Girl in Summer Class

[One on One]

Alright, before I posted about this girl I started talking to in my summer class. I thought I just wanted to be friends and meet some of her friends, but now I've decided I wouldn't mind something with her. She seems nice enough and she's got a fabulous body, but her face isn't so hot. Anyways, she'd be good practice.

Now, the problem is that I'm a recovering AFC. I know DJ methods cold, but I don't apply them consistently. I don't flatter girls with compliments or come in too strong. I keep my emotions completely in check so that is good, however I'm a very shy person. I can, at times, shake my shyness and come across as very confident, but I have lapses all the time. Today, for instance, walking with this chick out to the parking lot, I didn't see my car and kept walking then a few seconds later, I said, "I think that's my car over there," and we split. It was weak. However, the game is not over by any stretch of the imagination.

I know that she is interested in me in some way or another. She sits next to me in class and I caught her taking side glances at me constantly for the first 30 minutes or so. I've seen other signs as well and have built good rapport.

Now, onto some details and some questions I have.

Today in our conversation, we were talking about my job, which is lifeguarding. I mentioned how it was a slow day yesterday and only a few people came out. She then asked if they were at least hot girls that came (unfortunately they were not). My question her is: Is this girl trying to get me in a sexual mindset and hint to me that she wants something? I think there is something to this, but I'm not exactly sure what to make of it.

Secondly, in the same conversation, she was talking about looking for a job this summer and how she has had trouble finding one. She named some places she has looked and then joked, "maybe I'll work street corners." Hehe, I don't think this girl is as innocent as I thought she was. What can I make of her saying that?

Also, does anybody have any advice in general? It is a summer class so I don't need to rush anything, but I do need to elevate the interest so it doesn't decrease.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Don't read too much into her comments. A good sign is that she seems to have a great sense of humor. When she says something like "are there a lot of hot girls?" you can quickly respond with a "are you interested in meeting some?" answer. Then hopefully she will say something like "no, I like men." or whatever, and all of a sudden you're in a boy-girl type of convo.

 

[xblitz44x]

Dave,

I think what you have to realize here is that, at this point, she's either into you...or she's not. There isn't a reason for you to have to "implement" anymore "DJ moves". It's apparent to you that she already likes you. So now all you have to do is make her feel comfortable and advance things. You CAN be confident because whatever is going to happen is going to happen regarless! You can ONLY fvck it up more at this point!

"She then asked if they were at least hot girls that came (unfortunately they were not). My question her is: Is this girl trying to get me in a sexual mindset and hint to me that she wants something?"

Probably not. Girls don't have to put guys in a sexual mindset. In fact, guys don't have to put girls in a sexual mindset either...it happens naturally if they are attracted. She was most likely trying to play it cool. Sorta like: "Yeah, you probably check out all the hot girls don't you, that doesn't bother me, i might not even like you". Or maybe she was trying to see how aggressive you were, or how you speak of them. What she said was definitely an indication that she's interested...although I'm still trying to decipher exactly what she meant.

"She named some places she has looked and then joked, "maybe I'll work street corners." Hehe, I don't think this girl is as innocent as I thought she was. What can I make of her saying that?"

Don't make anything of it. It doesn't mean anything relavent to you right now. All you can REALLY derive from that is that she's not SO strict that she can't joke about sex and prostitution. Means nothing really. She may or may not be innocent. Do ya thing boy, and find out.

"It is a summer class so I don't need to rush anything, but I do need to elevate the interest so it doesn't decrease."

You'd be silly to wait. You can only fvck it up. Would SHE be rushing it if she asked YOU out? Of course not. Why? Because you're into her. SHE can only fvck it up. See now?

-Blitz

 

[One on One]

I get the feeling that she wants to mess around with me so I need to proceed towards that result. However, by no means, am I looking to formally ask her out. I have considered two scenarios, although I'm sure I've already thought too much about this. Here are the scenarios I've considered doing:

- We both go clubbing. Get some of my friends, have her get some of hers and go out to the club. This would be easy to do. I'd just casually get her number and suggest we do something like that. I'm planning to go this Saturday night and I told her that so what I'm going to do is embellish the night, tell her about some hot girl that was coming on to me, and say it was a great time. As soon as she hints she wants to come along, I will get the number and proceed accordingly.

- Option 2 is to casually ask her out to Starbucks right after class. I don't favor this scenario, though, because I don't want a date-type thing with her. I want this to get sexual and don't want to waste too much time on fluff.

xblitz,

I will definitely listen to your advice and just realize that she is open about talking sex and stuff. Next time, though, I'm going to turn the conversation sexual myself and see how she reacts. I am going to try some minor kino by brushing my arm against hers while we are walking. I just want to get a feel for how bad she wants me.

I just found it....xblitz you had one legendary post in the DJ Bible that I just reviewed.

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16870

I think it applies to this situation and it was part of the basis for my original post. In our first conversation, I established comfort and connection without even thinking about it. Now, I have good rapport and need to move towards Excitement and Arousal. Your post says a lot about how I can do that, but feel free to offer any more insight you might have.

Thanks guys.

 

[Walden]

Yeah ask her to the Starbucks!
But , she's an acquaintance and the rule goes like this. If you're closing on a girl you've just met , be subtle ask her out for coffee else you'll scare her .If you're closing on a girl you know socially be direct so (a) you look confident (b) it looks like you'll be able to handle it if she's gay/married/got a boyfried/ really a man , and (c) you start making progress rather than just hanging out.

Good luck and good hunting.


Holy crap Xblitz!
I just read that post dave pointed out in the bible.That's excellent!

 

[One on One]

Here's my plan for next time, a couple things I want to accomplish:

1. Say "what's up" confidently when I first see her.
2. She'll ask how my weekend was so I'm going to embellish and bring up sex somehow probalby by saying I saw this really hot girl at the club.
3. I'll try to bring up sex again when I ask about how her beach trip was. Not sure what I'll say, but something about hot girls in bikinis.
4. Brush my arm against hers while were walking to see how she reacts.

I'll be looking for openings to casually get her number.