GF - To be or not to be? (Fairly long)

[PeterCrouch]

I have a situation I need help with. I'm currently in a 11 and half month relationship. I have just arrived back from travelling with this girl around USA and The Bahamas. (Were from Britain). However while travelling I found out she cheated me before we left. I read an email she wrote to a friend of hers saying

"For the last 2 months I have been having a secret affair. Bla Bla Bla. He's away alot but everytime we go out together we end up back at one of ours places. Bla Bla Bla." She also said they had been texting alot.

I also read a text from her to another friend saying how she was over the love triangle and that I was the best guy for her, she had her "not so fun" and knows now i'm the best guy to be with.

I also read a bit of paper (Used as a diary entry maybe?) that she wrote saying how much she was in love with me and loads of other gay **** about how im perfect for her (this was dated and wrote during the summer while we were away together so after the cheating above).

I confronted her about this email I read and she claimed it was 2 drunken kisses, one while we ended up in bed but only a lil kiss happened before we stopped and fell asleep and the other was in a club where after the kiss they said they shouldnt be doing this and agreed never again.

She also says she never thought about leaving but only did it because times were hard between us at the time. (Which is pretty true but still no excuse)

I didnt get angry, I told her how disgraceful she'd been but for the sake of my trip that I was on with her, I told her we could get through this and I would think about things at the end of the summer and we carried on through the trip. It made things awkard at times but I love her enough and were great together that we just got on with having a great time. I told myself I wouldnt let her ruin my travels.

Now I'm back and i dont know what to do. I dont know whether to believe what she told me, bearing in mind what it says in the email contradicts what she told me (she claims she was attention seeking to the person in the email so was making the problem seem worse than it was).

I also have a bit of guilt in my mind, because I have cheated on her 3 times and she still doesnt know about those times. Two of them were only kisses, 1 was a kiss and a fumble in a bed but nothing happened.

Another problem is its her birthday in 6 days. I have booked (before I found out) a trip away in a few weeks and hotels and flights are all paid for. If I break up with her (Which I said to her I always would if she ever cheated on me) then do i go through with the trip or do i waste the tickets and hotel I have for that?

Thanks for reading if you made it and any help you can give.

PC

 

[true romance]

Trust your instinct, what does it tell you...both of you cheated..can you still look in her eyes and love her?

from what sosuave preach here...if you ask what to do at sosuave, most likely you already know the answer.


If you intend to break up with her, finish the trip. bang her brain out and break up with her when you are back.

-If it's a moral question, break up with her then go out seduce another girl and bring her to your trip. (6 days is doable !!!)

-or go with a buddy and have fun.


---Also even when you two are going through tough time she should stick with you, not cheated... it shows quality (obviously apply to you as well).

Good luck

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I could go a couple ways about this. But, what the bottom line is. Dump her. She may of cheated on you cause your gone so much and your not giving her the "affection" she needs. You cheated on her three times. So, you probably don't really like her that much anyways.

 

[KontrollerX]

Dude...

She fvcked and sucked this guy.

Don't believe her bullsh!t of oh it was just a kiss.

All women say that sh!t to avoid getting called out for what they really did and because they think most guys are stupid enough to believe that.

And even if it was some form of cheating that is considered light it still doesn't change the fact that the trust bond was broken and once thats gone no relationship can ever be repaired.

People waste their money on marriage counselors and books and bullsh!t like that when they just should accept the relationship is over the minute one of you exchanged intimacy of some form with someone else.

Doesn't matter if its emotional or physical cheating both break the trust bond and emotional intimacy just means the cvnts heart is with someone else anyway which will lead her to physically cheat.

Dead relationship.

Accept that your relationship is over and move on to greener pastures and a brighter tomorrow.

Your girl fvcked up and does not deserve you.

At all.

