GF asked me to spank/slap her during sex

[killabizkit]

Quick background info. I am 23 she is 21, we have been dating for 6.5 yrs. We were each other’s first and our relationship is going strong. We have been having sex for 5years or so.

Ok, now for the help part:
We have sex a few times a week and all is good there, we have all the usual toys, lubricants and handcuffs. We are fairly adventurous when it comes to sex (she lets me piitb!). But never have I spanked her or done anything violent during sex. Till 2 nights ago when we were going at it doggy-style and she told me to spank her. I did lightly at first to play along but she loved it and kept yelling at me to hit her harder until she finally got off in one of the loudest and in her words “one of my best orgasms ever”.

By nature I am not a violent person and the act of spanking her really turned me off. I know that it did not do any permanent damage or anything but when we were done her backside was red as hell and welted. I felt horrible for doing it even though she obviously liked it.

Is this some sort of deep down emotional thing of hers or what? Any other girls like to get spanked, I have no idea if this is normal in real life (playboy does not count lol) and have not heard any of my friends talk about how there girls like to get spanked. This has really turned me off from sex, and has been driving me crazy.

 

[Docs]

I would have to say that if you've been going out that long...I'm sure that you can tell her how you feel about it.

(I'm going to watch for the noobs that post THAT"S AFC to tell her)

 

[blinkwatt]

I highly doubt that is was emotionally related, but anything is possible. Maybe she wanted to spice things up some. Dont think too much into this.

 

[Maverick001]

Yeah it`s ok to tell her that you`re not into it.

The more important question is why all of a sudden after all this time does she want you to shine her hide?

Anything else going on? The reason that I`m asking is that I had a chick like this too and after going out and banging her for 3 months all this background sh!t comes out like she was physically and emotionally abused by her father, had problems with anorexia as a teenager and low self-esteem...and she wanted me to spank her silly almost everytime we got busy.

Maybe Rollo or some of the other DJ`s into the psychological and behavioural stuff can chime in.

Otherwise, if she`s happy with herself and has her life together then it`s just something to spice up the bedroom antics. Find out for your own peace of mind.

Cheers,
Mav

 

[Badmannaz]

dude stop being a biyatch and go watch terminator 2 and Rambo...that sounds like some pvssy sh*t, seriously she wanted you to slap her ass while you 2 were banging that's no violent that's just some incredible sEx!!

if she likes you smackin dat ass what's the problem???
if she's getting off BIG TIME why screw that up??


sorry if i insulted you it's just i never heard of a guy not wanting to spank his gf while he was banging her doggy style that's all

 

[smoke city]

hell yes!!
man i've been with LOTS of girls who liked to be spanked, bitten, have their hair pulled...
sometimes they'll even ask for it.
it's not unnatural at all -- women sometimes want rough animal sex just like we do!
also there are lots of ways (spanking, hair pulling, etc.) to give her the impression of hard core roughness without actually hurting her. this stuff is gold.

 

[MetalFortress]

Meh, my last ex used to be into rough stuff and she had NO emotional problems. The previous one before that had rape fantasies, I kid you not.

 

[lets_do_this]

LOL Spanking is an issue? Come on...

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Why don't you post a video of you two doing it?

 

[Leporello]

It's usually not about violence, it has more to do with intensifying the sensation.

My gf likes her ass spanked too; before during, and after sex.

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

Sometimes my gf likes me to hit her in the head(hard), she also gets really turned on when I hold her mouth and nose shut during doggy.

I love japanese girls.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

Some girls get off on a bit of pain during sex. Don't think too hard about it, and if you are really freaked out by it then tell her. Perhaps you two can come to a compromise? When she wants to be spanked tell her she has to be a "bad girl" and ____________ (insert favorite sexual act here).

 

[Dueyunit]

dude fvck it if its da best sex u had and shez happy wif GO HARD MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[DJDamage]

I never heard of a guy complaining that his girlfriend wants him to spank her and he doesn't. Its usually the other way around and the girl's ends up enjoying it.

