gf says guy wants to shoot nude pics of her

[turf82]

Got a random text from my gf last night that said

"I guess I have the "natural beauty" look for p0rn."

I knew where this was headed and figured some guy was hitting on her so I joked and said "Did you go for a casting call and audition for a role?"

she replied "haha nope. Some guy messages me on myspace and then found me on facebook."

I thought that was strange and decided to play along. How would he know her facebook if he didn't know her name because her name isnt listed on myspace. The only way was if she gave it to him.

she wote back and said "This guy wants to pay me to pose nude for him. He says it will be kept private if I want it to."

A lot of lame guys try that with women but my gf is hot and i'm sure he sought her out online. I played along more to see what she was going to say.

She said "The only person I want seeing me nude is you. But then again the money aspect could be great. what do you think?" said she would show me the conversation.

She is usually sarcastic with things but from text you cant really tell. I was at work and was hard to talk. So when I had a break I went on myspace and looked ar her "new friends" and a new profile with some guy was added. the profile was private and was a black and white of some chick's legs over the tub. so she added this guy and that irritated me. I dont have a facebook anymore so I can't see if he is a friend on there too.

so i wrote back to her..."it sounds weird to me."

she wrote back..."yeah thats why i'm so unsure about it all. plus i dont want any pics of me all over the web."

So now idk wtf said " not sure why you would consider it."

she wote back "I wasn't he said it would be clothed but the he brought out the nude part."

i was busy at work so i couldnt keep talking so some time passed and she wrote back "you seem quiet. are you annoyed with me?"

told her I was working and was hard to talk. Then an hour later she texts me a funny story and today acts like it never happened.

We've been together for over a year and never even had a fight. She's been a good gf and guys do notice her because of her looks and body. I've been away at school and just got back a few days ago but the time away has got me thinking that it would be fun to date other girls. When I go out with my friends I get hit on by other girls and get numbers and would like to use them but having a gf prohibits me from that. I want to enjoy life and felt its time to move on. So idk of I should be concerned about this guy or not wanting to take pics. But the fact that she added him as a friend should be a red flag. If she had no interest in that why be a friend on there. Not sure about the facebook because her friends and her stuff is private and I can't see. I had no reason to break up with her before so I see this as an opening where I can use this guy and the "friend request" as way in my favor. Also, if there is something to it I dont want to go down that road. My friend behind my back made a fake account a month ago and tried hitting on her just to see what she would do and she ignored the messages so for whatever that is worth I know that she wasnt accepting random dudes offers but this sends up a flag to me.

what do you guys think?

 

[foreverAFC]

i dont have any real advice for you other than i know some girls really like the idea that people would want to see nude pics of them and whatnot, i think they just feel really sexy. sometimes it could be a phase, i had a female friend once who was definitely preoccupied with the idea of being photographed newd and would bring it up often.

obviously she is thinking about it, maybe you should just step in and tell her you want to take pics of her yourself, and use the situation to make her feel sexy. then you can keep the nude pics for yourself as well or make your own personal porn with her

 

[blindnowisee]

She's looking for you to set some boundaries.

 

[5string]

I found myself in this situation while in college. My girl was an art major. Some chump art major photographer dude wanted her to pose nude for a photo shoot. She told me she was gonna do it because it "was just art" and the human body was beautiful.

Maybe so, but I kicked that bytch to the curb. Just by saying she was gonna do it was enough for me to drop her like a bag of hammers.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I couldn't allow this. Almost every photographer I've known has managed to talk girls into posing nude for them.
And the number of times they've then managed to fvck these girls was ridiculous.
Say no. It's unacceptable.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Meditate on this phrase:

"Assumed authority"

When you assume authority with the same conviction that you know the sky is blue, your authority is rarely questioned simply because you yourself don't question it. That's the kind of authority women like and need (tho they may weakly protest at first).

When you attempt to excersize authority without that conviction, you come across as angry beta.

This is very difficult for the younger man to pull off, but definitely do-able. It takes massive confidence and an attitude of abundance (she is replaceable).

When a man assumes authority, there is no drama, there is only your law and she knows it (naturally this is offset in your day-to-day by treating her well and taking good care of her).

My assumed authority would entail telling her it is out of the question and I would convey "shock" (a little bit of acting) and disappointment that she would even consider such a thing.

Women have no moral compass whatoever and must take their cues from outside sources. She was presented with an ego-stroking proposal and had no idea under the sun what the right thing to do was. She floated it past you in order to see your reaction, and that will be her deciding vote. She is incapable of making the evaluation of right and wrong herself.

Lay down the law and I think she will abide by it. She was asking for your permission, and any bad feelings she has about feeling "controlled" will be offset by her feeling protected and guided. I can tell by the tentative way she presented it to you.

Let us know how this pans out.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Here's something else you need to know: women have a harder time verbalizing the word "no" than guys do. However, they have NO problem telling someone that their significant other is not letting them do something. In short: she needs YOU to be the excuse she can comfortably use when saying no to this guy's offer. Even if it's something she doesn't want to do, having you to use as the excuse will allow her the freedom to reject the offer without feeling bad about it.

