Ok so I've been talking with this girl for two weeks and she straight up told me that she won't do anything besides kissing and that she's waiting till marriage to have sex. She is a "good church girl" type, and so far all we've really been doing is cuddling so I'm wondering if its even worth it anymore. I haven't really tried to push anything too sexual, but should I try to make a bigger move or just move on?
Girl says she won't do anything sexual except kissing?
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A woman after my own heart. I like her already.
Basically, if you're looking for sex, move on. It's ok for a girl to want to wait. It's ok for a guy to NOT want to wait. It's not ok for them to stay together if that's something they cannot compromise on.
If you're looking for a relationship, be advised that if she's serious about what she's saying, clothes are going to stay on for a long time. She might move farther at some point, but likely, since this is religion based, she probably won't.
Don't get into the relationship with the intention of thinking you just need to do the right things to get into her pants. That's manipulative and misleading.
Get to know her a little better, figure out whether or not you're compatible on a deeper level, and go from there. If you find that all you really want is the physical aspect, then move on. There are girls out there that want to wait "until they really love the guy" and not necessarily until marriage.
Basically, if you're looking for sex, move on. It's ok for a girl to want to wait. It's ok for a guy to NOT want to wait. It's not ok for them to stay together if that's something they cannot compromise on.
If you're looking for a relationship, be advised that if she's serious about what she's saying, clothes are going to stay on for a long time. She might move farther at some point, but likely, since this is religion based, she probably won't.
Don't get into the relationship with the intention of thinking you just need to do the right things to get into her pants. That's manipulative and misleading.
Get to know her a little better, figure out whether or not you're compatible on a deeper level, and go from there. If you find that all you really want is the physical aspect, then move on. There are girls out there that want to wait "until they really love the guy" and not necessarily until marriage.
taiyuu_otoko
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Yes. Forget about what girls say, and pay attention to what they do.Fighter95 said:
Just say, "yea, uh huh," to whatever she says, and slowly escalate. Don't push to hard, just ease her into it.
But unless it's three strikes and you're out, you ain't out. Keep trying.
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If Ryan Gosling talked to this girl she'd have sex with him within 5 hours.
Make her desire you. What are you after anyway? Even then, the relationship doesn't commence until sex has happened and the man commits. Otherwise, that's the friendzone.
Case closed. Now take action.
Make her desire you. What are you after anyway? Even then, the relationship doesn't commence until sex has happened and the man commits. Otherwise, that's the friendzone.
Case closed. Now take action.
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You are not on the same page. So why would you stay? Why adapt to HER desires? She isn't adapting to fit yours. Right?
I would tell her straight that she is on a different page and waiting for marriage is 100% out of the question for me.
This is why spinning plates is some important. When you spin plates, issues like this easily fix themselves as boring ass b!tches like her fade into the background and eventually become an afterthought.
Any girl "waiting for marriage" in 2013 is mostly likely a borderline A-sexual with a lower than average or non-existent sex drive. She might also be a closet lezbo.
I would tell her straight that she is on a different page and waiting for marriage is 100% out of the question for me.
This is why spinning plates is some important. When you spin plates, issues like this easily fix themselves as boring ass b!tches like her fade into the background and eventually become an afterthought.
Any girl "waiting for marriage" in 2013 is mostly likely a borderline A-sexual with a lower than average or non-existent sex drive. She might also be a closet lezbo.
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Depends I think on how old they are. If they're pretty young, then it's more normal to want to hold on to their virginity. If they're older though, it could be a sign that something else is going on. My ex was the exact same way, hold onto it until marriage, religious. But she also just turned 30, and unfortunately there was alot of other stuff that I actually didn't see about her until later (and more importantly, how she used others for what they could do for her) Not full blown use, but use like a child. Judgemental. No sense of empathy either with her, such as getting her 75 year old dad to do wallpainting and moving for her. Just my example though. Also was semi-abusive towards animals.
