Girl playing hard to get

[donkeydnog29]

So, there is attraction between this girl and I. Escalated physically. We held hands on the last date. After our last date. I texted 3 days later. No answer. Next day, texted again. Nothing. Texted a week later. Nothing. I'm thinking of not texting at all until she gets back to me. I haven't lost my cool or made her notice it. Any ideas from savvy guys?

 

[doctorj]

this is a lost cause, move on...as nismo would say, you're princess is in another castle

 

[Purefilth]

regardless of another castle - this girl is rude and I would not WANT to talk to her if she ignored me. Let alone TWICE.

Completely disrespectful, and you still want to chase her! No wonder these girls get their false sense of entitlement when even the shiittiest behaviour like this is rewarded with attention and being chased after because boys are so desperate.

Go pick up some other chicks.

 

[Kailex]

It escalated physically. We held hands on the last date.

That's it? Was that the extent of your physicality? What else happened on this date... which Date Number was this?

These are important things you've left out.

Obviously, she's not interested, which is why she's not responding to you. I'd just give up... and instead of thinking about her, I'd be posting in here a little more about the situation so you can analyze what you did that turned her off... so you don't have any repeat performances in the future with the next chick?

 

[nismo-4]

It escalated physically. We held hands on the last date.

That's it? Was that the extent of your physicality? What else happened on this date... which Date Number was this?

These are important things you've left out.

Obviously, she's not interested, which is why she's not responding to you. I'd just give up... and instead of thinking about her, I'd be posting in here a little more about the situation so you can analyze what you did that turned her off... so you don't have any repeat performances in the future with the next chick?

Regardless and beyond a reasonable doubt Kailex, his pri-damn! doctorj beat me to the punch. When a woman plays hard to get, she's not interested.

Case closed. Call the next case.

 

[VladPatton]

Disrespect is worse than her just not liking you. She is showing a certain disdain for you by not even acknowledging your texts, or that you're alive. We've all been there with these bratty-type chicks.

Delete her number and move on.

 

[PlayHer Man]

This is why you spin plates. This biaatch would of been a distant memory by now. Only the women who fight for my attention keep it. I forget most of the girls I close because they bore me to death or ignore my calls/texts.

I follow a 1.5 strikes and you're out Texting policy: I send ONE real text. If she ignores it, I follow up in a day or two with a question mark to bump my original text up.. like:

"?"

If she ignores that.. she gets deleted / forgotten. :yawn:

 

[donkeydnog29]

@Kailex Actually I held her hands and got more physical, hugs, grabbed her shoulders. This happened on the 4th date. I made my intentions clear. 4 days later I texted her the "I'mpregnant withyour child" stuff 'cause she has a sense of humor. And the other two texts were just "how are you" stuff.

@nismo-4 Isn't it the other way around, nismo-4? When she plays hard to get is because she is interested?

@PlayHer Man I already texted her 3 times.

 

[like2jam]

I wouldn't classify this as 'hard to get'. She's playing 'not gonna get'.

Don't follow up messages that haven't been responded to with more messages.

 

[donkeydnog29]

I wouldn't classify this has 'hard to get'. She's playing 'not gonna get'.

Hmm.. Can you provide explanation for that?

 

[pinkfl]

Personally, I hate texting.
Stop texting her. Call the girl on the phone instead.

I say this because believe it or not, sometimes texts ACTUALLY don't go through. My boyfriend will send me a text, and I don't always get it, and when I send him a text, he doesn't always get it. Then one day my phone beeps like crazy and suddenly a backlog of messages appear. Texts are the least reliable way to communicate with someone, and a terrible way of holding a conversation.

You left out a few things:
1. Does she normally respond to texts?
2. How did she communicate before?

 

[Sandow]

DJ Bible my friend. You have a lot of catching up to do.

 

[Sandow]

Personally, I hate texting.
Stop texting her. Call the girl on the phone instead.

I say this because believe it or not, sometimes texts ACTUALLY don't go through. My boyfriend will send me a text, and I don't always get it, and when I send him a text, he doesn't always get it. Then one day my phone beeps like crazy and suddenly a backlog of messages appear. Texts are the least reliable way to communicate with someone, and a terrible way of holding a conversation.

