Girl LJBFs me then keeps contacting me

[Kerpal]

Had a date a few weeks ago with a girl I met through social circle. It went fairly well. Lots of making out and etc. Went back to her apartment, came super close to sex and she puts up last minute resistance. I tried to push through it but she eventually kicks me out. Texts me LJBF the next day. I told her I can't be just friends with women I'm physically attracted to so no thanks, and then went totally no contact.

Since then she has texted me 4 times asking to hang out one on one, but every time insists that it's only as "friends". Each time I've told her that I'm not interested under those conditions, but she persists. The 4th time I asked her why she keeps doing this and she wrote "Because I want to be friends with you, you really need to get over this".

I'm not sure what the deal is here. Usually only fat girls contact me this much, but she's better looking than I usually pull and already has a much larger social circle than I do. I suspect she's just trying to get some kind of sick ego boost out of this, because she's so used to stringing guys along as "friends" that she can't handle one saying no? How do I either use her to meet her good looking friends, or get her to leave me alone without pissing off our mutual friends?

 

[Leopold]

Since when friends make out?

Either she's wack or she just wants attention. I would say no contact; Dont give in into her rules. You want what you want and if she's not going to give it to you then whatever with her.

 

[Igetit!]

Had a date a few weeks ago with a girl I met through social circle. It went fairly well. Lots of making out and etc. Went back to her apartment, came super close to sex and she puts up last minute resistance.

When you say you got "super close" to sex,what EXACTLY do you mean?

Were you two naked,partially naked,had you been making out and touching her (boobs,ass,etc),or what?

Also,you said she kicked you out when you tried to push through the LMR. You must have done the standard procedure for LMR wrong then.

Texts me LJBF the next day. I told her I can't be just friends with women I'm physically attracted to so no thanks, and then went totally no contact.

I would have done the same thing.

Since then she has texted me 4 times asking to hang out one on one, but every time insists that it's only as "friends". Each time I've told her that I'm not interested under those conditions, but she persists. The 4th time I asked her why she keeps doing this and she wrote "Because I want to be friends with you, you really need to get over this".

This makes my "spider sense" tingle. I'm NEVER SEEN a woman push or be adamant about "being friends" with a guy. You must really be one hell of a dude for her to INSIST on being friends and not take no for an answer,lol.



I get the sense she's after something. Don't know exactly what it is,but I can GUARANTEE YOU...it's EGO driven whatever it is.

I suspect she's just trying to get some kind of sick ego boost out of this, because she's so used to stringing guys along as "friends" that she can't handle one saying no?

Right on the "ego" thing.

How do I either use her to meet her good looking friends, or get her to leave me alone without pissing off our mutual friends?

So when she keeps trying to get you to hang with her,she means one on one. I'd say YES.

Say yes,then invite her back to your place to watch a "movie". That way you'll trap her in HER WORDS.

You're agreeing to hang out (which is what she keeps bugging you about),but you're doing it in a place/situation where sex could occur,which'll make her a bit hesitate to do so.


If she contacts you again trying to get together,SAY YES. Tell her you just rented "so and so" movie and tell her to come over and watch it with you. If she refuses,well hey....that's too bad....guess you two can't hang out then,you're not going to rent a movie then not see it,wasting your money.



She'll either have to be alone with you,or you can't make it,but it'll be ON HER if the "hang out" doesn't happen.

 

[The_Crack]

become friends.
use her social circle to get lays..

LJBF isn't ALWAYS a bad thing imo. Its worked well for me in the past

 

[Kairos_]

I had a situation similar to this, she still messages me from time to time, fishing for an invite to hang out or something. Ironically she only ever does this when she's not dating anyone. She only wants to be friends, but we can only hang out when she's single?

I figure she just wants to have her cake and eat it too.

 

[seethehoop]

You will probably find that you are putting too much pressure on her. If she says LJBF and you say no then if you do end up hanging round there at hers she will close down on you because she will feel you are only there to progress things to the physical.

Now we all know this is the aim but verbalizing it will kill any attraction. Merely by the fact that she has contacted you so many times you give her something she wants. It prob is just an ego stroke at the moment but if you really want to put the effort in you could turn it around. IMO I would say move on and if she contacts you ignore her altogether but if you really want to try and push it forward go see her, don't actually verbalize agreeing to be friends but come from that angle. Then make sure you aren't too available all the time and when you are there do lots of kino, DHV etc.

Make sure you keep your emotions in check don't fall for her or she will sense it and play you like a fiddle. If you pull it back round great, if not you can always then move in her social circle. Just by knowing one girl in a group makes things easier to get in with the others, its like being vouched for.