Girl with a boyfriend... looks like I'm in there, or am I?
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well first off, you've waited waaaay too long, and it's probably past the point where she should have viewed as her sexual confident savior thats going to save her from her boring boyfriend (or at least get some sex on the side). THREE MONTHS?? If you are going to act, you need to freaking do it.
If you decide to go through with it:
Make yourself more scarce around the bar for a bit to make up for the fact that you've been hanging around the bar basically just to make chit chat with this girl and not making a move on her. Pull her number when you do go in there. Start heating things up sexually via text and PUSH QUICKLY for a meetup outside the bar, where you can actually escalate physically. Again, it may be too late at this point.
ALso, be aware that if you somehow do get to bed with this chick, know that both you and her frequent this bar a lot, so if you intend to keep frequenting this place, understand that it's possible that this little tryst may cause drama.
And obviously, do NOT date this girl if she sleeps with you while dating him. If you want to bang her, fine but don't get attached. IF SHE DID IT TO HIM SHE CAN/WILL DO IT TO YOU. Don't put her on a pedestal.
The ONLY way you should think about anything long term with this girl is if she stops you before you guys hookup and actually breaks up with her BF to be with you. But that probably ain't gonna happen.
If you decide to go through with it:
Make yourself more scarce around the bar for a bit to make up for the fact that you've been hanging around the bar basically just to make chit chat with this girl and not making a move on her. Pull her number when you do go in there. Start heating things up sexually via text and PUSH QUICKLY for a meetup outside the bar, where you can actually escalate physically. Again, it may be too late at this point.
ALso, be aware that if you somehow do get to bed with this chick, know that both you and her frequent this bar a lot, so if you intend to keep frequenting this place, understand that it's possible that this little tryst may cause drama.
And obviously, do NOT date this girl if she sleeps with you while dating him. If you want to bang her, fine but don't get attached. IF SHE DID IT TO HIM SHE CAN/WILL DO IT TO YOU. Don't put her on a pedestal.
The ONLY way you should think about anything long term with this girl is if she stops you before you guys hookup and actually breaks up with her BF to be with you. But that probably ain't gonna happen.
Yeah 3 months, she had to go home for nearly 2 months because of some family problem. It's not like this is going on everyday for 3 months. I see her like once every 2 weeks, but when we see each other we're all over each other, we've seen each other like 5 or 6 times now. She's a person with an alternative view on things, from politics to life etc, and from what I pick up from her, she wants to find someone who understands her because she's different in her views etc. We share the same alternative views about life and both love philosophy. The impression I get is that she's definitely physically attracted to me, but that alone wouldn't be enough for this type of girl. However the fact we both have very niche views and niche interests that are pretty much the same, I get the feeling i'm the first person shes ever met who has the same views.... she's a bit too close to me given that at this stage i'm really nothing more than a stranger in the grand scheme of things.
Yeah I'm into this girl but I can take it or leave it. The reason why I haven't made a move is that she works for my mate and he's a bit funny about us lot hitting on his staff. Secondly, yeah she has a boyfriend, but she lives with this guy and she has a business with this guy so that's a bit different than just sleeping with some girl with a boyfriend. The games changes when people have a house together and a business, but I know the relationship is going right down the toilet at the moment.
The last girl I was with I was with her for 2 years. The night we met she had a boyfriend, we swapped numbers, texted away for a few weeks then she finished him and came round to mine and we got together. She was a different type of girl though to this one. That girl was super hot and knew she was super hot so moved quickly. This new girl, she's a sit and think about the universe and smoke a joint type of girl, so a different horse but on the same course.
So when things are bad at home for her with the boyfriend, she thinks i'm hot and I'm the first person who she feels remotely understands her, people are telling me she's asking about me etc, then when I saw her today she was finishing work just as I was leaving and asked me if I wanted to walk with her to the station and it was the first time we had chance to just be alone out of this bar. So as we got outside together, the sexual tension went through the roof and any guy who doesn't have a problem getting girls will know what I mean when it's obviously a two way thing that is happening and you're both sort of brushing against each other and getting turned on (you know what I mean, when you get the instant semi on when your 6th sense picks up on their 6th sense) .... it has me thinking... is something happening here? For me it was all just harmless flirting, but because she's 6 years younger than me I get the impression she's fallen for me but worried I'm not interested because of the age difference and because of potentially getting it on with her bosses mate.
I've got no problem closing a deal, just trying to work out if it's gonna be worth making a move on it.
Yeah I'm into this girl but I can take it or leave it. The reason why I haven't made a move is that she works for my mate and he's a bit funny about us lot hitting on his staff. Secondly, yeah she has a boyfriend, but she lives with this guy and she has a business with this guy so that's a bit different than just sleeping with some girl with a boyfriend. The games changes when people have a house together and a business, but I know the relationship is going right down the toilet at the moment.
The last girl I was with I was with her for 2 years. The night we met she had a boyfriend, we swapped numbers, texted away for a few weeks then she finished him and came round to mine and we got together. She was a different type of girl though to this one. That girl was super hot and knew she was super hot so moved quickly. This new girl, she's a sit and think about the universe and smoke a joint type of girl, so a different horse but on the same course.
So when things are bad at home for her with the boyfriend, she thinks i'm hot and I'm the first person who she feels remotely understands her, people are telling me she's asking about me etc, then when I saw her today she was finishing work just as I was leaving and asked me if I wanted to walk with her to the station and it was the first time we had chance to just be alone out of this bar. So as we got outside together, the sexual tension went through the roof and any guy who doesn't have a problem getting girls will know what I mean when it's obviously a two way thing that is happening and you're both sort of brushing against each other and getting turned on (you know what I mean, when you get the instant semi on when your 6th sense picks up on their 6th sense) .... it has me thinking... is something happening here? For me it was all just harmless flirting, but because she's 6 years younger than me I get the impression she's fallen for me but worried I'm not interested because of the age difference and because of potentially getting it on with her bosses mate.
I've got no problem closing a deal, just trying to work out if it's gonna be worth making a move on it.