I mentioned this in a response to another thread, it wasn't bothering me then, but it is now. I just want some opinions. A girl that is a waittress at my work and I went out last weds. We went to a couple of bars, caught a little buzz etc. It is late, around 3:30, and I offer to take her home because she says she doesn't feel good (we were heading over to a mutual friends place for after hours drinks). She says she wants to go to my place since it is closer. o.k. whatever. we get there, and I give her some clothes to sleep in blah blah blah, I wasn't trying to get laid, but we ended up fvcking the hell out of eachother (she tricked me dammit!!!!)
In the morning (thurs)we repeat the deed from the night before. Then we head back to her house around 11-12 noon, and then get some breakfast. I dropped her off around 3 . Long first date.
Normally I would treat this as a ONS, but she is cool, at first I thought she was a ditz, she's not, I was wrong. And throughout the entire time we are together she is asking if we can hang out again. I never give her a straight answer, I tell her I have to consult my advisors etc.
We dont see eachother until saturday nite because we work together. There is no touching or anything else while we are at work. We end up being the last two people in the bar, I was closing that night, still no touching etc, but I don't think that I was acting AFC. She says to call her on sunday and leave a message. I didn't call her until that night, I knew she was at the state fair with her family ( I was suppose to be there with another girl, but I cancelled for unrelated reasons), but I left a short message to call me back. She hasn't called back, and I haven't tried calling her again, and I think that she may have quit working at the restaurant ( but not sure yet).
To me this girl is a 8-9. I know that she gets hit on all the time, she is also a bartender at a popular pool hall. So her behavior -wanting to know when we can go out again etc, then not calling me after a week of not talking.. puzzles me.
I don't think that I should next her over one phone call. A lot of shyt can happen like not getting a message or whatever.
Hell, she may even be pissed at me for calling when I was absolutely certain she was not home (I think she may have wanted me to go to the fair with her)
(I'm tired and cannot think clearly right now so bear with me)
I really don't know what to make of this situation. I figure if her IL is as high as she acted she would have called me by now, but who knows.
I need to add that I got her number about three weeks before I asked her out. So we had a little bit of time to get to know eachother.
Thanks for taking the time to read this. I just want some different perspectives.And if I'm entirely to tired to be posting and I'm not making any sense, then by all means tell me to turn my friggin computer off
In the morning (thurs)we repeat the deed from the night before. Then we head back to her house around 11-12 noon, and then get some breakfast. I dropped her off around 3 . Long first date.
Normally I would treat this as a ONS, but she is cool, at first I thought she was a ditz, she's not, I was wrong. And throughout the entire time we are together she is asking if we can hang out again. I never give her a straight answer, I tell her I have to consult my advisors etc.
We dont see eachother until saturday nite because we work together. There is no touching or anything else while we are at work. We end up being the last two people in the bar, I was closing that night, still no touching etc, but I don't think that I was acting AFC. She says to call her on sunday and leave a message. I didn't call her until that night, I knew she was at the state fair with her family ( I was suppose to be there with another girl, but I cancelled for unrelated reasons), but I left a short message to call me back. She hasn't called back, and I haven't tried calling her again, and I think that she may have quit working at the restaurant ( but not sure yet).
To me this girl is a 8-9. I know that she gets hit on all the time, she is also a bartender at a popular pool hall. So her behavior -wanting to know when we can go out again etc, then not calling me after a week of not talking.. puzzles me.
I don't think that I should next her over one phone call. A lot of shyt can happen like not getting a message or whatever.
Hell, she may even be pissed at me for calling when I was absolutely certain she was not home (I think she may have wanted me to go to the fair with her)
(I'm tired and cannot think clearly right now so bear with me)
I really don't know what to make of this situation. I figure if her IL is as high as she acted she would have called me by now, but who knows.
I need to add that I got her number about three weeks before I asked her out. So we had a little bit of time to get to know eachother.
Thanks for taking the time to read this. I just want some different perspectives.And if I'm entirely to tired to be posting and I'm not making any sense, then by all means tell me to turn my friggin computer off