GF dumped me for a shorter, younger guy with $$$

[Slickster]

Yeah I'm feeling a little pissed. My GF dumped me recently and has been seeing a new guy.

I'm friends with her sister too and when I stopped by her work to say hi the *new* boyfriend was there with a sh!t load of shopping bags full of clothes and stuff. He was getting the sister to try everything on and get her opinion. I didn't know it was him at first. Then he got into a car that looked alot like my ex gf's. However it was different. It was all tricked out. Lowered, tinted windows, etc. That's when I put it together.

Sister tells me that *new* guy's dad owns xyz company and the family is loaded$$$. New guy just bought my ex a big screen TV and everything. I asked what does he do for work? Oh he drives a delivery truck for his dad. I'm like fawk!

The two of them have been together for only a few months and he's spending all kinds of cash on her. Like really, would you guys spend the cash to tint the windows in your gf's car??? or buy her a Big screen TV???

Whatever she's a gold digging b!tch I guess. Glad I found that out when I did. She's gone and I'm glad for that.

What pisses me off is that I've worked my ass off my whole life. School, university, my job and I've been very sucessful. I'm not loaded but I'm doing quite well for myself. Then comes along this little punk who has had everything handed to him on a silver platter. HE DRIVES A DELIVERY TRUCK FOR HIS DAD!! The guy probably doesn't know how to do a damn thing. *No offense to any delivery truck drivers out there.

Oh well, I'm venting here sorry.

What did I learn from this relationship:

1. Even the most sincere women with high IL can flake on you at a moments notice. Be extremely wary about who you trust. I'm not sure if I can trust women anymore.

2. Money may be the biggest factor in getting the girl.

3. As soon as you sense something is up with your relationship (ie. her IL is dropping) do something about it IMMEDIATELY!!! Don't let any signs of dropping IL go. Confront the problem head on. Make a stand right there. In my case my gf started withholding sex. I let it go a few times. Then it kept happening. Finally I asked what was going on and she tells me that she isn't attracted to me anymore. I was surprised, hurt, and also very tired at the time. I ended up falling asleep and in the morning I let that comment go. About 2 weeks later we broke up.

What I should have said was, "You're not attracted to me...Okay, get out of my bed. NOW"

I should have dumped her ass right then and there and saved my pride. I guess I was hooked on the sex and her sweet ass though.

Anyways, just thought I'd share that to get some of it off my chest and hopefully some of you LTR guys might learn something.

Hey hey!!! I'm single!!!

 

[Ice Cold]

I'd hit it just for the challenge.

I mean, imagine fukkin the hb behind that guy's back! What an ego boost!

She's with him, because he buys her stuff. I bet there's no emotional connection between them. That is his weak point.

I'd be on the phone right now with: "Janey, you're making a terrible mistake! You can't IMAGINE HOW I FEEL ABOUT YOU. Don't you FEEL ANYTHING?"



Hit it. At least you'll have a great story to tell.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It's good that you're moving on but don't sweat over the new guy. What matters is whether you are satisfied with your own life. If you aren't, just turn it up a notch or two. Don't waste your time comparing yourself to anyone else, it'll always be a mismatch and that seldom does you any good.

 

[Julian]

What pisses me off is that I've worked my ass off my whole life. School, university, my job and I've been very sucessful. I'm not loaded but I'm doing quite well for myself.

Your text is dripping jealousy.

Then comes along this little punk who has had everything handed to him on a silver platter. HE DRIVES A DELIVERY TRUCK FOR HIS DAD!! The guy probably doesn't know how to do a damn thing.

Your assuming too much. Slandering this guy because he has money AND he took your girl is quite lame. I understand the fact that this fool is dumb for buying this gold diggin chick a bunch of stuff but still man, you know damn well if your dad owned a company you would love to be living it up and being able to buy big screens and pimping out vehicles at the drop of a hat.

 

[iqqi]

money doesn't make the man.

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by iqqi
money doesn't make the man.

zen why iz she wiz him?

I'd so hit it. Imagine fukkin the girl on his couch and watching the TV he's bought for her.

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
zen why iz she wiz him?

she doesn't make the man either.

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by iqqi
she doesn't make the man either.

I'm curious now...

What makes the man?

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. Your ex is just your common everyday ho.

