GF planned night out with friends on my birthday

[PLAYED]

Saw gfs Facebook that she had made plans to go on a night out, on the date of my bday. Shes had it planned 2 weeks ago, she is aware of the date. Naturally I tried my best to brush off and just ignore her and said i got stuff to do and took her home, she cried along the way asking what's up as shes noticed somethings not right, asking if something's wrong, so I just said "No, just tired, u think too much, so stop crying"

She sends a text straight after "Sorry bout crying babe noo idea why it happened tbh :S. Love yhoo xx"

Replied with "weirdo luv u 2 xx"

Her after "Itz the tabletz ok xx"

Left it at that.

What's the best way to go about this, as I'm pretty peeved that she set this up on the night of my bday. She seems really into me so I'm dumbfounded by it.

Help guys.

This is typed from my iPhone.

 

[DonJuanabe]

Maybe she is planning a surprise party. If she is you're a nimrod. If she isn't you're single.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Girls who are into you don't "seem" into you----you KNOW they're into you because their actions are consistently PROVING this to you on a daily basis.

Girls who are into you think about you and make future plans that always tend to accommodate you----WITHOUT you having to ask them to.

Girls who are into you don't CRY for no reason when they're in the car with you riding home. There's ALWAYS a reason. Is it guilt? Is it shame? Is it that she "can't make herself FEEL like she USED TO feel" about you? Is it that extra-hormonal time of the month for her? What??? There's always a reason.

Girls who are into you always make you feel COMFORTABLE talking to them about how you feel about this or that. Why? Because you know "in your gut" that it would take a helluva LOT more to turn them off and make them lose interest in you than one HONEST conversation.

Girls who are into you don't make you feel like you have to walk on egg shells around them rather than talking to them straight.

Girls who are into you are always looking for ways to make YOU be more into THEM too. De-prioritizing you on your birthday is the opposite of this.

Lastly:

Girls who are into you usually have a faint, underlying fear that they could lose you-------so they do their best to PLEASE you to keep you around.




PLAYED -

Honestly assess your girl in terms of this list that I've just rattled off, and see how many of these characteristics she has. Then ask yourself THIS question:

Does this girl have ANY fear of losing me??? And if not----then WHY?

Oh, and one other thing:

Enough with the texting. Many here may disagree, but oftentimes, "texting" is a very poor alternative to face-to-face communication whenever there's underlying tension in your relationship. It's too easy for HER (and you) to hide behind words on a screen instead of tackling certain issues head on.


V.U.

 

[betheman]

it is possible as suggested she has planned a surprise for your birthday, let it come and go, if she has, great, if she hasnt and she goes out with friends instead, that gives you a pretty clear message.
oh and she is on tabletz??? for what exactly? this line makes me take a step back

 

[PLAYED]

Well the day of my bday is actually the day after, but I have said to her i have got it off to go out for my bday, night before. Maybe I'm rationalising here...

The tablets are a joke, she's not on anything in that respect.

I obviously need to tell her as she has asked what I'm doing for the night out, which I replied not sure yet, not really thought about it.

What step would u guys take now if u were me?

 

[Nutz]

OP, put your age in your profile or your comments will be deleted.

My advice, see what happens. Like one of the other posters said, just her by her actions and not what she says. If her actions are putting her own interests above your own and not showing you she appreciates you and whatnot, then she's either not relationship material or isn't that excited about being in a relationship with you. It would also help to know how long you two have been dating.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Do what the guys up suggested and wait to see how things go that day, once things are done dont take decisions based on emotions, instead have a walk for few hours to relax and come here to report.

We will find what to do, in your case is much better to avoid any emotion bases decision and evaluate different options.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Girls who are into you don't "seem" into you----you KNOW they're into you because their actions are consistently PROVING this to you on a daily basis.

Girls who are into you think about you and make future plans that always tend to accommodate you----WITHOUT you having to ask them to.

Girls who are into you don't CRY for no reason when they're in the car with you riding home. There's ALWAYS a reason. Is it guilt? Is it shame? Is it that she "can't make herself FEEL like she USED TO feel" about you? Is it that extra-hormonal time of the month for her? What??? There's always a reason.

Girls who are into you always make you feel COMFORTABLE talking to them about how you feel about this or that. Why? Because you know "in your gut" that it would take a helluva LOT more to turn them off and make them lose interest in you than one HONEST conversation.

Girls who are into you don't make you feel like you have to walk on egg shells around them rather than talking to them straight.

Girls who are into you are always looking for ways to make YOU be more into THEM too. De-prioritizing you on your birthday is the opposite of this.

Lastly:

Girls who are into you usually have a faint, underlying fear that they could lose you-------so they do their best to PLEASE you to keep you around.

PLAYED -

Honestly assess your girl in terms of this list that I've just rattled off, and see how many of these characteristics she has. Then ask yourself THIS question:

Does this girl have ANY fear of losing me??? And if not----then WHY?

Oh, and one other thing:

Enough with the texting. Many here may disagree, but oftentimes, "texting" is a very poor alternative to face-to-face communication whenever there's underlying tension in your relationship. It's too easy for HER (and you) to hide behind words on a screen instead of tackling certain issues head on.


V.U.

