bluesmarties
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Ermmm....Does no one here have a sense of humour?
The point is, I ended it. It became clear that she wasn't being honest during our "conversation", and I realised that:
1) She's been using me
2) She's been cheating, or certainly lying.
Either way I instantly realised I wanted nothing more with her, so ended it.
Having had weeks of living under the thumb and dancing to her tune it felt good because it was the right thing to do.
I won't take back someone who lies. Even if we had got back together the relationship would have gone back to the same dysfunctional mess that it was because she is FUBAR. Period.
I wasn't prepared to entertain it at all.
My commenting "anyone think this can be salvaged" was my little joke....I mean seriously?
What I immediately realised and have thought ever since, is how much better and happier I feel not being in a relationship with someone like her, and I've realised thinking back just how manipulative and destructive she's been throughout.
So I know it's not my fault. It would always have ended at some point. Either she'd have got bored playing with me, cheated and moved on.
Or at some point later on I'd have woken up to what I did last week and finished it anyway.
The only alternative is that we would have stayed together and she'd have spent all my money and made me progressively more miserable.
Am I bitter? Hell no...I consider I've had a really lucky, early escape.
Am I happy? You betcha! I know it was the right move.
Thanks for all the advice, some of which I did take. I got out. There's no point trying to save a relationship with someone who is only going to repeat the same mistakes again and make me unhappy in the main.
The point is, I ended it. It became clear that she wasn't being honest during our "conversation", and I realised that:
1) She's been using me
2) She's been cheating, or certainly lying.
Either way I instantly realised I wanted nothing more with her, so ended it.
Having had weeks of living under the thumb and dancing to her tune it felt good because it was the right thing to do.
I won't take back someone who lies. Even if we had got back together the relationship would have gone back to the same dysfunctional mess that it was because she is FUBAR. Period.
I wasn't prepared to entertain it at all.
My commenting "anyone think this can be salvaged" was my little joke....I mean seriously?
What I immediately realised and have thought ever since, is how much better and happier I feel not being in a relationship with someone like her, and I've realised thinking back just how manipulative and destructive she's been throughout.
So I know it's not my fault. It would always have ended at some point. Either she'd have got bored playing with me, cheated and moved on.
Or at some point later on I'd have woken up to what I did last week and finished it anyway.
The only alternative is that we would have stayed together and she'd have spent all my money and made me progressively more miserable.
Am I bitter? Hell no...I consider I've had a really lucky, early escape.
Am I happy? You betcha! I know it was the right move.
Thanks for all the advice, some of which I did take. I got out. There's no point trying to save a relationship with someone who is only going to repeat the same mistakes again and make me unhappy in the main.