2. The new guy is your common everyday symp. He is getting played buying her all this shyt. What a punk. She will either marry him and cheat on him later on or will dump him after she gets tired of all his toys she's getting from him.

3. Let's hope she marries him and cheats on him with you. You both can drain his bank accounts dry and have fun while your at it.

4. Stop stopping by her work and let this shyt go...we all know your not over her and thats why you stopped by. If you didn't you wouldn't know this crap...so your only hurting yourself.

5. congrads on doing well for yourself. Life isn't fair but we do the best we can with what weve been given.

 

[Legend]

hey man

This helped me out big time.

It was a thread you posted when my chick kicked me to the curb.
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Posted by Slick

I don't know if you've read this before.....

Best Revenge Ever on the EX that dumped you.


I sometimes think there should be a section in the DJ Bible for break-ups. Alot, and probably most of the guys are here for that very reason and it would be good to know how to handle things properly.

Anyway this post deals with the aftermath. What to do after your heart was stomped on.

Maybe she cheated, found someone else, or just needed space. You're pissed as many guys are when their heart gets ripped out. Alot of guys turn into women hating bastards. You feel like punching the wall, or his face, or even hers.

So what's the best REVENGE!?

Screw as many chicks as you can? Mess up her car? Beat up her new boyfriend? Light her house on fire? Throw acid in her face?
(Just kidding about the acid. Read that somewhere on this forum)

No. Although these things might be fun and make you feel better for a minute or two, this is not the right type of Revenge.

The Best Revenge Ever on the Ex that dumped you is simply, LIVING WELL.

Living your life to your best capability.

What a slap in the face it would be for your ex to run into you down the road and there you are, better than you've ever been! Kicking a$$! on the rest of the world. Kind of like "Thanks for dumping me, cuz look at me now!"

You've got a new and improved girlfriend, better job, new car, new clothes, you look great. You've got new friends, you're doing new and exciting things that you never did before. You don't even have time to stop and talk to her. Your life is better, more complete, and you are happier than you've ever been.

The above are just examples but the point is to improve yourself and your life in every possible way.

Now you'll say "But Slick, shouldn't we be doing all that stuff anyway?"

EXACTLY. That is the beauty of it.

We've all probably had our hearts broken at one time or another. We all know that feeling like you can't go on. Life seems meaningless. You feel like you'll never find another one like her. You can't eat, can't sleep. Blah, blah, blah. You end up moping around all depressed.

Well its gonna take some TIME before you can get yourself together and get back on the right track. It might be a few months, it might even be years!

But when you head out looking for Revenge in this way, you'll be WAY ahead of the game.

Now go show that B*tch!



I hope it helps.



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Dude...to sum it up...you are to good a person to let this bytch make you second guess yourself. She is doing you a favor....

I feel much better chasing new tail and getting back into the game again. I got three girls number in a weeks time and two of the three i am sorta digging. Me and the ex are still talking....but she is on the back burner. Keep your ex on the back burner because she will be back the minute she thinks you are over her. They always come back.....and when she does...give it to her good and never get attached to her again.

Keep strong man and thanks for the advice you have given me in the past.

-John

 

[dietzcoi]

Be glad you are single. She is a b1tch. You now know this. I know it hurts but you are better off. I wish I had found out about my ex-wife before I got married, but of course I was the AFC buying her **** and being a chump.

You are free. Be happy for it. Many are not...

Living well is the best revenge. I really should go back to my high school reunion... I would love to see the fat b1tches who rejected me then see me... I look 10 years younger than my age, am in great shape and sucessful. Just to rub a few of their faces into it. But I realize it was my fault for being AFC back then... not really thiers...

Dietzcoi

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

I always find it funny when people say, I"m going to my 10 year reunion and want to show off to all those that rejected me. Blah blah said by both men and women. Everybody thinks everybody else gets fat and ugly.

The sad fact is, while there are circumstances, that skinny hot cheerleader, well, most likely she's still skinny and hot 10 years later.

Sometimes that's not the case, but many times it is. Most people think, HEY I WORK OUT, am DOING WELL< and now I'll show them. Yeah and the rest of the world isn't saying the same thing.

People live in too many fantasy television movies.

I've been to a few reunions to know that, hey, things don't really change at all. Those who had it in HS usually still have it later in life. Not always the case, but in many cases, it is.

