Girl that smiled at me....

[Guitar_Whizz]

Hello fellow DJs. This site has been an inspiration to me and I've totally changed my attitude to life and towards girls for the better over the past 18 months or so. I am now working on answering my own questions rather than relying on this site, but I would appreciate your opinions on a situation.

A few months ago I was walking in town and I got eye contact with a really cute red haired girl. The next day I happened to see her again and she gave me the BIGGEST smile I've ever seen from a chick, and of course I smiled back. Since then I've seen her a few more times and she kept giving me the same smile.

However, I still haven't made a move on her yet, I haven't even talked to her. This is because every time I see her it is when I'm not expecting it and I often miss my chance. Sometimes she is with her dad or friends which only makes it harder to approach.

I do not want to get oneitis but I would like to give this a chance.

Basically I need opinions on:-

1) Her interest in me.....is it likely to have increased or decreased because of my hesitation/missed chances?
2) If I approach next time I see her, will it look odd that I've 'suddenly' decided to approach now after missing the times before?
3) What would YOU do in this situation, and any other thoughts you have.

I DO have my own answers to this situation, but I am interested in some views from other DJs that's all.

 

[Chemistry]

Some girls are just friendly like that... I had an instance only last week when I walked past this girl just checked her because she was lookin good, and she smiled and gave me a "Hi" as she walked past...

Later that day I bumped into her again and we really hit it off, I created great rapport with her, none of this "Hi, I'm...", "What's your name?"... I just treated her like I'd known her for some time, and in the end as we parted ways she ended up poppin the "So, what's your name" question... she has a 22 yr old boyfriend as things stand, but I'll be seein' her a whole lot over the next year as we will be workin' in the same buildin' on the weekends... but yeah, on the surface that could have easily appeared like it was all signs coulda been on go, but as it happened she had a boyfriend... there may well be interest there, but it will take a while to bring it to fruition in the most rewarding way...

Next time you see this girl take it upon yourself to act... you had two brief encounters fine, so next time step up to the plate with your confidence and do your thing, build that rapport to the point she wants your name, then if you're not sure about seein' her again then nail that number...

The only odd thing on the next time round will be in your mind... thinkin at the back of your mind that "Does she think I'm not too confident cos I'm only just approachin' her now"... don't even mention it, like you pass beautiful girls in the street all the time who give you that smile, and just talk to her as I did with my scenario above, like you've known her for sometime

As for what I'd do... the previous two paragraphs tell all...

 

[chlywly]

Shutup, walk up to her and say hello.

 

[nistelrooy]

You sure she wasn't smiling at the handsome guy walking behind you?



Well to answer your questions:

1) Neither i guess. I mean you haven't done much except trade smiles. But the continued contact will keep you in her mind.

2) well, if looks "odd" what are you gonna do? Not approach her? If thats the case, then it doesn't matter how it looks, you'll lose out anyway.

3) The usual answer: "Yes, i have nothing to lose, why not??" Everybody else will say it, and it is true of course, but executing it is another matter.

Good luck. Talk to her. Apply all that you have learned here. And tell us what happens.

 

[Guitar_Whizz]

Ok thanks guys, I'm definitely gonna talk to her next time I see her.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

yeah, man definately! Just walk up to her and start a quick introduction and quick conversation about the day or something and leave...and then the next time you see her she would have already known you a little bit and so you have a quick conversation and then close with asking for her number.. and there its that simple.

good luck