Girl is not blowing me, she is blowing me off

[Roostallion]

This girl from one of my classes and I went on 4 dates in the past month and we really hit it off great. I've been taking things slow with her. (she got out of a 4 year relationship in January.)

On our last date we had a pretty good make out session and it seemed like things were going really well. It's been 2 weeks and she's been too busy to see me. I tried setting up a study session for class and she bailed to hang out with her friends last week. This Friday, she said she was going to catch up on some sleep. So I told her I'd give her a wakeup call around 5p.m.

I gave her a call and her phone was off so I left a message letting her know I just scored some bomb weed and to call me back if she wanted to wake and bake. I texted her an hour later, " Yo Sleepyhead! Give me a shoutout when you wake up."

Its 2 days later and I hadn't heard from her so I send her this test message:
Its been 2 days since I left a message. So are you dead or just rude? In either case its a bummer because I thought we had a lot of potential together.

5 minutes later I get a text back, " I was planning to call you on my break today, it's at 4."

What should I say when she calls?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Your being to clingy, She isn't looking for a relationship. She is looking for some fun. So make sure that she is the one contacting you first. Make sure that your the one texting her hours later after she has texted you first.

 

[Iceberg]

This girl from one of my classes and I went on 4 dates in the past month and we really hit it off great. I've been taking things slow with her. (she got out of a 4 year relationship in January.)

Never "take it slow" with anyone or give anyone special treatment because of a past relationship. Well...take it slow relationship-wise. But never sexually. 4 dates in a month without sex is a real good way to bore a woman into losing interest in you.

Its 2 days later and I hadn't heard from her so I send her this test message:
Its been 2 days since I left a message. So are you dead or just rude? In either case its a bummer because I thought we had a lot of potential together.

A bit dramatic. I mean, either she was going to get in touch or she wasn't. It's lot like getting mad was going to help your cause.

Either way, the problem with you and this girl is that you're focused on hanging on to this thing. You're worried about "losing" her. You're thinking about it too much. You call her. Then you text her an hour later. It's too much. I'm sure she's a nice girl...but so what if she doesn't respond? So what if you never see her again?

You gotta have a life built for yourself where these girls are just afterthoughts.

What should I say when she calls?

Normally, I'd advise you to just play it cool and act like nothing happened. But since you got all pissy with her, the cat is out of the bag. If she does call, I'd imagine that it'll be to apologize. If you can't get her to commit to a date, then just assume that she's uninterested and drop her.

 

[Johnnyventana]

Good luck.

 

[Chickfight]

Come on man, who gives girls wake up calls?
She's showing you so little interest. Too busy to see you, bailing on you, turning off her phone even though you said you would call, not replying to you. Yet you still pursue her and lavish her with attention. You gotta learn to be less clingy and play it cool. Let her contact you first now and again.

The good news is I think you still have a shot. If she calls (which I'm not too sure she'll do now) just talk normal and sound friendly make a little small talk. Then ask her why she hasn't been replying to you. MAKE SURE you have no resentment or anger in your tone.

She'll probably answer that she's been busy bla bla something like that. Just be assertive and tell her you thought you guys were cool and having fun together, but if she doesn't want to chill with you anymore it's okay. If she says she's not looking for a relationship, reply that you aren't either, you're just having fun. Again, it's important that you don't sound pissed off or frustrated in anyway way. You're just saying how it is.

The effect this has is that you're showing the opposite behavior of the clingyness from before which is what you got to do from now on. She has to believe she misjudged you, so don't be afraid to actually follow through and hang up the phone if you have to and not contact her.
Chances are she'll hit you up again now that she has a different idea of you.
Good luck