GFs cans and cannots

[SamePendo]

Hey there

What, in your opinion, can your GF do, and what can´t she do?

Example:


Can
She can go on womens night out all slutted up.
She can go study with some dude

Cannot
She cannot go suntanning with that same dude
She cannot ¨go out¨ with other dudes.

Where do you draw the line?

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

My GF (when I'm exclusive) can do anything she wants to.

But, I make it well known that there's consequences. The second some silly stuff goes down, I'm gone.

I trust her to use good judgement and I expect her to respect me. If you don't have trust, you've got nothing.

The second I know something is up, I walk.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Darn,..

I was hoping someone would post pictures of their girlfriend's 'cans.'

Nyuck, nyuck,...

 

[Desdinova]

She can do pretty much whatever she wants with the exception of anything sexual with any guy. She'll make her choice of who she wants to be with. Once I'm no longer her choice, she's gone.

Other things she should not do:
- No manipulation
- No lying to me
- No stealing from me
- No bossing me around
- No making decisions for me

 

[MR_PERFECT]

SamePendo, I hate to tell you this, but if these questions are being asked by her, she's either testing you, or she's interested in this other guy. Why would she even want to go suntanning with some guy? Do you really think it's for a tan, or to show off her body and check his out?

 

[DJDamage]

Originally posted by SamePendo
Hey there

What, in your opinion, can your GF do, and what can´t she do?

Example:


Can
She can go on womens night out all slutted up.
She can go study with some dude

Cannot
She cannot go suntanning with that same dude
She cannot ¨go out¨ with other dudes.

Where do you draw the line?

I look at it from the perspective of being "normal behaviour" to "abnormal behaviour"

The chick you choose to be your girlfriend should not be doing those things you mentioned above on an on going common basis.

Example: Your girlfriend hardly if ever goes to a clubs all slvtted up but one day she decides to go with her girlfriends dressed like that . Should you be worry? no because this is one occasion in a blue moon which is an "abnormal behaviour" for her. Don't need to panic because you already know that you trust her either wise she wouldn't be your girlfriend in the first place right?!

However if that behaviour repeats itself in which case it becomes a "normal behaviour" for her to go out like that to clubs, then this is something you need to look into. You probably should let her know that you dissaprove of this behaviour in order for her to be back to the way she was.

If your girl argues with you that you are wrong then you best dump her. It should tell you that something is up because she has choosen that "abnormal behaviour" over protecting the nature of your relationship.

 

[SamePendo]

Mr. Badasss. Ok, let´s say you let her do whatever she wants to (my current position) But isn´t it kind of giving candy to a kid... tempting them? Doesn´t one have to have certain... control?

DJD, you just gave words to something I hadn´t been aable tu put into words. You can dump a woman because she no longer is who you got commited to.

Btw, the suntanning situation or any of the examples are not about me... I did this post because recent posts that DID have those situations made me wonder.. Do we have to control?

Kind of one of those things that don´t have to be done, but, since we´re not kids, we have to... know what I mean? On one hand you have a woman... who is an adult who is no baby... and on the other, you have your brain that tells you that not everything has to make absolute sense.

Anyway... if she´s unfaithful, she´s unfaithful, end of story. Right?

 

[zerocelcius]

Can's: Whatever I allow her to do!

Can'ts: Everything unless otherwise stated by ME!

(don't believe everything you read)

 

[NewMan]

But isn´t it kind of giving candy to a kid... tempting them? Doesn´t one have to have certain... control?

If she doesn't have control, then what's a DJ like you doing with her? Because, let me tell you, you can NEVER have control - not 100% of the time.

She's not a little kid she's a grown woman.

2 different things.

If she can't tell the difference of what is respectfull and what is not - do yourself a favour and get the hell out. Like right now.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

The one thing that every relationship needs to survive is TRUST.

If you don't have trust, then you have nothing.


You need to be comfortable with yourself, and comfortable with whoever you're with. Why would you date someone if you don't trust her?

There's some stuff that should be common sense as far as what she can and can't do. I never set up any rules with a girl I'm seeing. That would just make me appear insecure and unworthy.... I do, however, make it clear that if she gives me any realreason to doubt her, and does things with poor judgement (not said in a harsh way, either) I will walk.

 

[nishbuk]

You know...After reading a book like "The Game", it's going to be extremely hard to trust any woman again. I truly understand now, what it means when we say, "Women are slutz".