Girl is standing me up while posting on FB

[supCALI]

Hey, so I had this date set for Sunday, but she flaked before the date. I know her from jr. high and she sent me a message on FB on my bday with her number telling me to call her. I called two nights later, had a nice little chat telling me about what she was doing and I ended up asking her for a dinner date, told her I would text her the details later and she was receptive "sounds good!" Texted her the night before the date, here's what I said.

sC: Hey its me! The place is called *** but I live so close I figure you should just meet me at my pad around 8 and I'll drive us from there. Address is ***
Girl: Okay friend sounds good!
sC: Great! see you then

She texts me the day of the date a few hours before the date itself
Girl: (name) I'm so sorry I'm gonna have to re-schedule.. are you free tomorrow?
sC: Hey don't worry about it! I'm not, how's tuesday?
Girl: Yeah that's great!
sC: Right on, how does 7 sound?
Girl: Sounds good!
sC: Cool, I'll see you then! If you need a ride don't hesitate to let me know

Now it's 8:46 and she hasn't called/texted me, and she's busy posting **** on FB. Should I call her and be like "Hey, are you okay? I thought we were going to hang out tonight?" or just NC it and learn from experience that I need to generate more rapport and interest and not text to setup a date?

 

[st_99]

LOL, you're post made me chuckle. Just post on her FB,
"you're a cvnt"

 

[Tyson420]

Owned.

 

[PDubb75]

LOL, you're post made me chuckle. Just post on her FB,
"you're a cvnt"

THAT made me chuckle...

Couple issues... texting to set this date up, and telling her about it the night before.

But still... she said yes and flaked. I would not talk to her until she initiates something. But, I wouldn't waste my time setting something up with her again.

What you should have done, is checked-in on Facebook at the place of your date with someone hotter than her. If she was sitting on FB, you know she would see it.

 

[Tyson420]

That IS a cvnt move.

Not even the decency to tell you that she ain't going. Extremely inconsiderate, forget about her.

If there's one thing a wise man told me it would be to befriend these hos from the beginning so you can actually see how they behave around you and others so that you'd know if a LTR is actually plausible.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Whenever you find out that a chick would rather post on her Facebook "wall" than enjoy the company of a real life, INTERESTED man, then there's two things that she's just proved beyond a shadow of a doubt:

Number One: She thinks that spending time with people "who AIN'T there" is more exciting than actually being with YOU.

And Number Two: She wasn't really interested in YOU in the first place------just your "attention".


SuperCALI, move on, my man. Go out and find you a woman who's REALLY interested in spending time with you.


VU

 

[Quick]

Don't bother calling her out. You didn't invest much in this (a few texts and a short call), so it's not like she really put you out.

Yes, she's disrespectful as hell, but you're not going to fix that.

 

[Scars]

Whenever you find out that a chick would rather post on her Facebook "wall" than enjoy the company of a real life, INTERESTED man, then there's two things that she's just proved beyond a shadow of a doubt:

Number One: She thinks that spending time with people "who AIN'T there" is more exciting than actually being with YOU.

And Number Two: She wasn't really interested in YOU in the first place------just your "attention".


SuperCALI, move on, my man. Go out and find you a woman who's REALLY interested in spending time with you.


VU

This. +rep

 

[supCALI]

Thanks (and +rep) for the replies guys.

I'm just gonna NC the b*tch for now and focus on spinning other plates and working on myself. A friend told me I should have a trustworthy family (girl) friend post on my wall tomorrow with something like "hey! had a GREAT time with you last night, miss you!! we need to do something again soon!" just for a little social proof to show her what she was missing out on by ditching me.

Thoughts?

 

[Scars]

Thanks (and +rep) for the replies guys.

I'm just gonna NC the b*tch for now and focus on spinning other plates and working on myself. A friend told me I should have a trustworthy family (girl) friend post on my wall tomorrow with something like "hey! had a GREAT time with you last night, miss you!! we need to do something again soon!" just for a little social proof to show her what she was missing out on by ditching me.

Thoughts?

Keep the head games to the woman. Just forget about her and truck a long, TRULY not caring means you aren't developing little schemes like this to get back at her or "prove her wrong". Just relax, and show her what she's missing out on through your ACTIONS.

-Scars

 

[Johnny_Kage]

Keep the head games to the woman. Just forget about her and truck a long, TRULY not caring means you aren't developing little schemes like this to get back at her or "prove her wrong". Just relax, and show her what she's missing out on through your ACTIONS.

-Scars

Agreed. Been there, done that with the head games. It's really just a waste of your time. What's better is if you game more women, hang out with some that like you, then one day that girl runs into you when you're out with these new women. I'm sure she'll be legitimately trying to hang out with you after that.

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

Doublepost somehow...

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Whenever I make a date with a girl I always tell her to tell me when she is on the way. This helps alot. I'm not going to show up nowhere on this planet unless I know the girl is on the way. I think that's just dumb.

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

In particular:
"sC: Cool, I'll see you then! If you need a ride don't hesitate to let me know" sound needy.

Also for setting up a date text communication is a bad choice because people (and expecially woman) dont feel as commited as when they "agree" to a date on the phone or even in person.

She shows you a lack of respect. Not only by not calling after missing the second date. Even on the first one. Anyone who would value you would value your time and for doing so would infrom you at least 24hours in advance and not via some stupud socail network that she cant make it. This way you have planty of time left to make some other plans for the evening.

Freeze her until she shows you some respect and makes an real effort to spend time with you.

One of the 15 lessons of pook deals with this particular problem. You should read them, they are some of the best yet simple lessons I know.

Thanks (and +rep) for the replies guys.

I'm just gonna NC the b*tch for now and focus on spinning other plates and working on myself. A friend told me I should have a trustworthy family (girl) friend post on my wall tomorrow with something like "hey! had a GREAT time with you last night, miss you!! we need to do something again soon!" just for a little social proof to show her what she was missing out on by ditching me.

Thoughts?

Bad Idea. Some people might say if woman play manipulative games you just have to play them better. IMO this is the way of woman and men are not meant to use them. We have or own, more fitting ways to deal with things. Therefore at the point where a man starts to try to answer manipulation with manipulation everything goes down the drain.
Thaught about realy having a nice time with those familyfriend of yours?

 

[f283000]

This is the perfect example of the 2 strikes rule at work (see my signature). You gave her the benefit of the doubt the first time, no worries, give her 1 more chance to prove herself to you.

She failed the 2nd time, time to move on. We need to go back to keeping it simple with women and I think you did a good job OP.

I didn't like when she called you friend that kinda made alarm bells go off when I read it. I knew the rest of your posts wasn't gonna have a good outcome. Unfortunately in my personal experience when they call me "friend" it's because i'm already in their nice guy/not dateable category.

 

[Allurre]

The fact that she called you "friend" instead of your name is a red flag.

Pick her up and dump her.