Girl has "such a busy week" and becomes more flaky

[TOneThousand]

Been hanging out with this girl for over a month. We meet up once a week, usually sleep together, usually have sex. She's been engaged, easy to make plans with, texts the next day saying she had a great time. Then recently she texted saying she has a really busy week and might only be around one day. We go back and forth a little about meeting on that specific day, eventually I tell her I'll be around if she wants to meet. She responds something cool let me get back to you. From there she flakes and her texting got quieter, never gets back about meeting

Over that period her messages were still responsive and fun, but less than usual and she's not initiating as much

Other big note is that while we were out a few weeks ago she was obviously texting some other guy. She wasn't doing a good job of hiding it from me. I could tell there were some long texts and from what I saw looked like arguing. Looked like someone she knows from a while and not a guy she just met

Seems very likely her "busy week" is due to plans with another dude. My gut atm is to give it some radio silence time and not chase. Not trying to overthink it but am interested in how others would handle this sh~t

I could've handled the seeing her texting the other guy differently I'm sure. We were out with a group then and having a good time so I ignored it

Thanks dudes

 

[Dr.Suave]

You had sex with her, you won. Plates drop, its part of the game. Replace her at your earliest convenience (with a better plate if possible)

 

[Ricky]

This is the tough part about women nowadays. They are always looking for other new men

i am not even sure i am ready to write about what happened to me on Thursday yet. Poor behavior out of left field.

id definitely not chase and lining up additional plates is always the best way to do that

on paper i dont have an issue with anyone looking for the best long term fit. Ive been honest with women about being non-exclusive before. I have found few women that are honest about it. Its like they get off on playing secret agent game

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You had your turn, now she's bored with you and there's another lover on the horizon.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Harsh Truth: Women pursue the men that they want

It's OVER for UnpersuedCels.

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Harsh Truth: Women pursue the men that they want

It's OVER for UnpersuedCels.

www.sosuave.net

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Been hanging out with this girl for over a month. We meet up once a week, usually sleep together, usually have sex. She's been engaged, easy to make plans with, texts the next day saying she had a great time. Then recently she texted saying she has a really busy week and might only be around one day. We go back and forth a little about meeting on that specific day, eventually I tell her I'll be around if she wants to meet. She responds something cool let me get back to you. From there she flakes and her texting got quieter, never gets back about meeting

Over that period her messages were still responsive and fun, but less than usual and she's not initiating as much

Other big note is that while we were out a few weeks ago she was obviously texting some other guy. She wasn't doing a good job of hiding it from me. I could tell there were some long texts and from what I saw looked like arguing. Looked like someone she knows from a while and not a guy she just met

Seems very likely her "busy week" is due to plans with another dude. My gut atm is to give it some radio silence time and not chase. Not trying to overthink it but am interested in how others would handle this sh~t

I could've handled the seeing her texting the other guy differently I'm sure. We were out with a group then and having a good time so I ignored it

Thanks dudes

Doesn't matter what she was doing. You know that she's not worth pursuing

Take this one to heart, because it takes this to become a real man worth his salt

I've been through it lol

All women are like this

 

[TOneThousand]

@Dr.Suave Yep yep dude

@Ricky don't have an issue with someone finding the best for them either, we all do it. They do love the secret agent game. Would be interested to read about wha' happen on thursday man

@Clockwerk50 great posts, definitely look relevant and accurate

@Vending Machine Veteran right, definitely not worth pursuing. She's a cool chick but plenty of other cool chicks in a five foot radius

There is no $hit to handle, you just are over invested in a chick that you went out with for 1 month. If you had other women slurping you cvm like a baja blast you wouldn't even be writing this post, in fact, you would've cut her loose right then and there, and get with another woman.

@All_Kindz_Of_Gainz get your point about being over invested and just cutting her loose. Fwiw I'm very comfortable having cut her loose. Still you did give me three solid examples of how to handle the situation differently which is what I was looking for from the post, so thanks for that man. For now I'll start stocking up on taco bell cups hah

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Probably an ex or some bullsvht. She's 100% not "busy" she's getting d1cked down from another dude. I'd just stop talking to her until she engages you again (if she does).

 

[SW15]

There is no $hit to handle, you just are over invested in a chick that you went out with for 1 month.

Agree with this.

You had sex with her, you won. Plates drop, its part of the game. Replace her at your earliest convenience (with a better plate if possible)

It is good that he had sex with her a few times in a month. Yes, plates drop but sometimes specific behaviors can cause a plate to drop faster than desired.

Probably an ex or some bullsvht. She's 100% not "busy" she's getting d1cked down from another dude. I'd just stop talking to her until she engages you again (if she does).

Agree. @TOneThousand acknowledged in the first post that he thought she had some ex in the picture influencing her behavior.

I doubt he ever has meaningful contact with her again.

 

[Tilex]

Have you ever gone over to her place?
Do you have any idea who she lives with?
Has she introduced you to her friends or family?

You mentioned you were all in a group, but didn't go into details about what type of group this was. It's very vague.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Been hanging out with this girl for over a month. We meet up once a week, usually sleep together, usually have sex. She's been engaged, easy to make plans with, texts the next day saying she had a great time. Then recently she texted saying she has a really busy week and might only be around one day. We go back and forth a little about meeting on that specific day, eventually I tell her I'll be around if she wants to meet. She responds something cool let me get back to you. From there she flakes and her texting got quieter, never gets back about meeting

Over that period her messages were still responsive and fun, but less than usual and she's not initiating as much

Other big note is that while we were out a few weeks ago she was obviously texting some other guy. She wasn't doing a good job of hiding it from me. I could tell there were some long texts and from what I saw looked like arguing. Looked like someone she knows from a while and not a guy she just met

Seems very likely her "busy week" is due to plans with another dude. My gut atm is to give it some radio silence time and not chase. Not trying to overthink it but am interested in how others would handle this sh~t

I could've handled the seeing her texting the other guy differently I'm sure. We were out with a group then and having a good time so I ignored it

Thanks dudes

Doesn’t matter. Not your wife. Not the mother of your kids. There are no rules in “dating” and pumping and dumping.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Chalk it up to the game. You were simply a placeholder until a guy she was more interested in came along. It happens to us all.