Listen to V.U. He's right on-point. I'm often amazed at how many relationships I read about reflect a perceived inability to speak frankly with a woman.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Played, put your age in your profile immediately. I'm going to delete your posts per the forum rules if you don't take care of this.

Some mods just delete without warning. I'm giving you a heads-up. This is the MM forum and age posting is required.

 

[Burroughs]

Girls who are into you don't "seem" into you----you KNOW they're into you because their actions are consistently PROVING this to you on a daily basis.

Girls who are into you think about you and make future plans that always tend to accommodate you----WITHOUT you having to ask them to.

Girls who are into you don't CRY for no reason when they're in the car with you riding home. There's ALWAYS a reason. Is it guilt? Is it shame? Is it that she "can't make herself FEEL like she USED TO feel" about you? Is it that extra-hormonal time of the month for her? What??? There's always a reason.

Girls who are into you always make you feel COMFORTABLE talking to them about how you feel about this or that. Why? Because you know "in your gut" that it would take a helluva LOT more to turn them off and make them lose interest in you than one HONEST conversation.

Girls who are into you don't make you feel like you have to walk on egg shells around them rather than talking to them straight.

Girls who are into you are always looking for ways to make YOU be more into THEM too. De-prioritizing you on your birthday is the opposite of this.

Lastly:

Girls who are into you usually have a faint, underlying fear that they could lose you-------so they do their best to PLEASE you to keep you around.




PLAYED -

Honestly assess your girl in terms of this list that I've just rattled off, and see how many of these characteristics she has. Then ask yourself THIS question:

Does this girl have ANY fear of losing me??? And if not----then WHY?

Oh, and one other thing:

Enough with the texting. Many here may disagree, but oftentimes, "texting" is a very poor alternative to face-to-face communication whenever there's underlying tension in your relationship. It's too easy for HER (and you) to hide behind words on a screen instead of tackling certain issues head on.


V.U.

fantastic writing

but let me throw out this thought to ponder

In a world where every girl fattie or otherwise thinks she is entitled to a combination of the dude from twilight, tom brady, and ryan seacrest....is it possible for a women to care for anyone 'ordinary'.

In short 200lbs five foot four orca biyaches honestly believe that a dude like Tom Brady is what they are entitled to...and that 'oneday its gonna happen'....and the media feeds this delusion.

 

[cordoncordon]

Keep us posted.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Danger asks some really good questions. i mean if you've been dating her for a couple of months, just getting settled into a relationship, I don't think either you or her would care about each other's birthday's that much. Also, she might have forgot that it was your birthday. It took me a few months to remember my GF's birthday

If you've been dating her for a year and she makes other plans, then something might be amiss. Let's say she forgot it was your birthday. You'd expect a girl who was into you to cancel her plans that day, especially if you told her you were going to do something with her that day.

 

[Nutz]

It'd be funny if she goes out and asks what he's doing that night and he says something to the effect of hitting a strip club with his friends for his birthday party. I can just imagine how she'd react if she's *that* type of girlfriend.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Don't know if I'm too late to the party, but post this on your FB:

Last night was a blast! My boys took me to a strip club for my b-day! Damn those chicks was hot!

And leave it at that.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

fantastic writing

but let me throw out this thought to ponder

In a world where every girl fattie or otherwise thinks she is entitled to a combination of the dude from twilight, tom brady, and ryan seacrest....is it possible for a women to care for anyone 'ordinary'.

In short 200lbs five foot four orca biyaches honestly believe that a dude like Tom Brady is what they are entitled to...and that 'oneday its gonna happen'....and the media feeds this delusion.

BURROUGHS,

Our mission is not to feed into the narcissism, the delusions, or the over-inflated sense of entitlement of women with beliefs like that. Leave that self-esteem suicide mission for the army of desperate, thirsty, companionship-starved guys that you see chasin' these kinds of chicks every day.

Our objective is to have (or develop) realistic (but HIGH) standards, stick to them, and then accept or reject the various women that come into our lives with EXTREME prejudice.

My viewpoint on these types of scenarios is this:

Sometimes, it takes awhile to change the whole WORLD. But I'm often surprised at just how QUICKLY many of us can change that part of our world that's within our reach----directly around us.


V.U.

 

[SoSuave666]

No chick 'forgets' your birthday or makes plans otherwise. If you've been dating 3+ months, it's disrespect. No other words for it. Stand up for yourself and tell this broad it's high time she celebrates her new life..without you.

 

[Three]

All good advice above, but I have another take on this. It sounds like GF is not too bright, probably young, and this is a misunderstanding.

Played - Did you actually directly ask her to do something with you on your birthday?

Could she be assuming you had other plans and giving you space?

Don't play the girl game of expecting her to read your mind. If you want her to do something with you on your birthday, come right out and say it to her without flipping out or getting all emotional about it.

 

[pipe007]

You are getting PLAYED!
lol get it? ... played?

 

[sodbuster]

When my wife "forgot our anniversary", I started stashing cash. We were divorced 2 years later...after my son was 12 and could pick where he wanted to live

 

[Aristippus]

Pipe007,

It sounds like you're hosting a new gameshow! You just got PLAYED! I can picture a closeup of a guys face and then "PLAYED" in big red letters being stamped across his face. Throw in some music from the $50,000 Pyramid for an added touch of class.

http://youtu.be/77Ot7X1uUrI