You left out a few things:
1. Does she normally respond to texts?
2. How did she communicate before?

Not true, and don't take advice from her, trust me. Even if she didn't receive your texts, she would have reached out to you by now if she was interested.

 

[TheGambino]

Im getting more and more immune to flakey girls, u should too move on dont bother messaging her again, theres nothing left for you then no contact the more u message or call from know on makes the chance only less that she'll hit u up. spin plates find more chicks move on forget about her

 

[sacgrad]

@Kailex Actually I held her hands and got more physical, hugs, grabbed her shoulders. This happened on the 4th date. I made my intentions clear. 4 days later I texted her the "I'mpregnant withyour child" stuff 'cause she has a sense of humor. And the other two texts were just "how are you" stuff.


I think the steam may have fizzled out. I think what you did was date 1 stuff.. or worst case, date 2. Next time, make your move sooner.

I had this girl (orthodox jewish family) hence did not make a move on date 2 to kiss her and make out - BIG mistake... over dinner at the end of date 2 - she says "are you conservative etc".. Im glad she gave me the message of "fvuk me or I will walk"

 

[sacgrad]

@Kailex Actually I held her hands and got more physical, hugs, grabbed her shoulders. This happened on the 4th date. I made my intentions clear. 4 days later I texted her the "I'mpregnant withyour child" stuff 'cause she has a sense of humor. And the other two texts were just "how are you" stuff.



I think the steam may have fizzled out. I think what you did was date 1 stuff.. or worst case, date 2. Next time, make your move sooner.

I had this girl (orthodox jewish family) hence did not make a move on date 2 to kiss her and make out - BIG mistake... over dinner at the end of date 2 - she says "are you conservative etc".. Im glad she gave me the message of "fvuk me or I will walk"

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I say this because believe it or not, sometimes texts ACTUALLY don't go through.

I've actually had this happen to me, they'll say they sent me one, I'll call them out on it then they'll show me on their phone when I see them. Sometimes with pictures as well, I'll get them two days after they're sent.

It happens, but I'd say 1% of the time, if that. I've also been in a text conversation and had my phone shut off which, for some reason, ended up deleting a portion of the text history. Other times I've read a text at night, and had by all means planned to respond the next day, but got distracted and forgot about it.

I'm not saying this is the deal in your case but I wouldn't jump to conclusions when it comes to texts. Especially if they're a plate or someone you just met. Any girl who's worth anything usually has some type of life going on or a few other potential suitors. Don't always expect to be her #1 after just meeting her. Sometimes it takes a little while.

 

[Alvafe]

thing is he had any number on her list she would contact him by now, even if all that the msg didn't go through, in anycase finding more girls to go on is not a bad thing for him to do, and OP more details next time ok? and try to kiss close on date....

 

[Pimp-sicle]

When a woman plays hard to get, she's not interested.

This is not true entirely.

But in this case its very clear she's not interested and the OP is misinterpreting it as hard to get because his own interest is blinding him to the reality of the situation.

OP: touching her on the shoulder and holding hands is not physically escalating.

And never hold a girl's hand b4 you fuvk her. Sex first, signs of affection second.








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[Peaks&Valleys]

This is not true entirely.

But in this case its very clear she's not interested and the OP is misinterpreting it as hard to get because his own interest is blinding him to the reality of the situation.

OP: touching her on the shoulder and holding hands is not physically escalating.

And never hold a girl's hand b4 you fuvk her. Sex first, signs of affection second.

repped +1

There's a difference between playing hard to get and being hard to get.

Some girls who actually do like you will put on a front because they've been hurt in the past and they see you as someone who could bring back that pain. Others will feign dis-interest because they have some game themselves.....this happens a lot actually, they know how it works. The actual hard to get ones will have other priorities in their lives: work, other relationships, possible LTR. And at the moment you'll be #2 or 3 or 4 or 10.

But in this case, I agree, three texts over a week span is a bit much, she should have gotten back to you by now. Next or just put this one on the back burner.