Girl gone weird

[Aesthetix29]

Been seeing this girl for a few weeks now .. Everything's been fine, we arranged for me to go round to hers on Friday just gone .. But as I was about to set off she canceled .. And gave me some excuse about her ex owing her money and having bailiffs round ... She said she was in a really bad mood and it the best company, so I said okay whatever. She usually texts me good morning and yesterday she didn't so I sent her a good morning .. She read it but didn't reply until later that day, since then she hardly text me anymore and seems like she was being abit off with me ... I mean I could be wrong but I've been around long enough to notice symptoms like these. What would you do .. Just leave her too it and wait until she initiates contact with me .. As I've not heard off her at all today yet? I figured either she's not that interested anymore or someone else in on the scene. What's the best course of action?

 

[El Payaso]

Delete and move on.

 

[piranha45]

Don't let yourself come across as being needy.. When she stops lavishing you with attention, you withdraw your own attention from her. When a sudden, awkward silence erupts, YOU let HER make the effort to break it. Because awkward silences don't phase you, and you have other women available.

 

[Reykhel]

Been seeing this girl for a few weeks now .. Everything's been fine, we arranged for me to go round to hers on Friday just gone .. But as I was about to set off she canceled .. And gave me some excuse about her ex owing her money and having bailiffs round ... She said she was in a really bad mood and it the best company, so I said okay whatever. She usually texts me good morning and yesterday she didn't so I sent her a good morning .. She read it but didn't reply until later that day, since then she hardly text me anymore and seems like she was being abit off with me ... I mean I could be wrong but I've been around long enough to notice symptoms like these. What would you do .. Just leave her too it and wait until she initiates contact with me .. As I've not heard off her at all today yet? I figured either she's not that interested anymore or someone else in on the scene. What's the best course of action?

Cancelling with you like that when you had made plans for Friday night was a complete lack of respect. If she doesn't respect you, she's not worth having in your life.

What you want with people in your life is like a "mutual appreciation society" where you think they are the cat's pyjamas and they think you rock.....if you're not getting that let them walk out of the door so someone new can come in.....

What I noticed with your texting: Your roles are reversed. You're doing what she should be doing...

1. Not answering texts straight away......do you see the slight anxiety that created in you?
2 Not been available......do you see the slight tension that created in you?

The good morning text? No, no, no, no..........women send good morning texts!!! It irritates me when I receive a good morning text!! I think "needy"...

 

[Aesthetix29]

Thanks for your advice .. Makes sense lol! I've still not heard anything .. So think I'll just move on, probably get a text in a few days tho haha!

Cancelling with you like that when you had made plans for Friday night was a complete lack of respect. If she doesn't respect you, she's not worth having in your life.

What you want with people in your life is like a "mutual appreciation society" where you think they are the cat's pyjamas and they think you rock.....if you're not getting that let them walk out of the door so someone new can come in.....

What I noticed with your texting: Your roles are reversed. You're doing what she should be doing...

1. Not answering texts straight away......do you see the slight anxiety that created in you?
2 Not been available......do you see the slight tension that created in you?

The good morning text? No, no, no, no..........women send good morning texts!!! It irritates me when I receive a good morning text!! I think "needy"...

 

[nismo-4]

Ditch this b**ch and move on! You can do better anyway.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Ditch this b**ch and move on! You can do better anyway.

That's what I'm going too do .. Think I might just have a time out! Always too much drama LOL

 

[Aesthetix29]

Not heard nothing off her since Saturday .. Do you think it's a good idea to text her? We had. I reason to fall out and things was going good .. Or at least I thought they were.

 

[Mike32ct]

1. She's fine dating you until the date is alone at her place and action is implied. Strike 1.

2. She has a broke, loser ex or imagines stories about broke, loser exes. Strike 2.

3. She can't even answer a good morning text. Strike 3.


Pull the plug.

 

[Yewki]

She's been the disrespectful one with the flakey and aloof behavior. And she realizes this, trust me. So there's no reason to initiate any more contact. If you do, it tells her you're desperate enough to chase someone who isn't reciprocating. The best coarse of action is to put her on the back burner and move on. Maybe she'll contact you again, maybe she won't. Oh well.

3. She can't even answer a good morning text. Strike 3.

As a side note, the bigger strike is that he even sent a good morning text. Doesn't matter if she sent him one every day for a year then one day she didn't... don't send one. Just my opinion of course.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Okay guys thanks for your advice .. Much appreciated, but you have Misunderstood me ... We've been dating and I've stayed over at hers and had sex plenty of times .. Its just that we made plans for the Friday on the Thursday and then she cancelled last minute and I've not heard off her since ... Here's the last text she sent me on Saturday night:-

Yea well angry!! not really.. Gonna go bed now.. Speak to you tomoz.. Night xx

It's just weird behaviour and I've been expecting her too text me .. But nope she hasn't LOL! Mind you it's only been 4 days

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Number 1: Excessive texting KILLS relationships (as I'm sure you're experiencing now).

