Girl doesn't respond

[sh8716]

Hey everyone,
So there is this girl that I like and we both go to the same college but I don't see her around very often. Because of that I try to talk to her on facebook. I tried talking to her on fb at the end of last year but she wasn't very talkative so I just dropped it. Now it's a new school year and I decided to try again. Anyway I decided to poke her on facebook (dumb I know) and she poked back and it went back and forth for a little while but she eventually stopped. I tried talking to her a couple days ago and she eventually messaged back. The fb conversation is below:

hey katie
hello?

hi steve!

long time no talk. how's it going? how was your summer?

haha yeah. it's going good. glad to be back. also good. went too fast. how about you?

summer was fun, really busy but still fun. yeah its good to be back at school, I won't be saying that in December but for now it's good haha. how's your classes so far?

pretty good. long..

i know what you mean. i have a couple 1 day a week classes this semester which sucks because theyre like 3 hours long. what's your major?

Now she hasn't been responding even though she has seen the message. So my question is should I send it again or just move on. I wanted to ask her to hang out together but if she doesn't respond to my messages or I have to write them twice then to me she doesn't seem interested. Should I just repeat the last message or ask her why she isn't talkative or just leave it and move on? I really like her though so I want to try all possible avenues before moving on. Thanks for your advice in advance.

 

[betheman]

she isnt interested and you are trying too hard, wasting time...lots of it! give your energy to the next one

 

[Kbomb]

You need to learn how to open up subjects and get a real convo flowing. That there was a how's the weather conversation and your basically telling this girl that your really boring.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

I vote you just cut to the chase...you can build up rapport on FB, but if she's not chatting you back, just fvck it -- say something like, 'we should get together soon and catch-up' and invite her out to coffee or something...if she blows off your clear request to chill than f-dat. I don't use FB but don't let her chat responses be the sum-all----try getting her face:face.

word.

 

[VladPatton]

I just went through this with one chick over the past week. Wouldn't come out, ignored text message, and shot down a casual meet up for coffee. No sense in pursuing, the interest level is way low. Just keep her as an occasional friendly distraction if you see her, don't burn that bridge fully, you never know.

 

[sh8716]

Yeah I think I'm just gonna move on. But what sort of topics should I use so it's not a "hows the weather" conversation?

 

[pipe007]

here is what you need buddy...

you never try harder than her...
you take one step forward, and let her take the next, and you have a dance where you two are at worst trying equally hard to keep the ball rolling, and at best she is trying slightly harder to be with you...

never take one step further than she is willing to... because it destroys attraction

 

[Kbomb]

Yeah I think I'm just gonna move on. But what sort of topics should I use so it's not a "hows the weather" conversation?

It's natural man. Your just blocking it up with nervousness and tension because of the fact that you don't want to say the wrong thing. First step is to actually say the wrong thing, then work from there.

There has been millions of years of evolution building your brain which has intricate pathways of social genius lurking within. It will be instinctive after a while. You need to hone this skill but it is also as natural as walking. You need to learn and adjust when you are a baby but after that barring any physical problems, it becomes second nature.

 

[JohnChops]

here is what you need buddy...

you never try harder than her...
you take one step forward, and let her take the next, and you have a dance where you two are at worst trying equally hard to keep the ball rolling, and at best she is trying slightly harder to be with you...

never take one step further than she is willing to... because it destroys attraction

This is great advice. It also makes sure you don't try to hard....

 

[pipe007]

thanks

exactly... if it seems that you are texting her more than she is texting you.. YOU DONT GET IT.

if you are calling her more times that she is calling you.. YOU DONT GET IT.

if you say I miss you, I love you more times that she is telling you ... YOU DONT GET IT...

if you initiate kisses, sex, more times than she does, or you are way more physical than her.... ok blablabal!!! same thing

means you are chasing her more than she is chasing you... you are more attracted to her than she is with you... attraction bound to be lost long term

 

[flashpoint]

just the idea to send that message again shows that you need to learn some stuff. so then you get it. after proceed with the girls.

an idea how you could have done that differently:
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hey katie
hello?

hi steve!

long time no talk. how's it going? how was your summer?

haha yeah. it's going good. glad to be back. also good. went too fast. how about you?

---

you wouldnt believe it. i had the craziest weeks of my life. i almost was about to drop college and pursue a more dangerous kind of career. but i probably shouldn even tell you ...

>>> curiosity kills the cat - what happened ...???

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no, not here on facebook. i dont want anyone else to read this stuff. but i could do coffee if you want to? coz i really want to talk to you. not this week when i am busy but ...day or ... ...day would be fine i guess.

<<< pussay might bite. but it is always 50/50. definitely need to dangle something in front of her that isnt easy to catch.

>>>whatever she says here
- ya great. i am a bit in a hurry. definitely talk to you later (of course not) but got to go now. bye. - and off

---> then when you meet her (provided she contacts you to set that meeting up), tell her some bullshyt story. maybe you got recruited by the army for special ops, did most of the training but then you had to kill a kitten and you just couldnt do it. or you had to ride a whale to save a baby seal. or vice versa. anything. ... actually dont even need to be serious about it.


the most valuable lesson you will learn is to never take anything seriously in this game, and especially not what a girl says, does, thinks, wants, ..... you name it. you go your way and let them follow you. anytime these roles are reversed you ll get into trouble. to tease, to trick, to touch is never wrong. and generelly having fun with them.

#
ya and read the DJ Bible

 

[sh8716]

Hey guys thank you so much for all the advice!!! I've read through all of it a couple times and it's great. Anyway, a couple days ago I decided to have this f*ck it attitude and just asked flat out if she wanted to get together on saturday night and she said she had a wedding but didn't recommend another date. Should I just say nothing back or say "Oh ok no big deal." and just leave it or suggest another day or ask her what she wants to do? Thanks again for all the advice!

 

[Tiguere]

Hey guys thank you so much for all the advice!!! I've read through all of it a couple times and it's great. Anyway, a couple days ago I decided to have this f*ck it attitude and just asked flat out if she wanted to get together on saturday night and she said she had a wedding but didn't recommend another date. Should I just say nothing back or say "Oh ok no big deal." and just leave it or suggest another day or ask her what she wants to do? Thanks again for all the advice!

MOVE ONNNNN.

 

[Purefilth]

Hey guys thank you so much for all the advice!!! I've read through all of it a couple times and it's great. Anyway, a couple days ago I decided to have this f*ck it attitude and just asked flat out if she wanted to get together on saturday night and she said she had a wedding but didn't recommend another date. Should I just say nothing back or say "Oh ok no big deal." and just leave it or suggest another day or ask her what she wants to do? Thanks again for all the advice!

Personally, I might try one more time since I'm quite persistent. However with the backstory you've given so far, move on. Small chance that her seeing you with another girl could spark a little interest, but at the moment, you're dead in the water. She has no interest.

NEXT!

 

[Greasy Pig]

No attempt at rescheduling on her part means she's not interested.
Cut this one and use what you've learned on the next one.
And there's ALWAYS a next one.
Don't contact her again.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Everything you say is interesting when a girl is into you.