Girl said I was "not responsive"

[teddy]

Went out on a couple dates with a chick. From the start, getting her out was like pulling teeth. She'd literally take a day to respond to my texts (whether she was playing games or otherwise) and on the morning of our third date, canceled.

She showed enough interest, including trying a couple times to set something up after she canceled on me, but obviously not enough where I invested in her. I kept her on the back burner thereafter. At that point, whether she was playing games or not, it was exhausting trying to find a day that worked for both of our schedules.

So a couple months went by after that canceled date and I just heard from a mutual friend. This friend asked me if things fizzled out between us. I told the friend that I don't know, I hadn't heard from her in a while. And the friend said this chick felt I was "not being responsive" enough.

Huh? I was the one who initiated dates and she was the one who would wait a day before responding.

Is this just some kind of girl logic? I.e., she doesn't like me enough so she's just rationalizing it's my problem. For some reason, this is bothering me.

 

[teddy]

She wants you to chase, making her the prize and you disappointed her.....

Continue to disappoint her. She has your number...never initiate contact again.

Yeah, it seems like she wants to be chased. And some people say, well chase her then. But that would always mean she'd have the upper hand, I think, and look to monkey branch eventually.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Sigmund Freud would tell you that she is projecting as a defense mechanism to help keep her superego intact. Because you are no longer initiating with her since she never really cared for anything you did, she has to project onto you that you are not being responsive enough. In the end though, she still wants you, but not in the way you want her. She wants you as an orbiter.

 

[yungballa]

Yeah bro, she's just tryna use you to validate herself. And I didn't even read the full post. A couple lines in and I already knew wassup.

You say it was hard as sh1t to get her out, and she didnt show nearly as much interest as you did, then you backed off. And she went ahead and said you weren't responsive enough.

To me that just reads as a girl who wants her ego boosted. She's willing to make sure you give her attention so she can feel good about herself, but she's doesn't wanna get to the point where she actually wants to go onto the next level with you. Just wants you around for the self validation.

 

[Vivacity]

Is this just some kind of girl logic? I.e., she doesn't like me enough so she's just rationalizing it's my problem. For some reason, this is bothering me.

Below is an old thread on women. You should read through it.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....women-pathological-liars-manipulators.153240/

And the friend said this chick felt I was "not being responsive" enough.

Huh? I was the one who initiated dates and she was the one who would wait a day before responding.

Of course, she is not going to say to your mutual friend "hey, he always initiated texts, I played hard to get all the time before I eventually stopped replying. When I stopped replying, he took a hint and stopped sending any more texts." This will amount to taking blame upon herself. If you read through the above thread, most women will not take the blame upon themselves and are good manipulators. Therefore, she twisted the facts and told a made-up story to your mutual friend as if the fault is yours.

On a personal note, I commend you for acting like a man and stop texting and pursuing this chick. Two no responses, say bye bye to chicks. Every man should follow this.

 

[Bingo-Player]

She wants you to chase, making her the prize and you disappointed her.....

Continue to disappoint her. She has your number...never initiate contact again.

this

I've recently been dealing with a chick exactly like this one ........in the build up to the first date she was "normal" I.E initiating contact, very responsive , inputting well to the conversation .......

when we finally meet for the first time , I get the impression she thinks she's a lot better looking than she actually is but the date goes well and there's plenty of physical contact if anything the day dragged on a little too long but this wasn't my fault she was the one who kept suggesting new activities

when it ended I assumed she would have been hooked , apart from she wasn't she didn't even bother to say thanks for the day out ...... which was a massive turn off for me and I left it as a lesson learnt

she still in contact with me and I've been humoring her but I think we both know there's nothing in it

if we meet again it will be for sex and that's it

as for the not responsive thing - that is just woman talk for not understanding you

 

[teddy]

Bingo-player:

Sounds just like my chick. Probably a 6 at best, but I have a feeling she thinks she's two points above that. And, like you, I thought she'd be hooked at the end of our first date, which also went a little longer than it probably should have (but that's because she kept suggesting things).

In which case, she is delusional. Which is strange for a late 20s chick to act like, since she's about to hit the wall soon.[

 

[marmel75]

Bingo-player:

Sounds just like my chick. Probably a 6 at best, but I have a feeling she thinks she's two points above that. And, like you, I thought she'd be hooked at the end of our first date, which also went a little longer than it probably should have (but that's because she kept suggesting things).

In which case, she is delusional. Which is strange for a late 20s chick to act like, since she's about to hit the wall soon.[

Did you fvck her?

