girl not over her ex,what to do...

[napoleon]

OK I went out with this girl once and now I call her. She postponed the date twice (she called me and set them up both times), and I texted her. Her reply was this:
(Something like this, that is)


I have a problem. I broke up recently with my boyfriend, ending a long relationship, and I still hadn't gotten over it, so I wouldn't want anybody to get too much attached to me. I had a great time with you and would like to go out with you, but I dont want you to expect anything of me, if that's fine with you. Now that you know everything let me know...

Now I say- Is that just another story you told me or is it the truth. What does "dont expect nothing" mean?

She replyed- Dont expect some serious relationship cause I am not still ready for that. It's complicated.



So what should I think from all of it? What do you make of it? What would you do.
I'll try to kiss her- that way I'll know if I'd gotten LJBFed or she is still in love with her ex.

Or maybe, even better, so that I dont waste time going out with her, I could just phone and ask her (on the day of the date)-
Something just came to me. Did you give me the "lets just be friends" line nicely packed?

 

[penkitten]

shes telling you she only wants to pal around with you.

 

[napoleon]

So I'll just ask her over the phone does she just want to be friends?

 

[Tyron]

Proceed as any dj would. She's not ready for relationship? Doesn't want to get attached? Great. Neither do you. Just meet her up and if you are having good time who knows where it will lead. Worst thing is that you'll get some $ss and it doesn't work out. You lost nothing.

Just be her next branch she can swing. Have some good time. And keep looking for other girls...

 

[napoleon]

Yeah, I was thinking the same but as I was writing this post I saw a maybe hidden LJBF...
So, should I ask for the LJBF or go as nothing happened?

 

[itishe]

If it works it works. If not drop that ass like a bomb.

 

[Docs]

Then lets not be serious *and kiss her*.

Toast, like fried chicken on rice. Mmmhmmm Good.

 

[napoleon]

If it works it works. If not drop that ass like a bomb.

If what works? The date or the call?

 

[itishe]

In general. If she's into you and doesn't bring up her ex or that she's still not over him then you're in the clear. If she doesn't shut her cu-m hole drop her ass.

 

[napoleon]

She also said we'll sit down and she'll explain everything:nervous:

 

[itishe]

Warning! Get out! Leave her ass behind!

 

[penkitten]

great, you have now went from "lets pal around with no strings attached" to "the shoulder to cry on"

 

[napoleon]

I'll just ask her over the phone does she want to be friends or see were it leads... If it's the first option I wont even go out with her...

 

[penkitten]

honey she wants to sit down and tell you in person just how much he broke her heart and how she still loves him. she might even ask you a good way to get him back .

 

[DJDamage]

OK I went out with this girl once and now I call her. She postponed the date twice

STRIKE 1!

I have a problem. I broke up recently with my boyfriend, ending a long relationship, and I still hadn't gotten over it,

STRIKE 2!!

She replyed- Dont expect some serious relationship cause I am not still ready for that. It's complicated.

STRIKE 3!!! YOOOOOOOOOURRRRRRRRR OUTTTTTTT!!!

Seriously napoleon this girl is trying to tell you in the nicest possible way that she is not interested and you are not getting the hints. She already made up her mind about you so please don't try to find other ways to embarrass yourself.

Also re-read the DJ Bible, you were dealing with a basic rejection/low interest and you should have known it.

 

[napoleon]

But I intentionally asked her TWICE: "is there any point in me calling you", just be HONEST!!! And now this...she must be the biggest coward tere is!

 

[penkitten]

exactly napoleon.

 

[DJDamage]

But I intentionally asked her TWICE: "is there any point in me calling you", just be HONEST!!! And now this...she must be the biggest coward tere is!

That is why you don't look at what women say but at what women do. Women hate confortations so you should have seen the avoidance as a red flag and not keep asking her if there is any point of calling her because she won't tell you but she will show you.

 

[napoleon]

OK, I' won't meet with her. I'll send her this exact message(translated. My intention is not to be a DJ, or to hurt her or anything, just say it like it is)-

Hi! Listen, we'll have to postpone again this saturday. Postpone it forever. I know that you wont mind cause I belive that you wanted to hear that the whole time. If I got you correctly you want to be "just friends". Maybe I an wrong and will be missing out on a lot of things but I can't stand playing games, "now I want to see you, now I dont, now I am too busy"... I dont have time for BS and playing games. I'd like to be wrong. In that case-sorry. Bye and good luck!

 

[Pappadapolis]

Don't send her any messages, cut her off. Chicks will tell you what you want to hear just to string you along. You're giving her the attention she can't get from her ex. You're already in the friend zone. Keeping contact with this girls is a crutch, it shows you can't go without her.

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