a partner's past sexual relationships?

 

[Scought]

Fantastic--

You can't dwell on what someone did before they met you.

I came from a don't ask, don't tell policy. We each have our past and it doesn't help to talk about it. All I want to know is that she is healthy, and doesn't have any health issues, and is STD-free.

The rest is just junk that gets in your head and causes you to have thoughts you don't want to know about. Honestly, it only hurts to talk about these things. You have to accept it and move on. That is all.
Was she supposed to pine away for you at her house? Most likely the experiences she has had (whether you deem them bad or good) has led her into liking you. If she had different/no experiences you two probably would never have met, and may not even have clicked if you had. Experiences make you who you are. This one has helped her be the woman you (like or are banging). So stop dwelling on what happened before you were around.

If you let this continue to be an issue you will stop getting ANYTHING from her.

From now on, when a woman starts to bring up her sexual history tell her ignorance is bliss. has she been safe? No issues with intimacy? Great, now I don't want to hear about her gangbang in 11th grade with the football team.

It doesn't help me out, right here, right now.

That's the mind frame you have to have.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Get it straight kid - she is NOT your "girlfriend" - there is no such thing as "girlfriend" ....She is your hor!!! Hors are temporary and do as they wish - find a non-3-some hor if it bothers you so much!

I'll tell you a secret - she had a 3 some with two dudes as well!!!

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Get it straight kid - she is NOT your "girlfriend" - there is no such thing as "girlfriend" ....She is your hor!!! Hors are temporary and do as they wish - find a non-3-some hor if it bothers you so much!

I'll tell you a secret - she had a 3 some with two dudes as well!!!

Pretty much right. She's a hor. Not girlfriend material. Treat her as the hor that she is and move on to a new girl who has not engaged in sexual acts you only see in hardcore pornos.

 

[Mr.Fantastic]

Last man standing, your post cracked me up, very well put. You guys are right. I think I will stop sweating it n just go with the flow, who gives a sh*t right? in future I will just tell her to change the subject if she brings it up. Thing is she has told me about her past boyfriends etc, sometimes just brings em up, even in a non sexual way, tell me about what type of idiots they were n stuff...shall I just say something like 'hey, I dont wanna know about your past boyfriends, i couldnt care less, n change the subject'.

Strange..she tells me she has been in a threesome and has kissed girls, I mean, what am I supposed to think of her? ...and she wants to be all exclusive and text me every 5 mins. I really need to get out n bang other girls.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Pretty much right. She's a hor. Not girlfriend material. Treat her as the hor that she is and move on to a new girl who has not engaged in sexual acts you only see in hardcore pornos.

You don't get it, he wants to have a threesome with her too. Seems like he is bothered that she won't do it, yet she did it with another guy.

She already knows that he is uptight about it and she will feel like she's being judged, so even if she would be open for it, it wold not be with this guy, as he already let his feelings know about it, and she wants to be seen as a "serious" girlfriend by him.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Last man standing, your post cracked me up, very well put. You guys are right. I think I will stop sweating it n just go with the flow, who gives a sh*t right? in future I will just tell her to change the subject if she brings it up. Thing is she has told me about her past boyfriends etc, sometimes just brings em up, even in a non sexual way, tell me about what type of idiots they were n stuff...shall I just say something like 'hey, I dont wanna know about your past boyfriends, i couldnt care less, n change the subject'.

Strange..she tells me she has been in a threesome and has kissed girls, I mean, what am I supposed to think of her? ...and she wants to be all exclusive and text me every 5 mins. I really need to get out n bang other girls.

I love when girls trash talk their ex-bf's for what "jerks" or "a$$holes" they were. Ever heard the saying "you are what you eat"?

Well I got another saying: "you are what you date honey". Seriously, YOU picked them, that's YOUR fault.

Next time she trash-talks one of her boyfriends, lay something like that on her and say..."well you picked him right"? That will stop her cold in her tracks. It will have her backtracking and of course post-rationalizing as all women do. It would be comedic relief for you to watch her stumble over her own words.

If she just casually brings up an ex-bf....just act really bored. Give one word answers or just nod or make noises like "mmhmm". She'll take a hint.

 

[Last Man Standing]

"Girlfriend" is a 20th century term - since the inception of time they were called hors, mistresses, concubines (meaning - you are mine and no one else;s) - the "girlfriend" label is a recent term to merely "legitimize" the hor conduct!!! The same as the "Gay" label - it is a term to "legitimize" their perverted conduct!!

Say nothing to her - by you being with her acknowledges that you have no qualms with her corrupted state - if you want to send a message to her do so by leaving her - but then you will just get another hor, but one which will better suit your taste! A tit for a tat, so to speak!

 

[itishe]

Dump this slut.

 

[ryannath]

LOL LMS really cracks me up with his comments, but i happen to agree with him in this thread!

 

[sparky0000]

(1) If she has had sex before she is a slut. Do what you want with her, but make sure she doesn't have HPV. If she has had sex once she has probably had it MANY times.
(2) Why do you want to know about a girl's sexual history? Are you serious? It tells you a lot about the quality of girl. If you don't want to know that, it is because you are probably afraid to find out.
(3) LMS is on fire. I would not agree that EVERY female is a slut though. There are some decent ones that haven't crawled into some dude's bed yet. Believe it or not. Almost impossible to find in America. Most American girls are fat (stats prove this). There are only a few decent looking ones left. Those girls get SOOOOO much attention. You are screwed. Find a place with good genetics, poor men, and lots of blue eyes. You will stick out like a rock star (with or without the blue eyes). Being a weird freak is actually beneficial in those situations.
(4) American women like to play with guys. They have no respect for men. That is why they tease men about kissing women and their prior boyfriends.

 

[Full Throttle]

She's a slut and a *****.