Seriously the spanking has nothing to do with violence. You should enjoy listening to the sound of the drum beat!

Your girl has healthy sexual appetite and I take it she wants to try new things. Other things she probably will love is if you turn her around doggy style and fvck her and then pull her hair a bit back she will feel it in the roots . You can also climb on top of her (missionary style) and for a brief time forcefully hold her wrists down. They love it! and as long as she trusts you, it is not considered violence but part of sex. They love to be treated rough sometimes.

DjDamage

 

[KarmaSutra]

It's about experiencing different sensations simultaneously. That's why some pain is good with pleasure. My ex-wife used to like to bite herself on the fleshy part of her bicep as she was having her orgasms. I didn't have to ask her what was to do however. Just punched her in the ribs whenever I went deep from then on.


Youngblood your girl is trying to get you to understand that she wants to experiment a little. The fact that you're here looking for some help should be congratulated. I can tell you that you better give her some new heightened sensations or she'll wander to some guy who'll drop a cleveland steamer on her.


Try the ol' two in the pink one in the stink . . .


Your friendly neighborhood,

Karma

 

[BuckwildNYC]

Originally posted by KarmaSutra
I can tell you that you better give her some new heightened sensations or she'll wander to some guy who'll drop a cleveland steamer on her.

Karma

I'm not sure what a clevelend steamer is but in my mind I'm picturing a "Stone Cold Stunner" and I'm lmao.

Bro, I used to have a girl who liked to be choked during sex. It was awesome lol.... get out those aggretions. Obviously you have to use common sense. Your not doing it to hurt them. It's just about power and women love to be dominated by a man that they love and trust. She knows shes safe with you and thats what turns her on.

 

[DarkLight]

HELL YA!!! FVCK THE SH!T OUTTA HER!

Alls thats going on, is that you 2 have been at it for 5 yrs now, and you have well integrated all the normal level of intercourse. Toys, this/that.

The level of human sexuality and its energy is deep... PRIMAL! Life in essence is sexual energy, so the depths are infinite.

You should take this as a great sign, not only that its fvckin animal kink sex for you, but that your girl is opening up these deeper more passionate wild levels of her core fire energy!

Take her into it... and dive a lil deeper yourself. I can understand your dilemma how your a non-violent person, etc.. but you have to take a step back, and ask yourself... "am I intending to hurt her, with rage and animosity"...

No.

See it as your taking her deeper into her sexual core, and life force... as well as your own.

Dig into this level with an open mind, and try to enjoy the newness of it. Don't let the surface of it fool you... thinking its bad, or that somethings wrong with her.

Its a great sign... and much life is there to be explored, experienced and enjoyed!

Tap that a$$! ; )


-DarkLight-

 

[backbreaker]

man I slap the **** out of girls when I **** em.. on the ass at least.. they have to tell me not to for me to not... usualy it turns them on, ,and in turn turns me on as well.

 

[B-Lemond]

This must be one of the stupidest questions EVER!


GIRLS LOVE TO BE SPANKED!




What a fvcken noob. This is exactly why this site is going downhill.

DAFS = Do A Fvcken Search

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quote from Sir_Chancealot:

There is something else that MOST women love, and that most men won't do. That is to spank their lover. I don't mean a slap or two on the butt. I mean spank her like you are beating her ass for doing something wrong. You slap her butt AS HARD AS YOU CAN 5 or 6 times. If you haven't left a huge red spot (or welt) in the shape of your hand, you didn't do it hard enough. Ok, now women may read this and respond with a post similar to “I wouldn't like that, etc., etc., etc.”. Wrong. Almost all women love to be spanked. I guarantee that if you have the balls to try this, you will be absolutely STUNNED by her reaction. Again, don't overuse this. Variety. Let her guess when you will do it.

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[ER!C L!VE]

At least she hasn't asked you to choke her like this one girl asked me to do :cheer:

Not my thing. Now slappin' dat ass is fun stuff