Yes, it sounds stupid. But, I remember there were several situations during my younger years where my friends wanted me to do something I wasn't comfortable with, and my Mom would always tell me to just tell them that she said I couldn't do it. That way, she came across as the "bad guy" that was preventing me from doing something I really didn't want to do in the first place.

So, just give her a flat-out "no" and tell her to let dude know you said it. Now, if after this she's still considering it, u may want to start looking for someone else...

 

[Mike32ct]

I'm agree with Harry. She wants a firm direction (ie no) from you. Do that first.

Also, in the highly unlikely event the guy contacts you, just F with him...

Photographer: I know you might be a little uncomfortable with this, but its just art, nothing sexual.

You: I understand. The human body is a beautiful work of art. Done with class, these photographs would be fine.

Photographer: Im glad you understand. When can she start?

You: Actually I'm gonna take her place.

Photographer: Excuse me?

You: My body is also an amazing work of art.

Photograph: I don't photograph men.

You: why not? I have a huge ****.

Photographer: <Hangs up>

You: hahaha. <Problem solved lol>

 

[Solomon]

Either OP is a troll or a vagina....

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Troll, nobody uses myspace anymore.

 

[Aristippus]

Some people on here are too quick to scream "Troll!". Sometimes people are new and inexperienced and need help. And sometimes people have VERY different opinions from you. Just because you lack patience with people who lack experience or just because you're too sensitive and can't handle it when someone has an opinion different from your own doesn't make that person a troll.

 

[Kbomb]

Got a random text from my gf last night that said

"I guess I have the "natural beauty" look for p0rn."

I knew where this was headed and figured some guy was hitting on her so I joked and said "Did you go for a casting call and audition for a role?"

she replied "haha nope. Some guy messages me on myspace and then found me on facebook."

I thought that was strange and decided to play along. How would he know her facebook if he didn't know her name because her name isnt listed on myspace. The only way was if she gave it to him.

she wote back and said "This guy wants to pay me to pose nude for him. He says it will be kept private if I want it to."

A lot of lame guys try that with women but my gf is hot and i'm sure he sought her out online. I played along more to see what she was going to say.

She said "The only person I want seeing me nude is you. But then again the money aspect could be great. what do you think?" said she would show me the conversation.

She is usually sarcastic with things but from text you cant really tell. I was at work and was hard to talk. So when I had a break I went on myspace and looked ar her "new friends" and a new profile with some guy was added. the profile was private and was a black and white of some chick's legs over the tub. so she added this guy and that irritated me. I dont have a facebook anymore so I can't see if he is a friend on there too.

so i wrote back to her..."it sounds weird to me."

she wrote back..."yeah thats why i'm so unsure about it all. plus i dont want any pics of me all over the web."

So now idk wtf said " not sure why you would consider it."

she wote back "I wasn't he said it would be clothed but the he brought out the nude part."

i was busy at work so i couldnt keep talking so some time passed and she wrote back "you seem quiet. are you annoyed with me?"

told her I was working and was hard to talk. Then an hour later she texts me a funny story and today acts like it never happened.

We've been together for over a year and never even had a fight. She's been a good gf and guys do notice her because of her looks and body. I've been away at school and just got back a few days ago but the time away has got me thinking that it would be fun to date other girls. When I go out with my friends I get hit on by other girls and get numbers and would like to use them but having a gf prohibits me from that. I want to enjoy life and felt its time to move on. So idk of I should be concerned about this guy or not wanting to take pics. But the fact that she added him as a friend should be a red flag. If she had no interest in that why be a friend on there. Not sure about the facebook because her friends and her stuff is private and I can't see. I had no reason to break up with her before so I see this as an opening where I can use this guy and the "friend request" as way in my favor. Also, if there is something to it I dont want to go down that road. My friend behind my back made a fake account a month ago and tried hitting on her just to see what she would do and she ignored the messages so for whatever that is worth I know that she wasnt accepting random dudes offers but this sends up a flag to me.

what do you guys think?

This is the part that would bother me. She was definitely thinking of doing something shady.

 

[incognito42]

i dont have any real advice for you other than i know some girls really like the idea that people would want to see nude pics of them and whatnot, i think they just feel really sexy. sometimes it could be a phase, i had a female friend once who was definitely preoccupied with the idea of being photographed newd and would bring it up often.

I know what you mean. It seems like such a wh0rey move too but Ive known some decent girls, with boyfriends at the time, who were swept up by the idea of someone thinking they were pretty enough to photograph them. They didnt go through with it that I know of but is strange to me. Why even entertain the idea if youre a decent girl with a good head on your shoulders? Its so creepy to be propositioned with that by a random person who could or couldnt be telling the truth about who they are. If I had a gf in this situation it may be a real issue for me knowing that her first instinct isnt to assume that persons a creep and blow them off. I dont know though thats just me

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I'd simply tell a chick it won't happen with me and if it did happen it would be without me. A chick even entertaining that thought would be strike one and a red flag. If I'd seen any others previously I'd be ready to bounce. I'd let the rest of you entertain yourselves with trying to be the "man" for a chick like that.

