girl insinuating herself into my life

[Willard]

Online girl, I've mentioned in other threads, we get along great, I'm not going to spin any plates while I'm seeing her. She opened a business with her last bf, lasted 12 years, both the business and the relationship.

She owns a beach clothing shop, I'm listing some of her clothes on eBay for her, she also wants to get involved in one of my business's.

She also said she would move with me if I go to California, I'm not sure if she is serious, I just say OK when she talks about those things. As far as moving I said maybe if you are nice to me.

I want to go into business with her, she is super smart, she wrote a book, and she is really hot, no red flags besides what this post is about, compliments me all the time, she said she likes my mind, which usually means she is really into me. She also said she doesn't want to get married again, which is very cool.

She seems like the perfect girl, I just want to be cautious, and I don't want to offend her by saying lets slow things down. She doesn't have a lot of friends here, because she only moved here a year ago, I finally have a great social circle of cool friends, so I'll have have to bring her around them.

 

[backbreaker]

mother of god...

 

[Willard]

Not really, she posted terrible pictures of herself, and we spoke for several hours over the phone before meeting. She is from New Jersey and has a heavy accent, I thought she might not be very smart at first because of her grammar, but she's very intelligent. Because of how attractive she is, I think she is very cautious about who she gets involved with, most guys would just want to have sex with her, but I really got to know her well, and I really like her personality.

 

[VladPatton]

Unless you're seeing her and banging her regularly in real life (as in human physical contact), abandon all business, moving, and life ideas with this girl. They are all just figments of fantasy.

 

[Willard]

I've met her in person. I am going to fall for her, she is falling for me, we are in constant contact

 

[Alvafe]

I've met her in person. I am going to fall for her, she is falling for me, we are in constant contact

are you joking? serious its a bad taste one.

 

[Willard]

No, She's Italian american, I've dated them before, I like Italian girls, and she and I get along amazingly, I normally don't like to move this fast.

She has all the qualities I'm looking for, beautiful, intelligent, funny, loyal, kids are grown and moved out. she doesn't want to get married again. I can stop seeing her now, no problem, I know I can end up falling for her if I continue seeing her. I just got out of a relationship with a BPD woman a couple of months ago, so I am looking for red flags, I don't see any other than she gets attached quickly and wants monogamy.

 

[abe0]

I guess someone is not listening nor read many posts here..yet. So....., congratulations, let me know when you are moving in with her and marrying her (even if she said she is not interested). Good luck....Abe

 

[GotED?]

Well, Willard - you have made some impressive postings recently so I admire your experience and thinking.

I am sure you must have much more wisdom than a lot of us here due to your age. I suppose it would be hard to give you advice when you seem to have your head screwed on right with women from your previous posts.

It does seem like a high risk venture - but I am sure you have thoroughly filtered out women from all your years and she has hit all the checkmarks that you are looking for. I have also learned that without taking calculated risks in life, you seldom get anything back from life.

Keep us posted - we learn from each other as men and bros.

Be well.

Exodus

 

[Willard]

Thanks Exodus, I'm seeing her tonight, I'm going to take the risk, I have nothing to lose.

She did something I really didn't expect, she sent a picture of a hello kitty key chain she sells at her store, I showed it to my mom, she said she wanted one, I asked how much, she said it was a gift and that I could say it was from me, I said I would never do that, I'm telling her it was from you.

It would take a long time to list this girls good qualities, she has so many.

I'll keep you posted.

 

[MOTU]

I've met her in person. I am going to fall for her, she is falling for me, we are in constant contact

Willard, careful with the constant contact, don't over do it. Let there be some silence and gaps to maintain attraction and mystery.

I am happy for you and hope you have found someone worthy of the prize, but don't get oneitis and let your guard down. Keep your game at fever pitch, read the bible practice the fundamentals.

Let us know how it turns out.

 

[Greasy Pig]

In picking up that you haven't banged her yet???
If so, do what makes you happy.
If not, I'd advise against being so full-on at such an early stage.

But please report back with your progress!

 

[Willard]

I haven't slept with her yet, I haven't tried. We've been talking for 2 months, we just recently met, She was checking me out on my other online profile as well as the one she messaged me on. She did say she believes in love at first sight, so It's possible she thinks she is in love with me. I am being a little mysterious, I do enjoy talking to her. She misses her family and gets sad sometimes.

I'm conflicted about giving up the other one I'm seeing, I have a couple of days to decide on that. I have a couple of other girls I've been working on, so I'm not worried about oneitis.

She is a very attractive woman, and her personality makes her look even better in my eyes. She has all the qualities I want in a woman and she is educated, she has a few flaws, and she admits that, and said she would like to work on them.

I felt bad when the she called me when I was out with the other one, I really don't like lying to her, which I have had to do a few times.

I'm just going to see where it goes, right now I'm remaining a little detached. Thanks for the kind words MOTU, Greasy Pig, and Exodus

 

[fuko2007]

Well Willard anything i would say has pretty much been said. Your doing the right thing staying somewhat detached though. I hope things work out for you and her bud.

