Girl with boyfriend

[BULL3TPR00F]

Last night I was talking to a girl who I met at a bar and we hit it off. I asked for her number and she gave it to me, but told me she had a boyfriend. She said she only has been dating him for 3 months and was thinking of breaking up with him. We continued talking and she agreed to hang out with me the next night, but then I realized I already had plans and told her I couldn't. She let me touch her and stuff but she didn't let me kiss her. She said she is attracted to me and saw me as soon as I walked in. She joked to my friend and told him to take me away because she likes me but has a boyfriend. We texted today and I told her I'm glad she didnt let me kiss her because now I like her even more.

What should my next move be to win her over?

 

[Jules_Winfield]

First, stop text messaging things like that. You're not going to win her over through text messaging. The only thing you can do at this point is keep in touch, and try to set up a time to meet up. I hope she really is over the boyfriend or you won't see her again.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

We texted today and I told her I'm glad she didnt let me kiss her because now I like her even more.

What should my next move be to win her over?

Don't say stuff like what I bolded above.

Women like men who are a challenge. You met a girl and hung out with her once & now you are verbalizing all your interest so quickly. That's the quick path to her losing attraction for you.

Your next move should be to ask her to hang out again. Have a set time and place picked out and go from there.







PIMP

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

You're making a HUGE and very common mistake, and that is you're assuming that any attraction between you and her has to be rationally and logically discussed and agreed upon before you make any kind of move.

Like you think you need her "permission" before you do anything.

Don't talk about anything that happened. Don't talk about your feelings about what happened. Don't expect her to give you any overt green lights through her words.

Anything you SAY, or anything she SAYS is irrelevant.

Take actions, and see how she responds. If she responds favorably, do more.

If she responds less favorably, pull back and amp up the attraction.

To your question, how to "win" her over.

there's not a magic "statement" or series of actions that can be read on the Internet that will make anybody win anybody over.

Get together with her when it's convenient. Escalate based on how you READ the situation, not on what she says or doesn't say.

Keep escalating and getting more physical. Pull back occasionally (metaphorically) to ensure she chases you.

Once you've been physical for a while, and it's clear to you that she's into YOU more than you're into HER, then you've "won her over."

But don't think it's like some mental contract that she's signed and once you've "won her over" you don't have to put in any more effort.

It's not a question of "winning" her over, it's a question of "creating and MAINTAINING attraction."

 

[Skyy.]

Piggybacking on other posters,

You are in prime position my friend (as long as you go beta mode)

Her BF may not even be in the same city, DON'T YOU FVCKING ASK. Assume it.

What you need to do is get her on a date ASAP. Her guards and s|utiness are high right now because she is at a crossroad. I would put my money that she is seeing you as an upgrade. Hypergamy is a b!tch. I hope there is not another thread 'My GF met a guy who tried to kiss her.' Invite her out to a friendly setting such as coffee, happy hour, Chuck e cheese, etc. Make it playful and push the envelope. See how far you can get away with,

When she mentioned hanging out on the next day, you take advantage of that. Doesn't matter if it is a 10 minute date or a 2 hour date, TAKE ADVANTAGE of it. This is how you game 'committed' chicks, she will not be on cloud 9 forever. Get her on a date ASAP.

 

[Slickster]

Text her this:

"Stop thinking about me. You have a boyfriend!"

Let that hang out there for a while and see what you get back.

If its positive you are "in". Go for the kill.

If not you are wasting your time.

 

[Skyy.]

Text her this:

"Stop thinking about me. You have a boyfriend!"

Let that hang out there for a while and see what you get back.

If its positive you are "in". Go for the kill.

If not you are wasting your time.

Bringing up the boyfriend will only raise her defenses. Treat her as if she doesn't have one. If she does bring it up, shrug it off. More often than not, she is doing it behind her BF's back. On the off chance she told her boyfriend about you - Play it casual, but it's her relieving the guilt of things to cvm.