Girl comes on to me, then acts rude?

[Gunselny]

I host a party at a restaurant for my boss, the female manager is nothing but accomodating and pleasant, never get a vibe she likes me, night of party comes by table runs her hand across my back, go to pay bill after, she invites me to have a drink with her her, cool, asks my age 30? No older 35? No older, say 36 cause I'm closer to 36, she acts mature, smokes drinks ands where's too much make up like a guidette that makes her look older she is 25, she literally makes a face at my statement, can't take back the offer but ditches me at the bar, I got the message and leave her alone act as if it never happened, told my female coworker and she talks to her a few weeks later, tells her I am SO good looking but my age put her off, ever since she is nothing but rude when we go in for food, you could cut the tension with a knife, would any of you have pursued that? Female coworker says that it I never came back at her and she feels rejected, I feel I got rejected here, sorry long story, appreciate your thoughts.

 

[dustmuffin]

You didnt play her game.....how thoughtless..
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[Sprayarc]

Wait. What statement did she make a face at? The way you wrote your post is confusing...

 

[Gunselny]

She made a face when I stated my age, it was outside her acceptable range I presume, I had ask how old she was because as I said the smoking, drinking, tanning and too much make up lifestyle I would have sworn she was 30-32, like I said I took offense at her making a face at me and then ditching me at the bar, I got the message, never mentioned it to her and never treated her any differently than before that incident, but her continued rudeness and attitude bother me, didn't have the player skills and now I'm trying to educate myself on how to deal with these things, just want to use it as a learning experience, thanks

 

[BatJuan]

You write like you speak, and that doesn't translate well on the internet. Try using coherent sentences.

I don't know how long you've known this broad, but sometimes if a girl thinks highly of a guy and then he doesn't act as she's expecting, she'll start doing the rude thing. A lot of times it'll involve picking on you or criticizing you about stupid stuff. Why? Think of it this way... If a girl likes you, she sees value in you. You're special in her eyes. If that translates into you later rejecting her, whether it be deliberate or because you didn't act, then she'll feel bad because she'll think she wasn't worthy. She didn't meet your standards. It's sort of demoralizing.

Imagine a child being dissed by his favorite super hero. That sucks for the kid. And in this case it sucks for the girl. So in response to the rejection, she'll treat you bad to diminish your value. She's trying to pull you down a notch. She's trying to convince herself that you're not as awesome as she once thought you were.This rationalization process makes it easier for her to cope with the rejection. Instead of some awesome dude rejecting her, it's now just some loser guy who wasn't that special anyway (or at least that's what she'll tell herself).

It's mostly subconscious on the woman's part. Chicks act on emotion, and so when you hit them with negative emotions in the form of rejection, they'll try to neutralize it. Sometimes she may key your car. Other times she may just be rude. But it will usually come at your expense.

 

[nismo-4]

She's just trying to lessen the rejection you gave her. She wasn't interested in you anyway. You can do better.

 

[Gunselny]

Would any of you guys have pursued anything with a girl after that? She makes a face at you and then dips out on you at the bar. I felt the message was loud and clear, didn't see anything to salvage and I'm not desperate. I just don't see how I rejected her unless she was just used to guys falling at her feet and putting her on a pedastel. Now I know to flip the script with the age ***** test, thanks for the replies

 

[Poon King]

She needs to play YOUR game.. never the other way around. Don't deal with b!tches that confuse you.

In situations where I find myself confused.. I simply get physical.. then try to kiss her. When you force a woman to make an immediate decision.. you rob her of her ability to manipulate you. She is FORCED to respond honestly by either letting you stick your tongue down her throat or rejecting you.. proving she is not interested.

Knowledge is power. Women thrive on keeping men in the dark about where they stand. You can destroy her game by creating situations where honesty is her only choice. I weed out so many dead fish this way.

 

[old_skoolr]

Why do you feel you got rejected??

The manager is cut coz your hot but outside her dating range.

So her own retardation and stupidity is stopping her from doing anything with you.

Be happy, b1tches be cut coz they cant have you

 

[parkthebus]

I guess that she **** tested you over your age and you responded seriously.