Don't dwell on it, continue building your pipeline.

Most times when a woman suddenly becomes "busy" it's because her time is being spent with someone else instead of you.

EDIT:
I reread your post and you made the mistake of being too available for her. Doubt it would have changed the outcome but it likely lowered her respect for you.

If she doesn't know if she can hang out when you already have plans then you cancel the date and tell to hit you up when she is more sure of her schedule.

 

[MatureDJ]

Been hanging out with this girl for over a month. We meet up once a week, usually sleep together, usually have sex. She's been engaged, easy to make plans with, texts the next day saying she had a great time. Then recently she texted saying she has a really busy week and might only be around one day. We go back and forth a little about meeting on that specific day, eventually I tell her I'll be around if she wants to meet. She responds something cool let me get back to you. From there she flakes and her texting got quieter, never gets back about meeting

About the only good thing about this orbiting is that you seem to be getting serviced. Yes, I would be on stand-by for a booty call as well.

Other big note is that while we were out a few weeks ago she was obviously texting some other guy. She wasn't doing a good job of hiding it from me. I could tell there were some long texts and from what I saw looked like arguing. Looked like someone she knows from a while and not a guy she just met

Seems very likely her "busy week" is due to plans with another dude. My gut atm is to give it some radio silence time and not chase. Not trying to overthink it but am interested in how others would handle this sh~t

You are one of these, and about as likely to get picked as any other one; however, the Chads in the middle are more likely to get that booty call.

 

[Bingo-Player]

It's important these days to make women invest heavily and I'm not just talking about sex although that does help if you're good at giving her orgasms

You want to get her doing stuff for you , cooking , cleaning bringing you things , planning things sharing her hobbies with you and vice versa

The dating market is way way too competitive these days to just think a couple of rounds of mediocre sex and drinks is going to get a woman focused on you

Remember EVERYTHING you do gets fed back to her friendship circles who will be offering their own counsel and that counsel is very very rarely going to be in your favour unless you have a good track record

You have to be creative with her emotions to avoid these flaky situations

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You are one of these, and about as likely to get picked as any other one; however, the Chads in the middle are more likely to get that booty call.

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Why do you call yourself 'mature' when you have such a juvenile view of the world?

 

[Gamisch]

I also.had to adjust to this bro. It's the new way the game is played. Most women are immune to the "power of D1ck".

It's complicated. You'd THINK that you should double down on your investment in a woman once she surrendered herself. But less is more. You are a easy target and in her mind it's a continuous game ,where she gets to make the rules and even change them for whatever reason.

You gotta adjust, and accept the fact that your turn is simply over. And no, women won't let you down easy.

 

[Lotus Effect]

@TOneThousand

Go back to the fundamentals.

All advice here is sound, but if you dont grasp the whole concept of the fundamentals, you will keep on failing.

Study the concept of Hipergamy. Then analysis your behaviour, her behaviour, the responses in this thread, and have a click/a-ha moment.

 

[Gamisch]

@TOneThousand

Go back to the fundamentals.

All advice here is sound, but if you dont grasp the whole concept of the fundamentals, you will keep on failing.

Study the concept of Hipergamy. Then analysis your behaviour, her behaviour, the responses in this thread, and have a click/a-ha moment.

Or go through this a hundred times more untill you finally get it

 

[TOneThousand]

@Tilex all of the above yes. I've met her friends and family and slept at her place several times. We have mutual connections. The time that we were with a group I'd invited her to a hangout with friends of mine

@SW15 yeah this plate dropped faster than expected. Not long before she was talking about making plans for the holidays which at that time made me think wtf. Agree with you about no real contact going forward

@BackInTheGame78 good point about being overly available, obviously it was an issue. Thanks man

@Bingo-Player very well said man. Solid advice. Getting her invested is a good call and not something I did enough of here. The friendship counsel is definitely a factor and it played into this one

@Gamisch I hear you on less is more. Admittedly I got comfortable in this case and figured she was more invested than she was

@Lotus Effect think I know where you're coming from with hipergamy and dating up. When you say grasp the fundamentals are you specifically talking about getting her to consistently make investments/making her chase?

 

[Lotus Effect]

About her, forget her.

She is nothing but a speck, in the grand scheme that is YOUR life.

Chicks comes and chicks goes. You are forever.

I am talking about you.

When I say grasp the fundamentals, I mean go back to the study room, go read some ancient posts on the DJ Bible.

Until you keep questioning about said girl, this the previous or the next, you still have not understood the rules of the game, meaning, you will keep loosing it/getting frustraded.

It is all about you bro. You are the prize. The minute you take your eyes off the prize, you lost.

Chicks, money, cars, friends... you name it. This are all acessories.

You are the only thing that matters.

That is what I meant.

Pro tip:
Radio silence only works if you fvck her brains out.
You have to know you banged her like she has never been banged before. Have you done that? If yes, than she will eventually come back (for sex) later on, considering you have not acted as a doormat afterwards. Otherwise, its only good for your healing process (which is also good)