Girl gave me her number... and I failed

[Snowman23]

whats up fellas. anyway you may remember me making a post a while ago about this very cute girl who gave me her number last weekend. I called her earlier in the week and asked if she was gonna be around on the weekend, she said "yeah". so I'm thinking like dinner, or a movie, or something. Anyway I call her tonight at like 8 and ask if she wants to get together, and she was at work but she's gonna be getting off at like 10 pm and wanted me to come down to so-and-so place and party, then somewhere else after that (which is like a 30 minute drive), well anyway I was drinking and felt kinda dissed because I wasn't planning on this and I kinda acted like a jerk. sarcastically asking if she gave her number out to anybody. Well anyway I kept pushing it and asked about her ex and she was like "That's none of your business". I think at one point she said "fvck you" and hung up.... however, I got her back on the phone and we talked a little bit. she said if I seem like a b!tch that's because you keep asking me these questions about my ex and you seem drunk.

I asked her if she was gonna be around later this week and she told me she didn't know because she doesn't have her schedule from her manager yet.

guys... was I being impatient and blowing this out of proportion with her? or was I kinda dissed?

I swear I'm an idiot. when I drink, I just don't care. I'll say anything if things don't go my way. Now, I wasn't looking for a one night stand, I just wanted to get to know her better, but I already partied and didn't feel like drinking till 2 am.

can I still salvage this? or did I make a total ass out of myself? lol

p.s. - I left like 3 voicemails of me singing on her phone.

 

[Obey Propaganda]

Let me ask you something...

What the hell were you thinking???

 

[touge]

Crazy bro.

Chill out, don't talk about her ex, is he that important?

Drink less next time if it puts you in these sorts of moods.

 

[Snowman23]

well she told me she broke up with her last boyfriend because he was controlling, but then I heard other stories about how her ex dumped her. Now mind you, the first time we met I brought up her ex too, lol. I dunno, I just wanted the scoop on what happened. I probly coulda picked better conversational topics... but the thing is, I didn't ask for this girls number, I was about to leave the bar after talking to her and she gave it to me.

yet I asked if she was free on the weekend, she told me yes, but didn't tell me she would be working saturday night until 10 pm. then as I said, she was going to go drinking.

I dunno, I just got p!ssed for some reason.

 

[Snowman23]

anyone else?

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

Why ask about an ex?

The biggest mistake men and women make is when they talk about their ex they talk NEGATIVE about them. Think about it. When a girl tells you "I hated him. I was in love with who I thought he was. He was such a d!ck. This one time, at a red light, this guy needed directions, he gave him the total wrong directions! I'll never speak to him again! When we broke up I egged his house!' what comes to mind? When a girl says that, it puts you in that category. It makes it feel as if to this girl, men are the enemy.

Avoid talking about ex's. If she asks you about your ex, just tell her "We had fun, it didn't work out." Be positive. But don't bring it up. Even if you are the jealous type, jealous that someone else's d!ck was in her before you, just keep it to yourself. You'll look weak and pathetic when you start asking about ex's.

 

[Snowman23]

So how should I handle this situation?

 

[Mandiblard]

It all depends on one thing. Are you a good singer?

 

[SharinganUser]

How could you get upset that SHE invited you to do something more interesting than dinner and a movie???

I think you need to cut down on your drinking if it is starting to affect other area's of your life like this.

 

[Snowman23]

Hey azzhole, I called her and asked what she was doing. It's not like she called me. She was going to be with a couple of her friends and wanted me to come. I was thinking it was going to be just me and her. So anyway I didn't want to go, and I didn't. I asked what she was doing later this week, and she said she's not sure because her work schedule changes. She never offered any alternatives. Now I don't know if this was after I p!ssed her off or not. But there wasn't really anything else for me to say.

 

[AirborneDoc82ndABN]

Lessons learned: Don't ask too many questions about ex's so soon in a friendship/relationship, and DO NOT drunk dial chicks. Like seriously, most will laugh if your toasted and talking if you are being funny and talking to her about her, but as soon as you are drunk and talking stupid sh1t, she's gonna get pissed.. Just move on and take it as a lesson learned

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

p.s. - I left like 3 voicemails of me singing on her phone.

