GF discovered sosuave and my DJ materials.

[Romantika]

I'm a new guy whom just discovered sosuave and still learning...

Long story short, here goes...

In a LTR of 8mths.

I was an AFC, meeting my gf nearly everyday.

Recently being to be more of a challenge and standing more on my own ground while being gentlemanly to her.

She discovered sosuave when i fall asleep not turning my computer off.. Arggggg.. (My bad i admit)

She ask me in a nice manner without being angry. I just say its just an informative site for men and I change the topic.


Now.. for sure. i can feel that she has some sort of guard naturally.

The question is. If a girl discovered about this site, how will you deal with it? If i be a challenge, she will know its "sosuave" material.

Its like an enemy whom know my strategy accidentally. Ooo Gosh..

My English is lousy.. please bear with it. Thanks.

 

[joekerr31]

simple. just tell her that you find human nature fascinating and the forum is filled with interesting takes on male / female relationships. tell her its the male version of cosmo.

if she found the site you can bet 100% shes going to start reading it for a while.

additionally, if she found the site why would you post a topic saying that she did and asking for advice? you don't think she's going to see your post?

do you realize how stupid you are going to look when you say to her "hey honey, i find human nature fascinating. its like cosmo." and then she says "oh really, that's exactly what that joekerr guy told you to say isn't it?"

dude, for you to be this stupid either you are a troll or the only thing you should be allowed to screw (and possibly impregnate) is a retarded monkey.

 

[logicallefty]

I'd just be like "cummon honey, it's just entertainment. Do you don't really think I would be dumb enough to believe that calling you 10x a day and buying you flowers every date would be a BAD thing?!" LOL

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...She ask me in a nice manner without being angry. I just say its just an informative site for men and I change the topic....

Is she the type of woman who would need more than this?

 

[Romantika]

simple. just tell her that you find human nature fascinating and the forum is filled with interesting takes on male / female relationships. tell her its the male version of cosmo.

if she found the site you can bet 100% shes going to start reading it for a while.

additionally, if she found the site why would you post a topic saying that she did and asking for advice? you don't think she's going to see your post?

do you realize how stupid you are going to look when you say to her "hey honey, i find human nature fascinating. its like cosmo." and then she says "oh really, that's exactly what that joekerr guy told you to say isn't it?"

dude, for you to be this stupid either you are a troll or the only thing you should be allowed to screw (and possibly impregnate) is a retarded monkey.

Looks like my gf has turned into a retarded monkey. lol

Dear... put it in a more gentlemanly way, will ya? :rock:

Anyway. Some girls seems to have a guard on guys whom do push and pull. Sometimes i just get confronted for doing that.. oh jeez.

 

[blueguy]

additionally, if she found the site why would you post a topic saying that she did and asking for advice? you don't think she's going to see your post?

do you realize how stupid you are going to look when you say to her "hey honey, i find human nature fascinating. its like cosmo." and then she says "oh really, that's exactly what that joekerr guy told you to say isn't it?"

dude, for you to be this stupid either you are a troll or the only thing you should be allowed to screw (and possibly impregnate) is a retarded monkey.

:crackup:

 

[PectoralisMajor]

Dude, just tell her you came accross it by accident one day, and you find some bits entertaining. Also tell her that you sometimes help give advice to guys going through hard patches in their lives ha.....

if you have to ask this, no wonder your girlfriend is a little concerned, the asnwer is a piece of cake, and far easier than the other things she will be sure to throw your way!

 

[randomusername]

do what hitch did!

 

[backbreaker]

is it that big a deal if you had to go out and find relationship help?

hell my ex GF not only found this site, she made posts! she confronted me bout it and I told her "you need to thank everyone there, because they are the reason you are here" and that was that

 

[PrinceBeavis]

I totally agree with Backbreaker. You were reading this stuff to learn the right way to treat her, so you can have a long and happy relationship with her. That's nothing to be ashamed of. Defend yourself without being defensive. It's not like she found some creepy porn or something.

 

[MacAvoy]

You can always deflect.

It's not like she found some creepy porn or something.

Next time leave some funky rape fantasy porn playin looped on your computer and she'll forget all about this site.

 

[djSlvt]

PUA is a state of mind, pimping is a state of mind, she can't just read and go pimp a boy or girl. Who cares if she discovered it.

But you can tell her that you looking for her replacement.. Someone hotter, smarter, and who not as nousy.

 

[backbreaker]

funny story... this girl I was messing around with about 3 years came over my house and she is looking around and checking her email while I am in the shower..

long story short, one of my friends downloaded some dog porn..


..yeah.. try explaining that one away.

Actually, I snuck in and caught her watching it.. damn freak

 

[squirrels]

She's guarded because you're guarded. You could've just laughed and said, "Yup...you girls have Cosmo, so we gotta fight back. C'mon, baby...I'm just trying to learn how to satisfy you better."

Instead you treated it like it was some embarassing secret or like you had a "hidden agenda". This has the same effect as when you're ashamed to be sexual toward a woman and treat sex like it's "naughty".

Now she thinks you're out to play tricks on her.

Learning to run game on women isn't some "black art" you have to protect. You are NOT Keanu and this is NOT the Matrix. This is real life. Stop treating it like a spy movie.

 

[ConantheLibertarian]

Discovered....materials, why does this remind me of being 12?? You said you told her it's just a site for men, and she's still guarded. It's probably how you acted about it. Perhaps you gave the impression it was something you want to keep hidden, so that'll naturally cause her to raise her defense levels. Until it's brought up again by her, there really is nothing you can/should do to deal with it. Bringing it up further can make it seem like you're worried about what she thinks, and that you're trying to redeem yourself. Both scream insecurity.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

She probably has an association of it being one of the usual pick-up-artist-player-swinging-bachelor-with-big-gold-chain type lame a$$ programs, and has no idea that it's something different, so doesn't know what to think.

 

[Obsidian]

You're learning to be a better man, and no it won't make a major difference whether or not she knows you're trying to be a DJ. Women will still desire the same things (strength, confidence, fun, sexuality, etc.); they have no choice in the matter.

If it were a site dedicated to NLP techniques and speed seduction, then her being on guard would complicate things. Being a DJ is about being a real man, tho, not just gimmicks. For the most part, this site oughta be publicized to the world. (The only reason not to advertise it to all your friends is that many people will make fun of you out of ignorance.)

 

[KarmaSutra]

Here's a fresh spin on it. Why the fvck do you care if she finds it? Be proud of it and yourself goddamnit. You're making strides to better yourself. If she's pissed it doesn't matter one fvcking bit. Tell her where your porn is stashed, where you buried Hoffa, where your fvcking carkeys are, tell her whatever the fvck you want but DO NOT BLINK. Don't tuck tail or budge from your position in any way.

Mrs. K knows full well that I come here and that I spend my precious time mentoring and it makes her proud that I live to share my knowledge and experience helping younger brothers.

 

[GamePlan]

Its like an enemy whom know my strategy accidentally. Ooo Gosh..

She's your girlfriend not your enemy. I think you shouldn't overdo this "be a challenge" stuff in the first place. It sounds cheesy each and every time, but just be a MAN.

Giocasanova and penkitten are a couple if i got it right and roam these forums, too and dont have a problem with that.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

...She discovered sosuave when i fall asleep not turning my computer off.. Arggggg.. (My bad i admit)

...The question is. If a girl discovered about this site, how will you deal with it? If i be a challenge, she will know its "sosuave" material...

being a challenge and playing hard to get is something girls learn around age 9 or 10. Tell her it just took you a few decades longer.