a few days ago, i stopped by to see this chick i've been seeing for a few weeks. I called her outta her house by telling her that i have sth to say to her. As soon as i saw her, i grabbed her hands and her thigh and stole away a kiss. She was stunned for a moment then yelled , " Let me out", then managed to run right back into her house. Never heard from her since then. Tried to call her but she didnt pick up her phone. Guess chicks can easily get offended huh? Anyone here reads it plz dont laugh. Bring the flame on but give me some ideas of how to win this chick back. " Next" answers are not welcome cause i already know it.
girl got scared of me cause of my action
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Wonderbread166
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Don't be down on yourself, that took ballz.
I'm not going to try to help you "win back" this girl, because she isn't worth the time and you WON'T win her back no matter what you do.
OBVIOUSLY this girl has low or no interest in you, so I'm gonna tell you what you don't want to hear: NEXT!
Think about it. If she had any interest in you, she would have LOVED you for taking initiative and being the man. She would have melted when you "stole a kiss" from her. Women with HIGH INTEREST respond FAVORABLY to bold advances. Women with LOW INTEREST or NO INTEREST...well, they run away like that chick did lol.
Don't beat yourself up over this. Your actions tell me that you are a confident man, and you would have success coming out of your ass if ONLY you would focus your attention on INTERESTED women. Look up some of Pook's posts on Anti-dump for a better synthesis of what I'm saying. Good luck!
-Duke
OBVIOUSLY this girl has low or no interest in you, so I'm gonna tell you what you don't want to hear: NEXT!
Think about it. If she had any interest in you, she would have LOVED you for taking initiative and being the man. She would have melted when you "stole a kiss" from her. Women with HIGH INTEREST respond FAVORABLY to bold advances. Women with LOW INTEREST or NO INTEREST...well, they run away like that chick did lol.
Don't beat yourself up over this. Your actions tell me that you are a confident man, and you would have success coming out of your ass if ONLY you would focus your attention on INTERESTED women. Look up some of Pook's posts on Anti-dump for a better synthesis of what I'm saying. Good luck!
-Duke
NaturallySelected
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Well done for going for what you want, unfortunately she doesn't want the same. Maybe you went to quick for her, or didn't do it quite right. But you did it. You can't win her back, trust me. I've freaked a chick out before and tried for a year to get her back. What a waste of time that was. Next her!
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
actually, you DIDN'T do right.
First, let me say, damn did that take balls, I will compliment you on that first and foremost.
But, either she only sees you as a friend and was caught off guard that you tried to kiss her, or she still hasn't warmed up to the idea of you and her being sexual.
You maned up, but you still have to notice the signs a woman is putting out for you.
First, let me say, damn did that take balls, I will compliment you on that first and foremost.
But, either she only sees you as a friend and was caught off guard that you tried to kiss her, or she still hasn't warmed up to the idea of you and her being sexual.
You maned up, but you still have to notice the signs a woman is putting out for you.
As everyone else said, that was a nice move...unfortunately, bad target.
If you're really serious about her, give her a week to think it over then interact with her some. She has to shift what she thinks about you after that kind of incident. If she acts quite interested next time you talk, you can work her over some. She's going to be edgy, most likely. That shows you were on the friend ladder, but high enough off that the kick to the face you took by kissing her left you hanging on for dear life near the bottom of the 'friend' ladder. Might be able to make it work if you play it right.
On the other hand...most likely, you have no hope with this girl anymore. You've freaked her out. Period, she's done. Move on...sometimes this happens. Think of it this way though, at least you won't be wasting any more time trying to work over someone whose interest level isn't high enough
If you're really serious about her, give her a week to think it over then interact with her some. She has to shift what she thinks about you after that kind of incident. If she acts quite interested next time you talk, you can work her over some. She's going to be edgy, most likely. That shows you were on the friend ladder, but high enough off that the kick to the face you took by kissing her left you hanging on for dear life near the bottom of the 'friend' ladder. Might be able to make it work if you play it right.
On the other hand...most likely, you have no hope with this girl anymore. You've freaked her out. Period, she's done. Move on...sometimes this happens. Think of it this way though, at least you won't be wasting any more time trying to work over someone whose interest level isn't high enough
i just called a female mutual friend of ours and figured out that girl also called her and told the entire story. My friend also said that she was quite still angry of my " behavior" and suggested me to back off for a while. Hell with backing off, in deed im gonna write her a letter and tell her that im done with her games and im gonna move on with no regret.