It's just some myth that the Cheerleader turns into a 200 pound ugly married chic.

That spoiled rich kid in high school, well he's still spoiled and rich at 28.

That tough guy hunk of a football star in high school, well he's a successful business man now. But sometimes he turns out to be gay and you can laugh at that.

ANd blah blah. DOn't sweat the small stuff. As they say, LIFE SUCKS, and then you die. Life isn't fair, you just have to go out and do what's best for you. Do not concern yourself with somebody else because, hey, somebody will always be better then you and somebody will always be worse.

You can't worry about what other people have. I mean come on now, THE SIMPLE LIFE with paris hilton is so popular and everybody knows what she's done with her life, except for that mini-porn she starred in, not much.

Accept it and realize, some people just are lucky and there is nothing you can do about it. So stop worrying about it. You will stress yourself out over nothing.

Or maybe it's because teachers, parents, religion taught many kids that IF YOU WORK HARD, YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU WANT.

Then by the time your 30 or 40, most people realize, I BUSTED MY BUTT but so and so's son got the promotion. Sometimes, life just sucks, plain and simple.

And at times like this, go out, get your hair done, buy some new clothes, go to the gym, go on vacation, go to a sports event, get laid, or do something, because in the long run, if you keep sweating the small stuff, your gonna die of a heart attack.

 

[Lone_raider]

This is a good thread for me now, especially that old post by Slick that you posted Legend. I haven't had many long relationships, but I've been in one for nearly 3 months now, and found out a few days ago that my girlfriend was cheating on me with my own damn friend. My first reaction was total insanity, I went driving around insanely fast, I was kicking things, and screaming. Then I calmed down, and started thinking, what am I going to say to her, to him, those filthy bastards. I had giant plans of unleashing a tirade, but I don't think any of this will make me win or make it better? I haven't even seen her since I found out, I let her know that I found out in a voice mail I left. She texted me back quickly with something like "I need to talk to you, crap, are you okay?" Ha, am I okay? I think she's underestimating the situation a little bit.

I wonder if I should say anything more? She wants to see me this weekend and try to explain things, should I even go? Inside I want to scream at her, but that would let her know that she effected me a lot, and I can't give her that victory. If I go and see her, I'll try and remain calm, let her know how bad of a person she really is, then say something like I'm walking away forever now, I can't see either of you ever again, good bye. And just get up and leave forever.

 

[Panther]

Heh...

I got a mate who's dad is a millionaire... He gets to drive expensive cars, buy expensive presents to his women, get VIP passes in clubs etc. etc. Life indeed is not fair...

He told me once:
"There are two generations in life: the first generation people have to work their ass off and make lots of money; the second generation people get to spend it and have fun!"

Well, most of us here happen to be the wankers that have to work their asses off... But there's nothing wrong with hard work!

ThePanther

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Slickster


1. Even the most sincere women with high IL can flake on you at a moments notice.

I'd be willing to bet her IL in you wasn't nearly as high as you thought it was. High IL girls don't flake....EVER. Only when there IL has been lowered over a period of days/weeks/months does the flaking start. Im suspecting thats what happened to you, and you didn't see it coming because of lack of skill in reading IL.

Being shorter than you, or younger, or having more money, means ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Bla bla bla. Thats typical retarded male thinking. they get dumped for a new guy, and see that guy, and think "Im better looking, my dik is bigger, etc. etc. ect. why did she go for him? " Its a simple fact like gravity - She had dropping IL in you, met a new guy and has higher IL in him, and dumped your azz. Comparing yourself to this new guy means nothing. its like apples and oranges. Now, wether or not she will do the same to him is irrelevant.

 

[DJ_Dork]

dude, don't cry over this ***** - she's a golddigger. She just let you know that you deserve someone more soulful. Later

 

[Tkman]

Majority of the girls would have made the same choice as her, picking the rich over the poor guy. Your ***** loves the money not so much the guy. If this guy was not rich but just a truck driver and short, do you think she would have picked him? Most likely not.

If he dumps her and she comes back running to you, accept her back. After a long ****, dump her on the spot and tell her not to call you again.

