Girl ask me to come than disappear...

[Von]

So I went to this bday party, I was in front of a girl I knew I want (girl1)and next to a fun girl I just meet (¨who I also wanted)

So I teased both, played fun, screwed up a couple of time.... anyway the girl I knew I wanted (girl1), I asked her phone... she said maybe.... than gave it to me... we texted 2 things (basically: let's get out of here... to which she said yes)

She was always closiing on me, talking to me, inviting me in the discussion, than I texted her: lets go... she said yes

She previously invited me to this techno event...... anyway while leaving she invited the bday girl and her boyfriend.... the bday girl did everything for us to be siting in the cab together etc... basically approved.... the girl i wanted (girl 1) was sitting next to me

Anyway in the club (I hate clubs) we danced, I was doing my stuff etc... 15 minutes later the couple leave, the girl I am into (girl 1) basically was texting her friends the whole night says will come back... 15 minutes no news... so I decide to leave to meet other friends elsewhere.

I see my girl1 with her girlfriends at the bar... don't know if she saw me leave... anyway... still no news from her while I write this at 3:20am.

Basically she ditch me or saw I was gone... I never heard from her when she left with the couple.... she's my type, opened doors for meeting after... or I screwed a to z (which would not surprise me cause I was hitting on 2 girls at the table at the same time... .typical me)... Gotta admit this girl is my type physically....

Now that she never gave back news when the couple (her friend left), I got her friend approval, I left the club without talking or telling her and still got nothing...

I was planning to invite her to a date in 2 weeks when I come back (I am leaving for 2 weeks outside for work), I might have spots to ask her in June but July would be best....

So what would you do? Girl seems not close minded to me from her body and behaviour but she did go NC after the couple left

Should I invite her when I get back like I told I would? Next her? How should I proceed (I am at XXX , there XXX?)

 

[cola]

Writings pretty incoherent, but from what i understand it looks like:

-You had her interest
-You bored her and lost her interest

Id just forget she exists and move on.

 

[Von]

Writings pretty incoherent, but from what i understand it looks like:

-You had her interest
-You bored her and lost her interest

Id just forget she exists and move on.

Agree on build interesting.... didn't escalate.... jammed

I'll shoot her something when I get back in town for a date.

I've been seeing a weak spot in my frame or game.... its social dynamic.

On a 1 on 1, I do pretty great from Number close to Laid but when it comes meeting a girl through a friend... it seems I can build the interest but I jam at escalation.... always because the friend in the area.... like I am too ''ambient wary, start considering the friends thoughts etc..''. Twice in 2 weeks it happened.

1 latina girl.... introduce throught a friend..... built interest but didn't escalate due to the friend being around all the time. So the ''meeting'' dragged until I couldn't close her

This case of last night.... she showed interest, opened doors, but when we got in the club she had her phone in her hands all the time so I jammed there.

I am confident (sometimes people say overconfident), no shyness to approach but escalating in a group setting I always jam at escalating. While solo, do it no prob

Weak spot: Social dynamics

 

[RangerMIke]

Writings pretty incoherent, but from what i understand it looks like:

-You had her interest
-You bored her and lost her interest

Id just forget she exists and move on.

Yep... my take as well.

Something else could have been there was another dude around that she liked better at that particular and she didn't want to scare him off hanging out with you. This actually happened to me at a Marti Gras party a few months ago. Don't take it personal, just move on, act like a man and go after other women.

This particular women that blew me off, just texted me this week out of nowhere. If you act like a man, and she likes you, she will reach out to you when she's available... at that point all you have to do is make a date.

But id you act like a butt hurt little b!tch with no options, she will forget about you.

 

[Von]

Yep... my take as well.

Something else could have been there was another dude around that she liked better at that particular and she didn't want to scare him off hanging out with you. This actually happened to me at a Marti Gras party a few months ago. Don't take it personal, just move on, act like a man and go after other women.

This particular women that blew me off, just texted me this week out of nowhere. If you act like a man, and she likes you, she will reach out to you when she's available... at that point all you have to do is make a date.

But id you act like a butt hurt little b!tch with no options, she will forget about you.

She did pump into her ex-boyfriend who had a date and they texted a while at the restaurant. Don't know if he followed to the club, there was a dozen girls with her after all from the ''same ethnicity'' so maybe she wanted to keep me a secret all ways around (she's the black sheep of a conservative world, she told me she was the only who had sex in her group). However she never gave news, clearly mean she forgot me....

No butt hurt at all and thats why I left to another party meet some other girls. Although, during the night I did tell her i'll take her on a date sometimes when I get back in MTL and we did schedule something for the 19 (she asked me to join her at a concert). Note that was before she went ghost and the club.

I am leaving the city for 10 days, than got work events relaled all nights of the week-end. But when I get back in town, I feel like inviting her for a drink.

She teased when I texted her my name that I had the longest name ever.......... i'll tease her back (she has a short name)... Hey short name, I am back in town, join me for a drink at X, this X

If no positive outcome, i'll go ghost

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Strong points: Built interest, got her number, she invited me to follow her around, had great time at 3 différents parties and meet nice girls

To be developped points: When in a group setting (friends, acquaintance), I become more shy, often due to fear of the reaction of others I don't escalate (although the interest signs are there)... so I lose the girl (or never find out),,,, gotta work on that

 

[Von]

Yep... my take as well.

Something else could have been there was another dude around that she liked better at that particular and she didn't want to scare him off hanging out with you. This actually happened to me at a Marti Gras party a few months ago. Don't take it personal, just move on, act like a man and go after other women.

This particular women that blew me off, just texted me this week out of nowhere. If you act like a man, and she likes you, she will reach out to you when she's available... at that point all you have to do is make a date.

But id you act like a butt hurt little b!tch with no options, she will forget about you.

Been 2 weeks no news. Technically, she had invited me to a concert that's happening tomorrow (but than, she disappeared after, hence the post and no news since). I am gonna ignore that ''concert''. Got couple of others numbers to ask on a date.

But gonna give this girl a last chance:
Monday I was planning on shooting her a text for a date but with a humour touch. I've read here someone who sent that kind of text, so wondering if the writing is good (never did it before) :

''Hey XXX, you've survived your techno concert. Good. I am in town for the next job. I'll be doing this bank robbery soon and need a partner to do the planning. Meet me at X place, X time.''

It's how you would write it?

 

[Styr]

Did you talk to her in the same the manner you wrote this post?

 

[Von]

Did you talk to her in the same the manner you wrote this post?

Ah no lol.... I can't remember half the stuff we talk or did, it was so long ago. Gotta improve on my memory Field Report... i am always impressed how people remember the interaction so well lol..

The texto could have improvement, like no mentions of the concert or I am in town... keep it to the point.