So the majority here think that she has low IL on me. That was weird considering we went out a couple of times and during the last time i could held her hand and put my arm around her shoulder and she tickled my tummy. That's how it led me to this bald action decision. More comments are welcome. And thnks for cheering me up guys.
So the majority here think that she has low IL on me. That was weird considering we went out a couple of times and during the last time i could held her hand and put my arm around her shoulder and she tickled my tummy. That's how it led me to this bald action decision. More comments are welcome. And thnks for cheering me up guys.
It may not be what you did, but the way you did it that scared her. Perhaps you were just too abrupt and forward. It's probably better to judge the moment before taking such actions.
But it was wrong of her to lead you on if she was not interested, and by the sounds of things, she has no right to blame you.
But it was wrong of her to lead you on if she was not interested, and by the sounds of things, she has no right to blame you.
Dirthearts on the right track here. Personally I think the kiss would have been ok, grabbing the hand would have been ok, but grabbing her thigh would have been a severe invasion of her personal space. There are some parts on a woman's body that you just can't grab without some sort of lead up.
Player_Supreme
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1. You actually made a bad play with that one in my book. With the number of rapes going up...to some women you might be construed as a possible rapists.
2. Some women hate to feel violated (actually most do) and to feel the loss of control and helpless at the hands of a man. This is why I am very careful as to when a woman says no I take it as NO, I'm not taking any Kobe type chances with my dyck.
3. She could of filed assault charges on you, so be thankfull that she didn't.
4. In my book and from reading your post...you blew it. She is now afraid of you as a man instead of respecting you. You can keep playing yourself and chasing after her all you want. Remember that post about that guy over in Austrailia who attacked a girl at a party and stole a kiss and licked her fuc..king face...(gross)...you pretty much did the same thing pal.
5. In reading your later post about being tired of her games....I can see you just don't get it. You don't understand women and how to play them. It's ok to act macho if you can pull it off...if you can't as can be seen by your actions and words...then you come accross as not a jerk...but a possible rapist type...
Now don't think she won't spread the word about you all over your community...cause she has already done that!!!
Sorry for the shyt load of bad news.
Now as to getting her back...
Like I said keep making an ass out of yourself with your approach. Maybe you can write a symps letter and explain how you feel and she will forgive you...or leave a message on her phone begging for forgiveness...maybe if you offer to clean her house and do her laundry for a month and cook for her everynight...she might get over her new fear of YOU.
"N" short...you blew it get over it and sorry I realize you don't wanna hear it but move on dude. Begging isn't pretty. And you would have to do a lot of begging to get back up in there.
OH...I do oppologize for the heavy dose of negativity in my post. I am a realist. When I fawk up I face it and move on. I don't want cheering and pats on the back I choose reality
2. Some women hate to feel violated (actually most do) and to feel the loss of control and helpless at the hands of a man. This is why I am very careful as to when a woman says no I take it as NO, I'm not taking any Kobe type chances with my dyck.
3. She could of filed assault charges on you, so be thankfull that she didn't.
4. In my book and from reading your post...you blew it. She is now afraid of you as a man instead of respecting you. You can keep playing yourself and chasing after her all you want. Remember that post about that guy over in Austrailia who attacked a girl at a party and stole a kiss and licked her fuc..king face...(gross)...you pretty much did the same thing pal.
5. In reading your later post about being tired of her games....I can see you just don't get it. You don't understand women and how to play them. It's ok to act macho if you can pull it off...if you can't as can be seen by your actions and words...then you come accross as not a jerk...but a possible rapist type...
Now don't think she won't spread the word about you all over your community...cause she has already done that!!!
Sorry for the shyt load of bad news.
Now as to getting her back...
Like I said keep making an ass out of yourself with your approach. Maybe you can write a symps letter and explain how you feel and she will forgive you...or leave a message on her phone begging for forgiveness...maybe if you offer to clean her house and do her laundry for a month and cook for her everynight...she might get over her new fear of YOU.
"N" short...you blew it get over it and sorry I realize you don't wanna hear it but move on dude. Begging isn't pretty. And you would have to do a lot of begging to get back up in there.
OH...I do oppologize for the heavy dose of negativity in my post. I am a realist. When I fawk up I face it and move on. I don't want cheering and pats on the back I choose reality
Shot Callin
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Had a similar experience
Yeah I have had the same experience a couple of times. Recently I took this girl out for the first time. After I walked her home we were saying goodbye when she gave me this big hug and then asks "So you wanna kiss me?" I said yeah, and went in for it. Ok so that was fine she totally enjoyed it. So then I kept hugging her and going for more until she pushed me off! LOL, that never happened to me before! Anyway she did not want to go out with me again after that at all. Whatever. But I can't really blame her. Being bold, and being inappropriate are different.
