Girlfriend Acting distant

[LuvLadies]

So I used to be a Below AFC. After finding this site (didnt do to much of the methods but just took in the ideas about improving my life). Went frm being a virgin to having a FB's. So this 1 girl I start talking to makes me think differently of her.

I cut off the other FB's and dated her exclusively, but avoided being in a relationship with her for about 5 or 6 months because I wasnt ready. The whole time she was all over me. So last month I make her my girlfriend. These past 2 weeks she's all distant with me. Its not the same. We still have pretty good sex. But she doesn't care if she sees me or not. When we would see each other we couldnt keep our hands off each other. Now if she comes to my place we might not kiss or even hug if I dont initiate it.

Is this because I am no longer a challenge? or becauses we are moving to a new stage in the relationship?

http://ezinearticles.com/?5-Stages-of-Committed-Relationships&id=528343

 

[KontrollerX]

She was in love with the challenge that came about as a result of you being distant.

Never being able to get what she wanted ie you as her boyfriend her daily excitement became doing the best she could to conquer you be it with wild sex, compliments and whatever else it took.

When you finally gave in and made her your girlfriend she won the game which officially deflated her desire for you.

With this I'm not suggesting that this girl knew all along that she was even playing a game but what I am saying is she probably didn't know why she was so strongly attracted to you and now that the why of it all has been removed with you making her your girlfriend finally the attraction is gone.

At this point you both want to get back into the swing of things and have a red hot relationship with eachother and the girl will try to hang on for a while hoping her attraction returns but not knowing what caused it in the first place she will eventually cut you loose feeling good that she tried all that she could to want to stay with you but her feelings are no longer there.

After a short speech conveying that you'll get the I'm so sorry routine before she moves along to fvck Bob the white trash plumber who consistently keeps her at arms length.

But KontrollerX how do I salvage this situation you might ask?

Well I'm not sure there is a 100% chance that you can but many of the DJ's here recommend in situations like this to do a pre-emptive breakup ie beat her to the punch as this usually has the effect of making the dumped woman want to repair her fractured ego and get back her worth by getting you to be her boyfriend again by any means necessary so she can either keep you or build you up and then she can be the one to dump you for ultimate revenge.

If you do this method never make her your girlfriend again no matter what.

Never let her win and even if she eventually bores from never being able to beat you by getting you back as her boyfriend you will of gotten a lot of hot sex before it ultimately crashes and burns again and if this method works with you never giving in that hot sex should be strung out over a greater length of time as in days, weeks, months than if you were to breakup and get back as her boyfriend right away if she begged for you to come back.

 

[Vega(Aus)]

She was in love with the challenge that came about as a result of you being distant.

Never being able to get what she wanted ie you as her boyfriend her daily excitement became doing the best she could to conquer you be it with wild sex, compliments and whatever else it took.

When you finally gave in and made her your girlfriend she won the game which officially deflated her desire for you.

With this I'm not suggesting that this girl knew all along that she was even playing a game but what I am saying is she probably didn't know why she was so strongly attracted to you and now that the why of it all has been removed with you making her your girlfriend finally the attraction is gone.

At this point you both want to get back into the swing of things and have a red hot relationship with eachother and the girl will try to hang on for a while hoping her attraction returns but not knowing what caused it in the first place she will eventually cut you loose feeling good that she tried all that she could to want to stay with you but her feelings are no longer there.

After a short speech conveying that you'll get the I'm so sorry routine before she moves along to fvck Bob the white trash plumber who consistently keeps her at arms length.

But KontrollerX how do I salvage this situation you might ask?

Well I'm not sure there is a 100% chance that you can but many of the DJ's here recommend in situations like this to do a pre-emptive breakup ie beat her to the punch as this usually has the effect of making the dumped woman want to repair her fractured ego and get back her worth by getting you to be her boyfriend again by any means necessary so she can either keep you or build you up and then she can be the one to dump you for ultimate revenge.

If you do this method never make her your girlfriend again no matter what.

Never let her win and even if she eventually bores from never being able to beat you by getting you back as her boyfriend you will of gotten a lot of hot sex before it ultimately crashes and burns again and if this method works with you never giving in that hot sex should be strung out over a greater length of time as in days, weeks, months than if you were to breakup and get back as her boyfriend right away if she begged for you to come back.

Right On. Kontroller has laid out the reality here.

 

[Answers]

Yeah the pre-emptive is the way to go before she does it!

 

[strong like bull]

yeah no ****...

the goal would be to find a girl who becomes MORE excited when becoming exclusive.

seems to be a strong possibility shes not the settlin' down type... maybe just in the mood to chase the guys who pretend to not like her. if thats the case... shes not worth being exclusive with. just enjoy no strings attached sex with her.

also look to the possibility that after becoming exclusive, you reverted back to your AFC ways. being an AFC instead of the hot stud you were when she first met ya, will cause her to lose interest. it shows a major drop in your value and girls, even nice ones, seek out the "best." not the chump... the power, whatever power is in her world, has to belong to the man. she will "respect" and be drawn to that power... at which point she submits to the man.

my current girlfriend was a virgin. shes a very down to earth, respectful, family oriented girl. until taking her virginity, i had never seen such a strong, first hand example of a girl operating in her nature to give herself to the man she loves. great stuff.

-SLB

 

[nismo-4]

You shoulda kept being a challenge which woulda kept the attraction going.

Your relationship is fading like Vanilla Ice's music career. You might get dumped unless you rebuild attraction...