WTF? Good luck recovering from this one. Next time leave your life story on her answering machine, like that guy on youtube.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Snowman, why in the hell are u considering this situation a failure? Its a learning experience. Sure, you don't bring up the "exes" in the negative light and talk to drunk when u full well know how u are or singing on the phone, but saying its a huge failure will only make u feel worse about urself. Its just a lesson so u don't do it next time. But at this point, u still got a shot left till she says no. Be right to the point next time with her too rather than just talk about whatever, so u don't waste time. Beating around the bush this time will only have u be more nervous to give it another shot.

Also, focus on other girls too so u don't solely rely on her. I usually am more light hearted than this but this is what u should hear my friend.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Booze = DJ Killer.

Months and months of gaming a girl and getting her to like you and screw you can all be undone by drinking too much and saying the wrong things.

I learned that lesson the hard way and the booze is never worth it.

 

[DJsomeday]

It all depends on one thing. Are you a good singer?

Classic, you made me roflmao.

@poster: I think i would probably not contact her for a while, let her chill out a little and then talk to her and telling her i'm going to XYZ, wanna come with me?. If she flakes or doesn't want to instant next. good luck mate!

 

[DonJuan11]

I called her earlier in the week and asked if she was gonna be around on the weekend, she said "yeah". so I'm thinking like dinner, or a movie, or something. Anyway I call her tonight at like 8 and ask if she wants to get together, and she was at work but she's gonna be getting off at like 10 pm and wanted me to come down to so-and-so place and party, then somewhere else after that (which is like a 30 minute drive), well anyway I was drinking and felt kinda dissed because I wasn't planning on this and I kinda acted like a jerk. sarcastically asking if she gave her number out to anybody. Well anyway I kept pushing it and asked about her ex and she was like "That's none of your business". I think at one point she said "fvck you" and hung up.... however, I got her back on the phone and we talked a little bit. she said if I seem like a b!tch that's because you keep asking me these questions about my ex and you seem drunk.

I asked her if she was gonna be around later this week and she told me she didn't know because she doesn't have her schedule from her manager yet.

guys... was I being impatient and blowing this out of proportion with her? or was I kinda dissed?

I swear I'm an idiot. when I drink, I just don't care. I'll say anything if things don't go my way. Now, I wasn't looking for a one night stand, I just wanted to get to know her better, but I already partied and didn't feel like drinking till 2 am.

can I still salvage this? or did I make a total ass out of myself? lol

p.s. - I left like 3 voicemails of me singing on her phone.

Can't imagine why she is not ripping her clothes for you after you put her down and insult her.

 

[Snowman23]

Can't imagine why she is not ripping her clothes for you after you put her down and insult her.

Really? I called her on a Saturday and wanted to get together with her. She tells me she's going with her friends to this bar after work. I said "I'll meet ya down there." She was like "cool". I called back (still drunk) and said I wasn't going, asked her what her schedule was next week. She said she didn't know what days she'll be working.

I've called her twice, both times she didn't know who I was and had to ask.

She doesn't seem to be giving me a lot to work with. I don't know if this is because I was drunk or she just wasn't interested. Even though she gave me her number without me even asking.

 

[daygameguy]

if you were really drunk, and feel like you acted like an assho1e, maybe you should call up and talk to her about how you lost your senses cuz you wer drunk.. if you let her know that you understand and accept your mistake, she will be impressed. This does not mean you are loosing your power. Sometimes, saying sorry can work wonders.

 

[Snowman23]

One more question.

Do you guys think she was ever interested in me to begin with?

I'll call her up and sweet talk her with an apology. Should I do it today or would that be too soon/desperate?

 

[Prod]

Cutting one's losses would be adviseable unless she's something really special. How can you initiate anything on your terms if your first act is bending over backward to apologise?