girl online wants to meet badly but is very superficial.

[tony-montana]

i known this girl for about a year now i think but only recently ever started chatting to her. all those months she was just sitting on msn... never really talked. but lately the past couple months since she broke up with her boyfriend she's wanted to meet me really bad... asking me almost everyday and asking for my number. i have kind of been playing really hard to get with her and she chases me real hard because of that... also gets a bit jealous from time to time seeing me talk to other girls in the room. i know there's some attraction there even though it's text. the way i talk to her... or how i have rejected her so many times when she wanted to meet. the ONLY thing i'm worried about is her shallowness... she's always mentioning how she likes hot guys. i mean not always but enough to let you know she is into looks... even though she says she's not to me. she has seen my picture and she has commented that i am hot but that's just photos. i am kind of intimidated now that she likes these hot celeb guys compared to me and i'm afraid when we meet she'll be dissapointed.

i know i'm meant to not care about that and just use my personality, charm, ****y funny attitude to make her forget about looks. by the way she's not that crash hot herself. she's even a little tubby and i mean just a little. so she's not THIN THIN. should i forget about her? i think the only reason i care so much is because she's paying so much attention to me and i like that. it's not her looks i'm really interested in. i'm confused at the moment ;s

p.s; its funny no matter how ugly a guy is, when they're with one girl and then bump into another girl they know, the girl you're with gets jealous.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

See the main thing about girls is.. they do care how hot guys are. Thats pretty much the defining factor. They go for the hottest man. The only thing that really separates them from us is that for us we look at physical things and are very attracted to them whereas women are attracted to different things about a man than just his body and his face. I dated a really stuck up chick like that a while ago. Its complketely the exact same thing man. We talked on msn a lot and **** mainly because I liked her to talk to and stuff I just never thought of her as LTR MATERIAL. If you don't think in a fixed I want a relationship thing its much easier to game. And I know what you mean.. sometimes when you fall into less social grooves less attractive women become more attractive. To be completely honest though man I think you should go for her because its very obvious that you do like her.. because if you didn't you wouldn't be talking about her. Its all whats best for you man and just remember even IF she does not like you (this is very unlikely because you have her chasing you which to me suggests very high IL) rejection is just a building block of the man you want to become.

 

[muscleman]

Girls are into looks just as much as guys, maybe even more. That's not what this thread is about though. You've got the wrong state of mind. Think about it. She likes hot guys + she's chasing you = you're a hot guy to her. You're thinking too much. If you're attracted to her, go do your thing, fvck her silly, then go from there.

 

[Obsidian]

Girls are into looks just as much as guys, maybe even more.

Why don't you just leave this site, heretic.

a "hot guy" = a powerful guy. Not a beautiful guy. Now ask the b1tch out already.

 

[muscleman]

*sigh* ignorance is bliss

Like I said, just go do her.

 

[tony-montana]

once again, she asked me to go see her. i said no way. then she called me and after a few meaningful seconds i said; "hey ***, guess what?" she says; "what?" and i hung up.

she went nutters on msn aha. ahh well. i feel like she's too much of a kid to me. even though shes a couple years younger than me only... she still acts too childish and that turns me off. right now i am just enjoying playin around with her head.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...she went nutters on msn aha. ahh well. i feel like she's too much of a kid to me. even though shes a couple years younger than me only... she still acts too childish and that turns me off. right now i am just enjoying playin around with her head.

Alright, as long as you are getting some type of amusement from her. I was wondering why you seemed so interested when having these concerns about her.

 

[muscleman]

So basically you just don't want to meet, yet or ever. It's not because she's "very superficial" or any other bs excuse - if you wanted to bang her this thread wouldn't exist.

 

[tony-montana]

well like i said in the first post i was a bit intimidated about her thoughts on men. like, i'm hairy right. she likes no hair... i don't have spikey long hair. she likes that. i'm almost all the things she has said she doesn't like in a man (looks wise) i ain't a pretty boy and that's what she seems to like. yet she keeps chasing me.

 

[muscleman]

Have you not learned by now not to pay attention to what girls say but what they do?

 

[tony-montana]

i need to rant a little here sorry. i hate girls like this: (not same girl in the above post.)

me: and you helped her out by showing her around town? how nice

me: need more good girls like you

her: yeh

me: talk

me: you're quiet

her: i'm tired

me: okay i'll let ya go then.

her: yeh i better head off

her: ciao

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boring girl right? stay away?funny thing is she's not like other girls. she doesn't get trashed on weekends or nothing she usually just goes to work, stays home and watches movies or goes out for dinner or to watch ballet. nice eh? i do wanna get to know her but damn she just too boring and she never laughs or anything. it's like i gotta do all the damn talking. it's sh!t how all the girls that are crazy and immature and go out gettin drunk every weekend are the ones that dont shut up. but the ones i wanna get to know are boring. pfft.

 

[muscleman]

I doubt that she's genuinely boring, she probably just has a low IL. Seems like you're doing the chasing here bud. And who's to say she doesn't go out? Just cause she says she doesn't? Pssh.

If you gotta do "all the damn talking" maybe you should shut up and let her talk some. If she doesn't, she doesn't like you, and there's not a damn thing you can do about it but find another more interested girl.

Try this: cut her off for a week. Don't initiate any convos, if she texts you just ignore it. See what happens. Just take note of how much she contacts you, what she says, etc. Get back to her in a week. Tell her you were busy. And get off online chat, that sh!t is for girls and all it says is that you have no life. I used to be on AIM all the time and it was retarded. Also if you're "actively" ignoring her (for example you're online but not talking to her) she'll just think you're a jerk. Play the busy game even if you don't have anything to do.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...boring girl right? stay away?

Umm, I've got to ask if this was a text conversation? If so, just how exciting can a text conversation be in comparison to a real conversation? If not... Damn that a boring biotch!!!!

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funny thing is she's not like other girls. she doesn't get trashed on weekends or nothing she usually just goes to work, stays home and watches movies or goes out for dinner or to watch ballet. nice eh? i do wanna get to know her but damn she just too boring and she never laughs or anything. it's like i gotta do all the damn talking. it's sh!t how all the girls that are crazy and immature and go out gettin drunk every weekend are the ones that dont shut up. but the ones i wanna get to know are boring. pfft.

So do you actually want to get to know her or are you just amusing yourself though the type of witty banter you're having with her?

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Perhaps one day, you'll have enough self confidence to actually meet her, hopefully she'll still be around by then, but I doubt it. It's sad to think your lack of self confidence and self esteem are so great that you can't handle being rejected by this girl, if it comes to that. You're doomed to wonder for the rest of your life what should have, could have, or what might have been, if only you had the courage to get rejected, and take a chance. It's guys like you that make it so easy for whoever will actually make a pass at her. Go to a mirror and pull your pants down for verification, you might be a girl.

Now take a deep breath and go for it. If she rejects you, too freakin bad, such is life. Move on to the next one and stop wasting so much time. Don't you know that life is short?

 

[tony-montana]

i should of said that... the last post was about another girl. and muscleman there has been one stage where she messaged me first but yeah... even then she's a little boring and quiet.