Girlfriend hangs out with mostly guys

[Hollywood31548]

I'd like some of your opinions on this, especially those who have been around awhile.
So My girlfriend has always had more guy friends and is pretty comfortable around them. She tells me pretty much everything. Well anyways a month or so ago she tells me that one of the guys in my squadron starts talking to her and she tells me that he tried hitting on her. Long story short I'm guessing she put him in the friend zone or something and has been hanging out with him and a few other guys. She did invite me to hang with them abut I never got around to it.

Well she ended up babysitting his daughter and crashed there on the couch a few nights. She of course told me about this and when I found out I told her I wasn't cool with that and it's kinda disrespectful. She said she was really sorry and she didn't think I'd mind since I'm pretty laid back.

Fast forward. In on a temporary assignment to Utah and she goes on a 4 day trip to Atlanta with him and some of his friends for a drifting event. She keeps in contact with me throughout the whole time, says she misses me and all that good stuff. And she has a seperate room from them.

So my question is, am I just being to insecure or is there an issue of respect between us? I don't think she''ll cheat or anything but I just don't like her doing all this sh it with that guy

 

[I_was_born_a_PIMP]

Your soft to allow his level of Disrespect. Your not a man but a girl. You sit around and GOSSIP with your woman about other men. Do you know how crazy that sounds!!

 

[Colossus]

The thing you have to be wary of is that women who gravitate towards men as friends tend to have issues with other women. Why cant she keep a group of female friends? Is she a b!tch? Does she need the validation of male company?

Sooner or later, as you found out, guys will make a move on her. Being a girl, she will "go with it" and tell you later how the kiss or the boob grab "just happened". One thing nary a woman on this earth can resist is positive attention from a valuable male.

 

[DonGorgon]

those guys she hangs with are in these groups:

1. guys she already Fed
2. Guys she is Fing
3. Guys she wants to F
4. guys she will F only when mad at you
5. Guys she will only F when drunk or high

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

The bolded is exactly why you set boundaries. Because they will keep pushing and keep pushing. They WANT a boundary.


Honestly though, any girl with male friends like this gets an instant next. Too many other good options out there to waste time on these creatures.

So you're saying she had no idea what she was doing?

Guy hits on her. Then she babysits his kid, and ends up staying over.

This had nothing to do with her decision making process.

I agree that this is unacceptable behavior. However, if you set a boundary would she have flatly denied him and never looked back? That's where the whole boundary question comes into play. Would they have went their seperate ways? Or would she have explored some options behind OP's back?

 

[Hollywood31548]

I totally agree with you guys 100% this is something I should've squashed a long time ago. On another note I have no reason to suspect she's cheating. She could possibly be, but at this point I have no evidence whatsoever. We still have a great time together, she still buys me ****loads of stuff, ps4, spa trip, you name it... And she seems to be into me really well, almost worships the ground I walk on so to speak. So if she is cheating, she's doing a damn good job .

Thanks for your opinions guys, I really appreciate the insight!

 

[foreverAFC]

you gf is fcking that guy

 

[The_411]

Cheating is not the point. The point is that she she's not a high quality girl.
1. Gets along with girld more than girld red flag #1
2. Gets hit on a guy then babysits his daughter and stays over .... huge red flag

Number 2 should be enough alone.

 

[goldengoose]

She already banged him before. I'm sure there will be a few betas making excuses for her and insulting you. It's time to dump her ass and time for you to meet new women. Chicks only do stuff like this with guys they fvcked or are fvcking.