Girl Flaked on tonight - Couldnt believe it

[Crissco]

Interest level was very high the last couple of days, we hung out Sunday night. We had plans for the past 3 days to hang out tonight, we talked on the phone last night for a while, had a good time, confirmed shes gonig to come over for a bit then were going to go out.

Then today she texts me and tells me she has no money, car is low on gas, and feels uncomfortable coming over and doesn't want to rush, because last time we hung out we went back to my house and went a little "fast"

Dont know what to think here, it could be another guy, she could be telling the truth, dont know.

What does sosuave think of this?

 

[Crissco]

I already responded, acted like it didnt matter, this was an hour ago. I was thinking that too, about going no contact for a week or so

 

[gspshields2]

Game over man. No matter what you do.

 

[Crissco]

Game over man. No matter what you do.

Not true at all.

 

[Iceberg]

Don't respond to her text. Not a word.

Wait or week or two then re-invite her out.

Don't bother trying to figure out the reasons for her flaking. It's futile and will lead only to frustration.

Espi is right. Never waste time trying to figure out what goes on in the crazy mind of a woman.

Just brush it off, try again.

Game over man. No matter what you do.

I might take you seriously if I thought you knew a thing about women.

 

[Crissco]

Espi is right. Never waste time trying to figure out what goes on in the crazy mind of a woman.

Just brush it off, try again.



I might take you seriously if I thought you knew a thing about women.

Exactly what im going to do. Thanks guys

 

[gspshields2]

Espi is right. Never waste time trying to figure out what goes on in the crazy mind of a woman.

Just brush it off, try again.



I might take you seriously if I thought you knew a thing about women.

IceBerg I know a thing or two about rejection since ive been rejected more times than anyone else here and I can tell u when the game is over.

Please update this thread in 2 weeks, I will check back, i will be very surprised if this isnt game over.

 

[PokerStar]

IceBerg I know a thing or two about rejection since ive been rejected more times than anyone else here and I can tell u when the game is over.

you dont seem very confident in yourself.

 

[Crissco]

IceBerg I know a thing or two about rejection since ive been rejected more times than anyone else here and I can tell u when the game is over.

Please update this thread in 2 weeks, I will check back, i will be very surprised if this isnt game over.

And i quote

"But back to talking about flakey women: Women act odd and unpredictably, often even more so when they ARE interested in a guy. It makes no logical sense, but there you have it.

Believe it or not, you are actually a problem for some women who are interested in you. Think about it this way: She has a pretty orderly life. You pose a threat to that orderliness. You represent risk to her. You are someone who could break her heart, knock her up with a baby, take up weekend nights, and cause her to be vulnerable as hell. Therefore, in her flakey little mind, it makes sense to NOT go out with you. Besides, this way she has all the power, and that is often something women love, too."

 

[Masculinity]

Crissco, I have talked to you a few times and you seem to have your game together. I had a girl do this to me before when I invited her over to my apartment. She didn't want to seem easy or like a slut. I am 90% sure that is the case with your plate. I would talk to her in a few days and try to have her come over again. If she declines, then change the location. If she has high IL like you said, she will come home with you sooner or later.

Females are very concerned about their reputation. My secret sentence is: "You coming over(or whatever it is you're doing) is not going to change my impression of you. We're just hanging out and if something happens it's all my fault " It works well for me. Let us know how this goes.

 

[Crissco]

Crissco, I have talked to you a few times and you seem to have your game together. I had a girl do this to me before when I invited her over to my apartment. She didn't want to seem easy or like a slut. I am 90% sure that is the case with your plate. I would talk to her in a few days and try to have her come over again. If she declines, then change the location. If she has high IL like you said, she will come home with you sooner or later.

Females are very concerned about their reputation. My secret sentence is: "You coming over(or whatever it is you're doing) is not going to change my impression of you. We're just hanging out and if something happens it's all my fault " It works well for me. Let us know how this goes.

Thanks bro thats what im leaning more towards to. But only time will tell with this one what it truly is, ill keep you guys updated.

 

[nismo-4]

Interest level was very high the last couple of days, we hung out Sunday night. We had plans for the past 3 days to hang out tonight, we talked on the phone last night for a while, had a good time, confirmed shes gonig to come over for a bit then were going to go out.