Number 2: She knows you exist. If she wanted to text you or return your messages, she would. If she's not, it means she has LOW to NO interest in you. 4 days is a long time for a woman to go ghost on a guy she likes. Heck, I tell guys to wait 4 days after a date to call her for another one, in part because most women, if they like you, will hit you up before you get to the 4th day.

Oh, and let me save your brain some more trouble:

- It doesn't matter how much sex you had with her in the past; what matters is that RIGHT NOW, she's not talking to you.
- It doesn't matter how many dates or fun times you've had with this woman in the past; what matters is that RIGHT NOW, she's not talking to you.
- Her ex making her mad was an EXCUSE she know you'd buy so she didn't have to see you. However, there was no counter-offer for an alternative day because RIGHT NOW, she's not trying to talk to you.

You can't live in the past of all the interest she WAS showing you. All that matters is the current moment where she's NOT communicating with you. It's her passive aggressive way of trying to get rid of you without having to do it in person, lest she feel like the bad guy. Recognize it and move on.

 

[ubercat]

Guys r right. One post s snuff grieving now get busy.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Well looks like we're texting again .. But I can tell her interest level has definitely dropped .. How can I raise her interest level?

 

[Yewki]

Well looks like we're texting again .. But I can tell her interest level has definitely dropped .. How can I raise her interest level?

Keep the texting to the bare minimum, arrange meetups and raise her interest level in person.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Okay so we've both really wanted to watch that new Legend movie .. So I set a date and we're watching it next week .. But her texts seem a little aloof!

 

[Slash Dolo]

Okay so we've both really wanted to watch that new Legend movie .. So I set a date and we're watching it next week .. But her texts seem a little aloof!

She should be the one thinking your texts are aloof, not the other way around. I can kind of tell you have a bit of oneitis; don't let it cloud your judgment brother. Talk to other women and arrange dates with other women while talking to this chick. It'll take your mind off her offputting behavior and she'll shape up once you ship out.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

She is no longer into you, at least this minute. My belief is that you can't make her IL rise to what it was before - at least right at this moment.

I would be upfront if I was going to text her - which you still are:

" Seems like you have a bit going on right now. No drama, do what you have to do and look after yourself."

It's not butthurt and it's the truth. You have to leave it there though, NC after that.

It's obvious you have at least sex feelings for this girl, fair enough,that's understandable. But I don't think she's into you anymore and if you keep initiating contact and setting 'dates', it'll kill it anyway.

She is aloof because her head space is somewhere else, and that somewhere else doesn't involve you. Three weeks of contact even with sex, is irrelevant to her right now. And it should be to you too.

 

[Reykhel]

Been seeing this girl for a few weeks now .. Everything's been fine, we arranged for me to go round to hers on Friday just gone .. But as I was about to set off she canceled .. And gave me some excuse about her ex owing her money and having bailiffs round ... She said she was in a really bad mood and it the best company, so I said okay whatever. She usually texts me good morning and yesterday she didn't so I sent her a good morning .. She read it but didn't reply until later that day, since then she hardly text me anymore and seems like she was being abit off with me ... I mean I could be wrong but I've been around long enough to notice symptoms like these. What would you do .. Just leave her too it and wait until she initiates contact with me .. As I've not heard off her at all today yet? I figured either she's not that interested anymore or someone else in on the scene. What's the best course of action?

"She said she was in a really bad mood and not the best company"

This initself is enough of a major red flag and enough of a reason to eject.

She's an immature cvnt who breaks plans because she has allowed external factors to influence her mood. That's if it even was the truth...she probably fvcked her ex or someone else.

You are the CEO of your life. Hire, fire, demote, promote the people in your life as you see fit. What would your HR department say about Miss Moody? Keep her on or let her go because she's unreliable?

That been said, the women in your life...or rather their behaviour towards you is often a reflection of you. What boundaries are you setting with the women in your life? Are you lacking boundaries? Do the women in your life know, without it being said, that your willing to walk, if said boundaries are crossed?

 

[piranha45]

Okay so we've both really wanted to watch that new Legend movie .. So I set a date and we're watching it next week .. But her texts seem a little aloof!

When a sudden, awkward silence erupts, YOU let HER make the effort to break it. Because awkward silences don't phase you, and you have other women available.