 

[Gunselny]

Hey thanks again for the input, I got pissed because she gave me that dirty look, I let my pride get the better of me, should have played it through for all it was worth and just got the experience, I took it personally, big mistake, they way she spoke to my coworker later she must have really liked me and that makes all the sense. She came on to me and I didn't even bother with her after that, women only get with men they feel are higher in value as was said above and now for her own self respect she can't treat me well because I didn't value her enough to try anything else, just wrote her off. I wasn't understanding the rudeness towards me when I never treated her any different but it all makes sense, thanks again guys.

 

[Gunselny]

How would you guys go back and talk to this girl now? Thinking as a learning exercise. Call her on her rude behavior? Neg her? I was thinking about calling out her age and immaturity about how she behaved to get her to justify herself. I'd welcome your input.

 

[parkthebus]

I don't think it will work. Don't even bother trying to rationally discuss a woman's behaviour. It's like telling off a child, even though they know they're behaviour was bad they don't care, otherwise they wouldn't have done it in the first place. In fact, that applies to most men too but definitely all women. Just act confident and playful. The moment you start to take a woman seriously, she will stop taking you seriously.

 

[Poonani Maker]

This is the type of b!tch that will hit YOUR car and tell you it's YOUR fault and ask you to "move please" (cause she needs to go home) so she can drive away (her car's a piece of Sh!t). These are very POOR specimens (not even sure I'd fvck one). Utter trash with mayonnaise as their souls. Believe me, I've run into one recently probably half my age, she gave me her number, and not because of the accident.

 

[Yewki]

How would you guys go back and talk to this girl now? Thinking as a learning exercise. Call her on her rude behavior? Neg her? I was thinking about calling out her age and immaturity about how she behaved to get her to justify herself. I'd welcome your input.

She sounds emotionally stupid, you sure you want to bother with her?

 

[SgtSplacker]

It's a trick to get you to try and qualify for her. I would have said my age and just kept on having fun with her. At the end of the night she would have been swallowing my load in my car. And my age would never come into play because she would have never seen my arse again. This is noob shiiit you guys have to be better and see past this nonsense for what it is. I guess this is what you are here for actually...


Like as if I would be considering for LTR some sluut desperate enough to be asking men out instead of waiting to be asked out like a lady should. And not even for coffee or something noble but to drink alcohol. Obvious ***** red light right there, she's only good for a BJ in my book, there has to be something wrong with her... Then before she gives in and bangs you she does what any girl will do and gives you the most basic last minute shiit test and asks you your age like she did. If you would have passed that test I can almost guarantee she would have all of a sudden gotten super drunk.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I guess we all agree about OPs mistake, the question is what should have he said and done after that question about his age?

It happened to me sometime and answered stuff like "turning 72 next week" with an ironic sad face, it limited the damage but I dont feel it totally worked.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I guess we all agree about OPs mistake, the question is what should have he said and done after that question about his age?

It happened to me sometime and answered stuff like "turning 72 next week" with an ironic sad face, it limited the damage but I dont feel it totally worked.

With a big ol smile I would have told her "relax honey nobody is looking to get married here any time soon I think I like the single life" made a joke of the whole thing and gone on to talk about what I did last weekend, easy as that. That girl just totally put herself out there by asking you your age. She just showed you she is not open minded, that she is looking to settle down and that she is a little bit desperate about it too. A single woman of high value gets approached by men constantly or there is something wrong with her. Perfect opportunity to not give any fuucks completely derail her and neg her a bit. I just would have kept the conversation flowing into something a little more light hearted and talked about how I enjoy being single and meeting different people.


This approach does two things, it lets her know you enjoy spending time with different people. It let's her know you don't want anything from her but her company. And it sets good groundwork for you to ask her out again and it's not like some cheesy azz date scenario. You're just a dude in the universe enjoying the company of good souls and a pint. This is always my frame when i'm meeting girls. Anything else a girl does and I just ignore her and continue with my intention of enjoying my evening. You're already spending time with her and that is the single most important thing you have to do to lay her. You don't have to project your intentions by letting her know you are trying to meet girls or by trying to qualify yourself with your age that comes with the territory. Don't show your teeth till the very end.