apvcovenman_79
Don Juan
My girlfriend of 2 1/2 months the other day brought a topic that I am concerned about right now and I feel I have to get some advice.
We were about to cook dinner last wednesday. While we were driving home, a friend of her called her on the cellphone and invited over to hang out with a "work"group she has in university. This group meets every wednesday to work or sometimes just to hang out. Well the day we were driving home to cook dinner she told to her friends that she would not go because she was with me.
The fact that bothers me quite a bit is that there are no boyfriends allowed in the group. 6 males and 3 females (2 with B/f). None of the males has a GF.
She mentioned about this group when we were both friends..So I knew about it.
While she was mentioning this to me I felt uncomfortable. Then she asked me what was going on.. I said "how would you feel if I told you I had a female group and we meet every saturday but you are not allowed to join?"
then she said "OOhh really I would feel bad ....mmm I will do something about it"
The day after, at night, I felt I had to mention to her that, since I was so uncomfortable that I would gladly appreciate to join 1-2 times on a wednseday with this group ASAP. Then I added because if I feel uncomfortable for too long it is better to end the reltionship.
She started to cry and then said that during that same evening she talked to the group and there was no problem at all for me to join.
is something strange there ? is it my confidence? am I trying to read into things? is she hiding something she does not want me to know?
We were about to cook dinner last wednesday. While we were driving home, a friend of her called her on the cellphone and invited over to hang out with a "work"group she has in university. This group meets every wednesday to work or sometimes just to hang out. Well the day we were driving home to cook dinner she told to her friends that she would not go because she was with me.
The fact that bothers me quite a bit is that there are no boyfriends allowed in the group. 6 males and 3 females (2 with B/f). None of the males has a GF.
She mentioned about this group when we were both friends..So I knew about it.
While she was mentioning this to me I felt uncomfortable. Then she asked me what was going on.. I said "how would you feel if I told you I had a female group and we meet every saturday but you are not allowed to join?"
then she said "OOhh really I would feel bad ....mmm I will do something about it"
The day after, at night, I felt I had to mention to her that, since I was so uncomfortable that I would gladly appreciate to join 1-2 times on a wednseday with this group ASAP. Then I added because if I feel uncomfortable for too long it is better to end the reltionship.
She started to cry and then said that during that same evening she talked to the group and there was no problem at all for me to join.
is something strange there ? is it my confidence? am I trying to read into things? is she hiding something she does not want me to know?