If you're still not convinced go to a pornsite and watch your favorite pornstar be it Jenna Haze, Jasmine Byrne or whoever most looks like your girl getting railed and sucking some guy off and loving it and then picture your sweet little princess doing the same with some stud she was seeing on the side that you didn't know about until recently.

Yeah take that image in.

Now think...

Do you want to let that piece of garbage have her cake and eat it too by having done that with another man and still get to be with you and go on trips???

Do you want to kiss the mouth of a woman you loved who cheated on you and had some other man's c0ck and sperm hitting the back of her tonsils???

If you do you are pathetic.

If you don't welcome to manhood.

Dump that b!tch.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Dude...

She fvcked and sucked this guy.

Don't believe her bullsh!t of oh it was just a kiss.

All women say that sh!t to avoid getting called out for what they really did and because they think most guys are stupid enough to believe that.

And even if it was some form of cheating that is considered light it still doesn't change the fact that the trust bond was broken and once thats gone no relationship can ever be repaired.

People waste their money on marriage counselors and books and bullsh!t like that when they just should accept the relationship is over the minute one of you exchanged intimacy of some form with someone else.

Doesn't matter if its emotional or physical cheating both break the trust bond and emotional intimacy just means the cvnts heart is with someone else anyway which will lead her to physically cheat.

Dead relationship.

Accept that your relationship is over and move on to greener pastures and a brighter tomorrow.

Your girl fvcked up and does not deserve you.

At all.

If you're still not convinced go to a pornsite and watch your favorite pornstar be it Jenna Haze, Jasmine Byrne or whoever most looks like your girl getting railed and sucking some guy off and loving it and then picture your sweet little princess doing the same with some stud she was seeing on the side that you didn't know about until recently.

Yeah take that image in.

Now think...

Do you want to let that piece of garbage have her cake and eat it too by having done that with another man and still get to be with you and go on trips???

Do you want to kiss the mouth of a woman you loved who cheated on you and had some other man's c0ck and sperm hitting the back of her tonsils???

If you do you are pathetic.

If you don't welcome to manhood.

Dump that b!tch.

Kontroller.... your really laying down the law here... :cuss: Don't make the guy have too many thoughts :crazy:

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Lol while kontroller is 100percent right.... Also put into account that he cheated also 3times... Wat goes around comes around so dont be a hyprocite like you are 100percent innocent since u cheated also. Still yea dump her but u cheated also dont forget that

 

[JDA70]

So you both messed around a little bit.
I say you keep with her and also date other women.
It's really not that complicated.
Like YoungSir4sho said "dont be a hyprocite."

 

[The Bat]

Didn't we tell you when this LDR started that this was going to end up badly? (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=132783)

Dude, you're one of the biggest AFCs around who refuses to learn from other people's and his own mistakes. You have such a narrow tunnel vision that you just come on here and want to be told what you want to hear. Anything else is just wrong and hateful, isn't it? Just like this post and KontrollerX's post will sound to you.

What are you like 19? Or 22 by now?

Don't believe anything she says. Look at her actions. Her actions being in this case 1) her banging some other guy (probably the ex?) and 2) her emailing about it to her friend.

And don't believe her BS about wanting attention from the email friend. What kind of attention does she want from the email friend? Girlfriends don't seek attention from each other...only from guys! Maybe she's emailing a porn producer about what a naughty little slut she is so she can get hired for the next bukake volume?!

I'd take somebody else on the trip with me. Maybe your best friend or another girl. I doubt you can get a refund for the tickets now. Just bring somebody else with you and have a grand time!

But you're not going to do that, are you? You're going to go on your little trip with your girlfriend, have a great time together, sit under the stars and confess your love for each other, forgive each other and give the relationship another chance, and make up! Right?

I'm going to be the first guy to say, "I told you so!" when you make a thread few months from now that either reads, "Help! My gf broke up with me! How do I get over her?" or, "I think my gf cheated again but not sure and love her too much! Help!".

Dump her cvm filled ass now. Otherwise, don't whine next time another dude shoots his load down her throat.

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