 

[b's nuts]

Originally posted by Lone_raider
This is a good thread for me now, especially that old post by Slick that you posted Legend. I haven't had many long relationships, but I've been in one for nearly 3 months now, and found out a few days ago that my girlfriend was cheating on me with my own damn friend. My first reaction was total insanity, I went driving around insanely fast, I was kicking things, and screaming. Then I calmed down, and started thinking, what am I going to say to her, to him, those filthy bastards. I had giant plans of unleashing a tirade, but I don't think any of this will make me win or make it better? I haven't even seen her since I found out, I let her know that I found out in a voice mail I left. She texted me back quickly with something like "I need to talk to you, crap, are you okay?" Ha, am I okay? I think she's underestimating the situation a little bit.

I wonder if I should say anything more? She wants to see me this weekend and try to explain things, should I even go? Inside I want to scream at her, but that would let her know that she effected me a lot, and I can't give her that victory. If I go and see her, I'll try and remain calm, let her know how bad of a person she really is, then say something like I'm walking away forever now, I can't see either of you ever again, good bye. And just get up and leave forever.

I feel ya bro, that fvckin hurts, stabbed in the back by your girl and a friend. Have you said anything to your friend about it. Bros before ho's ya know. b*tches come and go, but friends are supposed to be there for ya. sounds like he is a little punk ass.

 

[Slickster]

Thanks people for all the responses

Ice Cold

I'd hit it just for the challenge.
I mean, imagine fukkin the hb behind that guy's back! What an ego boost!

It would be nice to "hit it" again but I don't think that will be happening. I've been doing my best to forget this chick and having sex with her again would only drag me back to darkness.

Francisco

It's good that you're moving on but don't sweat over the new guy. What matters is whether you are satisfied with your own life. If you aren't, just turn it up a notch or two. Don't waste your time comparing yourself to anyone else, it'll always be a mismatch and that seldom does you any good...

Good advice. I guess I was comparing myself to him and that is wrong. I couldn't help it though I was doing it without even thinking about it.

Julian

Your text is dripping jealousy.

Yeah, my bad. I guess it was just a slap in the face for me to see that dude. Fact is, she's probably a gold digger and I'm better off anyway. Thanks.

iqqi

money doesn't make the man.

True words but I think many women choose the money over the man. Very sad.

Player Supreme

5. congrads on doing well for yourself. Life isn't fair but we do the best we can with what we've been given.

Thanks for the wise words, they really hit home. I wasn't stopping by to see the ex. Its actually her sister. We've been friends for years. You're right though its only a reminder of my ex and it doesn't do me much good. Sucks when your friendships are affected by a break-up.

Legend Thanks for the kind words and good advice. You'll be happy to know I'm back in the game too. I have been staying as strong as I can regarding the oneitis and I have other prospects on the go too. I guess this post was a momentary lapse or I just needed to get things off my chest. It was the devil inside me honest.

myfriendblue

Being shorter than you, or younger, or having more money, means ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Bla bla bla. Thats typical retarded male thinking. they get dumped for a new guy, and see that guy, and think "Im better looking, my dik is bigger, etc. etc. ect. why did she go for him?

I agree its retarded thinking but its probably natural to think those things. If you've been rejected for someone else you tend to compare. You're right about her IL dropping. What can I say I probably knew it was happening but wanted things to work and I was hooked on the sex. What I found disturbing and a bit evil though was the fact that she could look me in the eye and tell me she loved me, etc. Besides the frequency of sex dropping and a few arguments it was very difficult to identify the dropping IL. When we were together she seemed happy. Shortly before the breakup she even told me that I was the perfect boyfriend and she'd never be able to replace me. Go figure. You're right though the signs were probably there but I was blinded.

Lone raider Hey man, I would steer clear of those two evil basturds. Yelling at them or getting mad might make you feel better for a short while but it will only give them a reason to dislike you. The best bet would be to shut them out of your life all together. That, in my opinion gets your message across and is the best revenge.


And to everyone else. Thanks once again. I know better than to let this sh!t get to me. The devil made do it - honest!

Anyways, it doesn't matter because "I'm big enough, I'm strong enough, and dammit people like me."

 

[iqqi]

Re: Thanks people for all the responses

Originally posted by Slickster

iqqi
True words but I think many women choose the money over the man. Very sad.

yeah slick, i know how that feels when someone you thought highly of has such a low standard for themselves. this was the outcome with my mentalman, if you recall. makes me sick to my tummy.