 

[teddy]

Did you fvck her?

Nope, that was part of the problem. Every time I saw her was like I was starting over again due to the few week gap in between and I'm not experienced/talented enough yet to pull something like that off when this happens.

 

[JohnChops]

Nope, that was part of the problem. Every time I saw her was like I was starting over again due to the few week gap in between and I'm not experienced/talented enough yet to pull something like that off when this happens.

she had low IL from the start. Just toss her number, who cares.

 

[dude99]

Went out on a couple dates with a chick. From the start, getting her out was like pulling teeth. She'd literally take a day to respond to my texts (whether she was playing games or otherwise) and on the morning of our third date, canceled.

She showed enough interest, including trying a couple times to set something up after she canceled on me, but obviously not enough where I invested in her. I kept her on the back burner thereafter. At that point, whether she was playing games or not, it was exhausting trying to find a day that worked for both of our schedules.

So a couple months went by after that canceled date and I just heard from a mutual friend. This friend asked me if things fizzled out between us. I told the friend that I don't know, I hadn't heard from her in a while. And the friend said this chick felt I was "not being responsive" enough.

Huh? I was the one who initiated dates and she was the one who would wait a day before responding.

Is this just some kind of girl logic? I.e., she doesn't like me enough so she's just rationalizing it's my problem. For some reason, this is bothering me.

It was ******** for "he didn't chase me and blow up my phone and be a pain in the ass like every other guy i am used to." Aka you went no contact with her and she is looking to shift the blame onto you.

 

[Poon King]

As others have said.. she wanted to be chased. This is because she is insecure from past sport f*cking and wants to make sure she has the upper hand.

This is grounds for a NEXT if this woman is truly frustrating you. However, if you are indifferent emotionally (as you should be) its very easy to play women like that with flirtatious language to boost her ego. She will then f*ck you if their is attraction.

About a month ago I f*cked a girl two weeks after she friendzoned me. Right after she said she wanted to be friends I stopped talking to her and shifted focus to my other plates. Then two weeks later, I contacted her to meet me at a happy hour since she was the hottest woman I knew at the time and was good arm candy for that particular occasion. She agreed and we ended up f*cking that night. I completely ignored the "friendzoning" and just went for sex that night because that is what I wanted. Women have a hard time seeing you as a friend when you refuse to act like one. She later told me she was turned on by my dominance and "passion".

 

[RangerMIke]

With most women they always say it's the man's fault.

If she dates a man for years and he won't ask her to marry him.... even though all that time he never hides the fact that he doesn't want to marry... and the relationship ends... it's his fault because he won't commit. It's not "I wasted my time hitting my head against a brick wall". As an example.

In this case she has low interest... but it's got to be YOUR fault she has low interest.

When she says stuff like "he didn't try hard enough." She really means that. But if you had chased her... you would have been a stalker... and that is the reason... the real reason is Low Interest.

Never pay any attention to what a woman says... only what she does. If she's not reaching out to you she has LOW interest in you.... period.

When she reaches out try to make a date... if she still won't go out... she just wants to hold you in backup... do not go along with that. Just thank her and tell her to stay in touch... but you NEVER reach out to her. She has to know you are not interested in being a "friend" who is going to stroke her ego.

 

[Trump]

So a couple months went by after that canceled date and I just heard from a mutual friend. This friend asked me if things fizzled out between us. I told the friend that I don't know, I hadn't heard from her in a while. And the friend said this chick felt I was "not being responsive" enough.

Huh? I was the one who initiated dates and she was the one who would wait a day before responding.

Is this just some kind of girl logic? I.e., she doesn't like me enough so she's just rationalizing it's my problem. For some reason, this is bothering me.

1. Why are you talking with a friend about a girl who want to sleep with? Keep all relationships to yourself.
2. Don't trust what your friend says. You don't know what's the truth.
3. Yes she is rationalizing because she doesn't like you enough. She is picking one thing out of 100 as an excuse not to go out with you, to make herself look good and you look like you dont care/are gay/don't know what you are doing/rather be alone/etc.

Stop using logic with these girls. You know how fast a girl would respond if you were at an important gathering and wanted her to join you? She would forget EVERYTHING and be by your side.

 

[El Payaso]

What did you expect her to say to her friend? That she was a time wasting b!tch who just wanted to string you along?

Of course not. You have to remember that women have superpowers and one of them is the power of rationalization. It doesn't matter what happened. As long as her hamster can spin it in a certain way, you will be the bad guy.

That's why you pay little attention to what women say because 99.9% of what they say is crap.