Girl playing games... need some DJ advice!

[William Wallace]

After breaking up a 3+ year LTR in September, I hit a pretty big slump and probably haven't spoke to a girl in a few months ... anyways, somehow I surprised myself and went on a date with a really cute girl from school... must be the sunny weather giving me a bit of my mojo back, heh..

Anyways, we went to a drive in theater and saw "How to Tame Your Dragon" which was a pretty good date movie. We were pretty flirty all night... tickling, playing with hair, etc.

Sometime during the date she asked me for my last name, and I was like "why so you can stalk me" and just teasing her about it (no big deal). She was pretty persistent and said that she'll delete me from her phone list if I don't tell her - she's kind of obsessive and needs last names for all her contacts ... I was like "well you probably memorized my number anyways" (and more teasing). She even reached into my pants and tried to grab my wallet, hah...

so here's the text exchange that followed the next day:

me: Hey Toothless I had a fun night, don't forget to save this number (Toothless is a reference to the Dragon character in the movie we saw)
hb: I had fun yesterday too, thanks! Mmm your # isn't getting saved till I get your last name
me: So OCD =p
hb: Just a little =)
me: I'm kinda like one of those 1-name celebrities...
hb: Who is this again? Sorry you're not on my phone book.
me: Quit playing games, it's Jason (her first name) ... are you on campus?
hb: It isn't until I see your drivers licence =) nope my classes don't start till Thursday

I know my last name isn't actually that important and she's just playing some game now, but what would DJ do now?

Thanks in advance y'all...

 

[Kailex]

Don't give in and give her your last name. As soon as you give in, she'll roll all over you on everything.

If a woman is going to be stupid enough to hinge a future dating relationship based on a simple last name... you are better off without her.

You don't need these games in your life. She can find out your last name after you've banged her... MAYBE.

 

[jonwon]

Give her your last name.

Seriously I understand what your doing, it's good at first to keep up the mystery, but when a girl keeps pressuring you, to simply keep up the facade, becomes a tedious bore.

Your becoming a bore, instead of focusing on the technique you've dragged it out and probably killed it, what your left with is her curiosity is now more or less been turned into something that resembles her thinking you have some hang ups about your name.

You play the teasing game until she pressures you, that proves she is invested! That is where you want her, what you dont want to do is keep up the sherade till she starts wondering wtf is wrong with you.

For example if a girl ask's what job you do, you make up some BS - David D for example tells you to say AS* model - but what you do after is when she laugh's this off and persuits, you milk it for a bit, but eventually you tell her - Anything else makes you out to be a person with issues or someone who is ashamed of something.

It wouldn't suprise me, if you gave her your name and she doesn't respond with "Hey that's not a bad name why the issue"? And thats the point, you dont drag it out to be an issue, you use it for playful teasing banter.

After this line would have been a perfect opportunity to drop your last name in "I was like "well you probably memorized my number anyways".

When she next ask's it, prepare some witty come back and give her your last name. You need to establish comfort, part of that is sharing life experiances and all that other fluff shi* - get past the attraction stage and move to the comfort stage, otherwise she may get bored - keep up the ****y, fun attitude, play on it if you must but give her something to work with or she will get bored.

Also her interest level in you is high - You have her in a good place, dont screw it up by over thinking and over rationilizing everything.

The driving licence thing also is more or less a ploy, (if she already doesn't know) to get out of you if you drive - she is showing you she is interested and is now looking for some added bonus, but that is an addition.

Strike whilst the iron is hot and take her out again.

Something like - "I'll tell you my last name, over a drink, you free tonight"

Seriously ignore the rest of the keep her guessing nonesense, it will backfire - I've been round the block more than most - This is poor mans push - pull, the whole concept of not giving her after she persists is missing the point.

 

[boomerick]

I agree with Kailex ....dont cave

Keep giving her crap answers.....

She's testing you to see when you'll give up (stupid girl games part 478.9)

She's also rating you against the other chumps she's pulled this with to see how long it'll take for you to dance for her

It's a game where she finds something that you refuse her about and then makes it into a pivital issue to test your will

Tell her your last name is X because you renounced the name your family was given by slave owners 200 years ago...

Watch the smoke roll out of her ears !!!

Over and Out.

 

[boomerick]

Teasing is fun and all but the fact that she's threatening to dump your name and number

At that point she's the one with issues....

Hold firm

 

[mikeyb]

Tell her you'll flip her for it: if it's heads she has to [insert sexual scenario here] and if it's tails you give her your last name. Who's got the issue now??

 

[boomerick]

^^^^

I like it !!!!!

Hahahahahahahaha

 

[William Wallace]

Thanks for the replies. I can kind of feel what jonwon is saying but at the same time I do get the vibe of this being "girl test #478.9", meaning I should keep holding my ground for just a bit ... I'm having lunch with her in a couple days so we'll see what happens! Maybe call her out on the coin flip for sexual scenario... hah