Girl trying to make me jealous after i cancelled on her

[KillingTime]

Well I cancelled a date with a girl ive been seeing b/c I was tired and just flat out didn't feel like going out and she got all upset b/c later on i felt better and ended up helping some family members who were moving, so she was like I though you didn't feel good?!? blah blah blah why are you helping them...

Surprise surprise, today, this girl that rarely ever goes out is suddenly telling me about all these plans she has for the next few weeks.... it's SO obvious in her tone of voice that she's trying so hard to make me jealous b/c I didn't want to go out with her. Not to mention she's a total home-body and overnight magically has a million plans for the next couple of weeks...

What's the best way to react to this? I know she's going to be pulling this crap for the next few days until I "get all sad and tell her how bad I want to be with her or whatever".... aint happening! But If she wants to play games, I want to have a little fun... should I act happy that she's going out? Act like I don't care?
For example today she's rubbing in my face how she's going to dinner with her girlfriends (something she never does), for now i just ignored it and kept talking about other things like my dog, my car etc.... she seemed to be getting pretty pissed.

 

[Don John NJ]

Personally I would act like I didnt care at all or just come out with a C&F line like.:

"aww thats cute you're trying to make me jealous.."

 

[Juan_Man]

I feel sorry for her. I would just pretend to be jealous to make her feel better.

 

[KillingTime]

LOL oh man, like minutes after I made this thread one of her lies already fell apart... turns out she's not going to dinner with her friends, she's having dinner at home with her family and one of her friends is stopping by.... should of heard her stumbling around for words "well uhh.. no we did have plans but uhh.. the family asked blah blah blah"... yea yea loser, i know you were trying to make me jealous

geez this girl is the worst liar i have ever met (i guess thats a good thing though), she's so bad at it it almost makes me want to give in and act really jealous ...
she was also being all sweet now too and telling me that she'll be thinking of me the whole time... the little trooper's previous strategy backfired I guess

 

[PRMoon]

I think this is a good situation for you. By cancelling the date it show's that you're on your own time and definatly not going out because you didn't feel like it then doing something with your family because you felt up to it, you've actually made a good power move. Her being childish and making up some BS stories about how busy she was going to be for the next week or so was her attempt to regain some of the power you claimed and she obviously folded when she couldn't form up to her bluff.

You're in a good position, just remember to take the high road and only poke enough fun at her to loosen her up a bit. If you can get her laughing and more comfortable with you after you've got some power, you'll do well in whatever future relationship you'll have with this person.

 

[Yapper]

i'd just be quietly amused but not really acknowledge it. don't come out with a c+f line like don john suggests. that's just dumb.

 

[Cremasta]

Good and Bad here...

Good - If she did all this after you cancelling just one date, then you've got her wrapped around your little finger... just keep doing what you're doing because it's working.

Bad - She's got the mentality of a ten year old, don't think this will stop simply because you put her in her place once.

 

[Thomas94305]

For crying out loud.. her going to dinner with her female friends is a GREAT thing. There's nothing here for you to be jealous or anything about. If I'm seeing someone, I encourage her to have friends. Being a DJ does not mean making sure your gal has no friends. Whether you're just friends or a bf, you should be there as a friend/bf for her. The issue to confront is dealing with any disrespect, not handing her your balls; that's really not the case here.

C&F is there for playing or for dealing with her tests. That's really not in play here. She sounds like she just wants some attention, a fair thing. Don't do anything here, be cool. Either she gets together with friends, which is great, or she doesn't, which shouldn't be a big problem to you. In any event, I think the both of you should certainly have friends outside of each other.

 

[Don John NJ]

re.

C&F is there for playing or for dealing with her tests. That's really not in play here. She sounds like she just wants some attention, a fair thing. Don't do anything here, be cool. Either she gets together with friends, which is great, or she doesn't, which shouldn't be a big problem to you. In any event, I think the both of you should certainly have friends outside of each other.

I am actually going to flop on what I said before and agree with you. Good point.

I cant stand when people get into a relationship and ditch their friends. They are obviously weak characters to do something so drastic.

 

[2Cool]

Not much bad here. You're showing that you will take time for yourself and help others, particularly family. Also, she was upset with your taking time away from her, showing a high level of interest in you, all good.

Tell her while she's making all these plans to make some plans for the two of you. Remember, to tell not ask. Once you put out the work, she should go out and accomplish the task. What did you do, nothing.

In the end, you get the girl, she get's your time and attention, she shows respect by following through on getting the activities together like instructed. Then reward her later on with hugs, kisses, you know the rest for doing a good job of getting the two of you together.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Personally I would act like I didnt care at all or just come out with a C&F line like.:

"aww thats cute you're trying to make me jealous.."

Bad advice. If you mention anything about jealousy, even in a sarcastic, playful tone, then she'll know her little side-plot is getting to you.


KillingTime: What's your interest level in this girl?? If your cancelling on her, it kinda says "I'm not that interested." If you still like her and want to go on more dates, act unphased. When she tells you about plans to go to dinner with her gf's or some other activity, tell her to have fun and let loose. This will completely throw her off, because she's expecting you to ge jealous and whine for her attention back. If you don't, she'll be more into you and eventually crumble.

On the other hand if you don't really like her all that much, then why are you still talking to her?? Don't waste time string girls along that you have low, low interest in, doesn't do much for you and it only makes them bitter





PIMP

 

[2Cool]

Hmmm, you have a point. If you use my approach, which I have successfully, think about the tone. I was never sarcastic or playful when I did this as I remember now. I was pretty straightforward. Of course I didn't have a similar situation.

Your choice.

 

[Don John NJ]

Bad advice. If you mention anything about jealousy, even in a sarcastic, playful tone, then she'll know her little side-plot is getting to you.

PIMP

I can see you're point, but IMO it does not necessarily convey that she is getting to you because you called her out on trying to make you jealous. It really depends on the situation and you're tone.