My advice, look very carefully at how she interacts with others. At all times. And don't expect anything really sexual. We did some stuff, and then I pushed it too far, I guess.
Actually PlayHer Man, that's exactly what my mom thinks my ex is as well (closet lezbo). Could be right.
My advice, look very carefully at how she interacts with others. At all times. And don't expect anything really sexual. We did some stuff, and then I pushed it too far, I guess.
Actually PlayHer Man, that's exactly what my mom thinks my ex is as well (closet lezbo). Could be right.
ARrocket
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My (now) girlfriend told me she was "waiting until marriage" as well. Turns out, she was just nervous and didn't want to feel like a slvt.
Great advice in this thread. It all depends on what YOU want. If you really like her, and are willing to wait it out a bit and see what you can get away with, then go for it. Keep escalating. And yes, spinning plates sounds pretty important here.
Great advice in this thread. It all depends on what YOU want. If you really like her, and are willing to wait it out a bit and see what you can get away with, then go for it. Keep escalating. And yes, spinning plates sounds pretty important here.
I would wait, infact I waited over a year before my wife and I had sex. We did everything else under the sun of course but I let her lead when it came to a point when she was ready. She seems to have her head on her shoulders and a good self esteem to be able to control herself like that. I bet you she's a keeper in the long run .. If you really love her you would resepect her as such. If your just lookin to blow your load go jack it or find a slut and let someone with a softer heart have her.
I reccomend just being a really close intimate friend and escelate to everything but intercourse. You have hands... Fingers.. Tongue.. ****, you can grind when you make out but let her tell you what she wants. When she's ready.. (Its only been 2 Weeks so no wonder she said that and its likely a **** test).
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I reccomend just being a really close intimate friend and escelate to everything but intercourse. You have hands... Fingers.. Tongue.. ****, you can grind when you make out but let her tell you what she wants. When she's ready.. (Its only been 2 Weeks so no wonder she said that and its likely a **** test).
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You should put your age on your profile, it will help out with the advice that's given to you, unless you're a troll of course, then it doesn't really matter.Fighter95 said:
In general, I feel the advice given on this forum has been pretty good. As someone else said: what she says isn't always what she means.
Either way, hopefully she understands you are still a man and you have needs....as in a penis and a set of balls. If she's not taking care of those in one way or another then I'd show myself the exit. A selfish woman is not someone you want to wait around for.
devilkingx2
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I think you should rate how much effort you're willing to put into this relationship out of 3
if 1, then you don't really care and should just drop it because you probably won't want to put in the effort
if 2, then keep her as a plate and don't commit until you get atleast to 3rd base(a BJ or something)
if 3, that's when you should actually make an attempt
treat it like its back in high school, where instead of getting laid within the first 5 dates like when you're an adult(unless you're an AFC) you need to wait weeks or months to get any and slowly inch your way through the bases as you push for home
don't get discouraged based on the religion she might not be strong with her beliefs, or might become weaker with them or might decide to be a technical virgin(anything and everything except the pvssy)
if you're willing to put that much effort into this girl, then you know what to do
I'd reccomend either keeping her as a plate or dropping her entirely though
if 1, then you don't really care and should just drop it because you probably won't want to put in the effort
if 2, then keep her as a plate and don't commit until you get atleast to 3rd base(a BJ or something)
if 3, that's when you should actually make an attempt
treat it like its back in high school, where instead of getting laid within the first 5 dates like when you're an adult(unless you're an AFC) you need to wait weeks or months to get any and slowly inch your way through the bases as you push for home
don't get discouraged based on the religion she might not be strong with her beliefs, or might become weaker with them or might decide to be a technical virgin(anything and everything except the pvssy)
if you're willing to put that much effort into this girl, then you know what to do
I'd reccomend either keeping her as a plate or dropping her entirely though
VladPatton
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Q: Girl says she won't do anything sexual except kissing.
A: Boy won't progress and drops girl like a hot potato.
A: Boy won't progress and drops girl like a hot potato.