Then today she texts me and tells me she has no money, car is low on gas, and feels uncomfortable coming over and doesn't want to rush, because last time we hung out we went back to my house and went a little "fast"

Dont know what to think here, it could be another guy, she could be telling the truth, dont know.

What does sosuave think of this?

Judge nismo thinks she has another guy.

I hope you're spinning more plates. Don't sweat this rejection, it happens to us all. Women control the dating game. And don't wonder and worry about why it happened. The result is that IT F**KIN' HAPPENED! No matter how you look at it.

You never know, there's a myriad of reasons why she flaked.

1. You're not interesting enough
2. You ain't rich
3. You're ugly
4. You have a bad rep
5. You don't drive a Benz
6. You have no charm
7. You look like a rapist
8. Another guy who's better than you came along
9. You're not fit
10. You told a lame joke
11-? This list goes on and on.

Just go after another woman. Forget about this one.

Go no contact!

Case closed.

 

[pdx1138]

Objection, your Honor:

Crissco, if you nearly banged her at your place or did bang her and you two just met, it's quite possible she's a quality girl that would like to get to know you more first...

she doesn't want you to think she's some ho that will bang right away.

very possible.

next time you two go out, don't take her back to your place. see where it goes from there.

the girl I'm seeing now, didn't bang right away. I tried on the 3rd date and almost got there.
On the 4th date she was all over me. Now she wants sex every time we hang out.

 

[Crissco]

Objection, your Honor:

Crissco, if you nearly banged her at your place or did bang her and you two just met, it's quite possible she's a quality girl that would like to get to know you more first...

she doesn't want you to think she's some ho that will bang right away.

very possible.

next time you two go out, don't take her back to your place. see where it goes from there.

Didnt bang, she didnt want to the first time since it was the first time we met. I am soo not used to that lol Im used to the first date bang, but truth be told shes a cool girl and i would like to get to know her better too. I think i might take it slow for once. haha

Thats exactly what im going to do. Well go out and keep it strictly a date and fun, no sex involved. Show her im "different"

 

[pdx1138]

and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Quality, long term worthy women often won't fvck so quickly.
After they know you a little better they'll be more than willing.

Let us know how it go's.

 

[Crissco]

and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Quality, long term worthy women often won't fvck so quickly.
After they know you a little better they'll be more than willing.

Let us know how it go's.

Def will, keep u guys updated. Thanks bro

 

[Crissco]

This one thing got to me though. She texted me and told me money was tight, and has no gas in car. On her facebook it shows her horoscope for the day and it read this.

"Your finances could be a bit tight today and a friend who wants to go out and have some fun may not understand the limits of your pocketbook."


I dont know what to think now, if its coincidence, or wtf it is lol. Im gonig to give it a shot still but this has got me thinking.

 

[drak_ool]

most girls who flake on you last minute are a lost cause... They were discussing this on Heartiste not too long ago and there seemed to be agreement on the following solution:

when she sends you the flakey text, don't respond until the nxt day (a week would really be pushing it, plus you come off as bitter... respond too early and you come off as too accomodating/nice guy).

Ideally, you want to give her the chance to apologize for flaking but even if she doesn't, send her a quick non-needy response (which you did in this case) to reschedule. DO NOT INVEST ANY MORE TIME INTO THIS CHICK. she's already flaked on you once, so you know her IL can't be that high. If she makes it up at the next meeting, then you might reconsider, but don't hold your breath on that as most likely she's a lost cause...

 

[Robert28]

whenever a woman flakes on me I usually forget to call her again a week or a few days later as I've most of the time already met someone new and working on that. you can usually tell how high a woman's IL is after a flake by the fact they SHE will get in touch with YOU. I've had that happen and it's been all good. The one's that I never hear from again are quickly forgotten about as I've usually already moved on.

On the other hand I'm surprised that she didn't counter offer you tonight. Like when she didn't want to come over she could have said something like "well how about we go see a movie instead" or something to that effect.

 

[BigSmooth]

Sometimes $hit does happen. People do run low on money, car breaks down, dog eats homework...etc.

She couldn't go this one time, no big deal. Play it cool and collective, and confidently ask her out again (but not too soon).


If she keeps on flaking though, ditch her. I love telling flakers, "Well it was a pleasure meeting you but you're really kind of boring because I never get to see you which is a shame." Leave it at that. If she tries to get in touch with YOU afterwards...

You know her intentions then.