Its like girls will like a guy that stands up for himself, but a guy that starts fights might freak em out.
So dude just chalk it up to experience. I would say it sounds like you freaked her. This does not mean for sure it is all over. But wait for her to contact you, if she wants to she will when she feels comfortable.
Attention Wh0re!
Yeah I have had the same experience a couple of times. Recently I took this girl out for the first time. After I walked her home we were saying goodbye when she gave me this big hug and then asks "So you wanna kiss me?" I said yeah, and went in for it. Ok so that was fine she totally enjoyed it. So then I kept hugging her and going for more until she pushed me off! LOL, that never happened to me before! Anyway she did not want to go out with me again after that at all. Whatever. But I can't really blame her. Being bold, and being inappropriate are different.
Its like girls will like a guy that stands up for himself, but a guy that starts fights might freak em out.
So dude just chalk it up to experience. I would say it sounds like you freaked her. This does not mean for sure it is all over. But wait for her to contact you, if she wants to she will when she feels comfortable.
Attention Wh0re!
diplomatic_lies
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Don't suppose your hand-on-her-thigh went any higher?
Like I said keep making an ass out of yourself with your approach. Maybe you can write a symps letter and explain how you feel and she will forgive you...or leave a message on her phone begging for forgiveness...maybe if you offer to clean her house and do her laundry for a month and cook for her everynight...she might get over her new fear of YOU
actually just wrote her a letter, but not to beg for forgiveness or taking me back. Just simply said that im done with her, that she can keep playing games by her self and i'm moving on.
Now don't think she won't spread the word about you all over your community...cause she has already done that!!!
like f*ck i care of what she's said or done.
reading your later post about being tired of her games....I can see you just don't get it. You don't understand women and how to play them
You're right, i dont and never understand women's behaviors. But the same as the majority here. They're just too emotionally unstable for us huh?
OH...I do oppologize for the heavy dose of negativity in my post. I am a realist. When I fawk up I face it and move on. I don't want cheering and pats on the back I choose reality
No need to apologize. I always appreciate such constructive posts. After all, im still not the DJ master yet, still in the learning process.
actually just wrote her a letter, but not to beg for forgiveness or taking me back. Just simply said that im done with her, that she can keep playing games by her self and i'm moving on.
Now don't think she won't spread the word about you all over your community...cause she has already done that!!!
like f*ck i care of what she's said or done.
reading your later post about being tired of her games....I can see you just don't get it. You don't understand women and how to play them
You're right, i dont and never understand women's behaviors. But the same as the majority here. They're just too emotionally unstable for us huh?
OH...I do oppologize for the heavy dose of negativity in my post. I am a realist. When I fawk up I face it and move on. I don't want cheering and pats on the back I choose reality
No need to apologize. I always appreciate such constructive posts. After all, im still not the DJ master yet, still in the learning process.
Trickster_guy_2001
Don Juan
DON'T WRITE HER ANY NOTES, LETTERS, DON'T CALL HER, DON'T SERENADE HER, DON'T DO ANYTHING but get on with your life. ONE TIME I made the mistake of getting pissed off and telling this woman off because she was pulling crap with me. It just made things worse. A LOT worse. And I still didn't get that date. I just drop it. I'm done with them.
Take my advice and DROP it. Completely. If she wants to get back to you, she will. MOVE ON. For everyone's sake. It won't make you look gutsy or manly, and it won't make her see your way... and it won't help things to write angry notes or tell her off.
You have to be consistent. First you act romantic next thing you know you jump her. That's weird especially for girls. There are so many show on TV at the moment that talk about rapist and what not which scares the **** out of women.
Tell your friend to take a hike because it's none of her business and she shouldn't mess in other people's problems. Tell your friend to talk to her friend so she can explain to you what the **** is up. Ask her for directness so you don't have to play stupid ass games to find what's up.
Girls are so fragile yet they want to be equals with us. That's just stupid ass feminist bull****.
Tell your friend to take a hike because it's none of her business and she shouldn't mess in other people's problems. Tell your friend to talk to her friend so she can explain to you what the **** is up. Ask her for directness so you don't have to play stupid ass games to find what's up.
Girls are so fragile yet they want to be equals with us. That's just stupid ass feminist bull****.
Don't write her a letter *****ing her out, because that will only further her opinion of you as being a Macho Boy. Cut your losses and cut all contact. Next time don't come on so strong physically. What was your level of physical contact before all this went down?