 

[Willard]

Here is an update: It's going as well as I could ask for, she is definitely the best quality woman I have dated in the last year. I text and talk to her every day, I told her I was going out with my female bff and she had no problem with it. I had a chance to get laid last night at a club and I didn't do it. I'm not going to spin any plates while I'm seeing her. She is very secure with herself, and I don't play any games with her. I text her sweet things a few times a day and she does the same, I don't miss the game and if It doesn't work out with her I don't think it will crush me. I have a female bff who is wild and crazy, she has plenty of friends I can hook up with and when we go out I always meet plenty of people when I'm out with her. I'm still going to work on my game, you never know what might happen.

 

[amoka]

Willard,
You sound like a very nice guy. Why did your previous relationships fail? Did you terminate them or did the woman. Why did they terminate it or why did you not want to be in relationship with them.

 

[Willard]

amoka, Thanks, up until 7 months ago I wasn't very good with woman, once I met one I was relieved when I got one, so I wouldn't have to go through the trouble of meeting another one. In the 7 months I've put a lot of time and effort into improving my game, listening to audio tapes, success, pua, conversation, seduction etc.. I'm not done yet. This has resulted in a social circle that I only dreamed about in the past. Plus I have my own accounting business with a home office, I have lots of free time and I make pretty good money. In the last 7 months I've dated a lot of woman, I was nexted by 2, One was my BPD ex, the other a hot but flaky 35 yo. The rest I nexted because there was no future with them.

The current one is very pretty, maybe 20 lbs overweight, but still a good body and she likes to work out and eat organic food, I'm gym rat and I eat pretty healthy. She is really kind and generous, always compliments me and answers my calls, and texts right away, the only thing that she does that I don't like is she texts like she's illiterate, misspelling, bad grammar etc.. I think I can live with that because she speaks well and she is smart. We have chemistry, a lot in common, and we enjoy each others company. I think because of all that we can both work at it and keep things interesting.

If it doesn't work out I have plenty of other options, which I never had in the past. I know it would really hurt her if she found out I was seeing other people, plus I don't really want to. Last night was the test, I met a lot of girls and I didn't bother to get any numbers, tomorrow night will be a bigger test, I'm going out with my female bff and a group of people to some clubs here in S Florida.

 

[Zunder]

Willard has to be a fake / troll SS member. Surely.
This just has to be the most mental thread. If you are real, at 46 you haven't learnt anything and your plainly an idiot. Forty fuking six and acting like a teenager with a bad case of puppy love from some online wench who is convincing you to put your money into her business?!!!!
And as a previous poster intimated, you probably haven't even fvked her yet. Dude what the fvck is wrong with you? Are you that desperate for a woman that you would go as low as this? Sounds like you already made mind up anyway, so what the fvck the point of your thread was god only knows.
Good luck.

 

[GotED?]

The current one is very pretty, maybe 20 lbs overweight

Yikes! 20lbs!! :crazy:

I quite forgotten that I am now living in Europe - that would not be acceptable anymore in my realms of standards since I left the U.S. 4 years ago. We American men never had it so BAD in the U.S.... European women just are amazingly sexy and take much better care of themselves (the food so phucken expensive too, that helps!).

I went back to Mississippi last month for a 2 week business trip - almost lost tears seeing all the female land-whales while I was there. I was literally having an mental retardation shock and emotional break-down of how much I can't stand being back in the United States.

I spent 2 weeks hiding out in my hotel room hoping I don't get APPROACHED by one of these massive land-rovers (one cashier gave me her personal business card while I bought some clothing at Dillard's - damn it!!)

The Extra-Large/Large/Medium Size just doesn't do it for me anymore. My standards have been permanently raised and locked in due to the European experience.

Life sucks when I return back to the U.S. again in the near future permanently.

Exodus

 

[Willard]

Willard has to be a fake / troll SS member. Surely.
This just has to be the most mental thread. If you are real, at 46 you haven't learnt anything and your plainly an idiot. Forty fuking six and acting like a teenager with a bad case of puppy love from some online wench who is convincing you to put your money into her business?!!!!
And as a previous poster intimated, you probably haven't even fvked her yet. Dude what the fvck is wrong with you? Are you that desperate for a woman that you would go as low as this? Sounds like you already made mind up anyway, so what the fvck the point of your thread was god only knows.
Good luck.

I have learned plenty, one of the most important things learned is not to judge anyone, something you obviously haven't. She has more money than I do, she wants to invest her money into my business. I don't discuss my sex life online. I'm not desperate at all. I'm just a little concerned about how fast she is falling for me, I appreciate any helpful advise, criticism I don't need nor do I give. After reading how to win friends and influence people, I will never criticize again.

I have been very successful with woman the last 7 months only two out of I don't know how many haven't gone my way. This girl just called me and said I just wanted to hear your voice and asked me out for tonight, even though we already have plans for Sunday. I said maybe, that might be nice, I'm going to let her know later.