Though I noticed the same thing as a previous poster in this new posters thread....Who uses MySpace these days? Hmm....

 

[zekko]

I knew a girl who posed nude for her art teacher. He painted her. She was smoking hot too, these art guys have some racket going on.

I think girls get very flattered by this sort of thing. Who wouldn't want to be told they're a work of art, or be immortalized? I think most girls would like to be models if they had their way. Maybe they even fantasize that something like this could lead to a modeling gig, or they may even consider it a type of modeling gig. It's an ego boost for them.

PUAs always say don't tell a girl she's beautiful because they hear it all the time. I don't know though, because they sure seem to crave hearing it, maybe it depends on the situation.

I don't really have any advice, aside from what's been given. Obviously if the girl was important to me I wouldn't allow it.

 

[backbreaker]

i had this happen before. i dont' know if it was just beucase i was that ****y or i had that much game but i never was really worried about it. plus i knew the guy from a previous business venture and i knew he hadn't a chance in hell wtih my girl.

here are the pics by the way lol

http://i237.photobucket.com/albums/ff85/strawberryroad/2005-07-06/98c3.jpg
http://i237.photobucket.com/albums/ff85/strawberryroad/2005-07-06/808e.jpg
http://i237.photobucket.com/albums/ff85/strawberryroad/2005-07-06/3f79.jpg

as you can see they were taking in 2005 so this was some time ago but i mean, amber (the girl) was an aspiring model.. I mean she hadn't a chance in hell but she took that **** somewhat seriously.

honestly, i just didn't care enough to really say no. as hard as she worked to lock me up she wasn't gonna throw it away over something that silly.

I mean, we ended up breaking up but this **** here wasn't even a blimp on the radar. Most girls go through this type of phase... and here is what you have to understand, in a woman's mind, fi she was hell bent on cheating, she wouldn't have brought it up. i assure you that she could have done the **** without you finding out. the fact that she is bringing it up should show her intentions are well ment. i'm sure the guy wants to **** her, so does every other guy in class.

maybe it's just me but this just wasn't a big deal to me. this thread shows me just how little world experience most guys have with women. every hot girl on the planent who knows she is hot, goes through a nude/stripper/modeling phase. it's just as mandatory as chickenpox damn near. it's gonna happen. doesn't mean she's a ***** either. every woman who has a smoking body (amber's face, not the best i've ever seen but that woman had an elite body as you can see for yourself) toys with the idea of making money off of it in some way shape or form. Kat the girl who brought me here, would have been a stripper no questions asked if she didn't know she was going to be a news personality one day like hse is now. she was infatuated with the idea of dancing naked for people.

 

[zekko]

See, now that's what this thread needs - more pictures!

 

[incognito42]

Here's something else you need to know: women have a harder time verbalizing the word "no" than guys do. However, they have NO problem telling someone that their significant other is not letting them do something. In short: she needs YOU to be the excuse she can comfortably use when saying no to this guy's offer. Even if it's something she doesn't want to do, having you to use as the excuse will allow her the freedom to reject the offer without feeling bad about it.

Yes, it sounds stupid. But, I remember there were several situations during my younger years where my friends wanted me to do something I wasn't comfortable with, and my Mom would always tell me to just tell them that she said I couldn't do it. That way, she came across as the "bad guy" that was preventing me from doing something I really didn't want to do in the first place.

So, just give her a flat-out "no" and tell her to let dude know you said it. Now, if after this she's still considering it, u may want to start looking for someone else...

If my gf needed me to give her the strength to tell a pervert "no" I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with that girl

 

[bish0p]

I knew a girl who posed nude for her art teacher. He painted her. She was smoking hot too, these art guys have some racket going on.

I think girls get very flattered by this sort of thing. Who wouldn't want to be told they're a work of art, or be immortalized? I think most girls would like to be models if they had their way. Maybe they even fantasize that something like this could lead to a modeling gig, or they may even consider it a type of modeling gig. It's an ego boost for them.

PUAs always say don't tell a girl she's beautiful because they hear it all the time. I don't know though, because they sure seem to crave hearing it, maybe it depends on the situation.

I don't really have any advice, aside from what's been given. Obviously if the girl was important to me I wouldn't allow it.

Yeah, I'm an artist and I usually go to an art class every Sunday to draw nude women. It's easy to get very involved in what you're doing and not think about the girl in a sexual manner.

Same thing with nude males as I have no problems looking at a nude man.

I'm not saying every artist is like this as I've heard of guys who hire nude models just to see nude women, but sometimes it is legit and the artist just wants a female model (especially young and attractive) because they are very popular...just look at video game concept art and comic book art. The females are always very attractive.

Once I get a decent set up going, I will eventually hire female models to work for me and my girlfriend knows this.

Still, if some random stranger came up to my girlfriend and asked her to pose nude, I would be weary of his intentions too and would observe her response to the situation.

 

[goblin123]

get a camera, get some vine and organize a photo shoot for both of you at home ... it will be fun and sexy