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I just turned 24 and I've been dealing with this issue since I was 21.
Every man's worst nightmare... hairloss!

I've looked at all the research you could possibly look at for treatments and I accept the fact that there currently isn't anything on the market within a reasonal financial bracket to combat this problem that eventually affects most men, so that's not what I'm posting about.

I deal with depression on a daily basis because of my hairloss. Mostly because I'm still so young.. I'm in my prime. I'm gaining knowledge daily and I'm hungry to learn more and put it to use but this is the only thing holding me back.

So far I've done alright to maintain it so that it isn't noticable but I can almost guarantee by the end of the year that I'll be "that guy" who lost his hair to everyone I know. It's a massive ego blow considering for the most part girls have always been attracted to me and in the past I haven't had the knowledge to capitalize on opportunities the way I do now. But now that I'm losing my hair, all that I've learnt honestly seems pointless.

Before anyone tells me to shave it off or just get a buzz cut, that shyt does not suit me at all. Tried it once in highschool (when my hair was lush af) and got teased until it grew back. So doing it now with even less hair... I could deal with this if I was in my mid to late 30's, but at this point in my life it just feels like a massive kick in the d!ck. I can't help but feel like I'm going to have to settle for a much less attractive girl since I won't be attracting HB8s and 9s anymore.

Any advice is greatly appreciated. I'll accept a kick up the arse too for letting it get to me as much as it has.
 

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PRP+ECM, while not cheap, is more affordable than hair transplants, and from what I have read online, results are promising. I know you said you didn't want opinions on treatments, but it is not as well known, so I thought I'd share.

As to your actual problem, I am sorry I can't give any advice. I am 30 and starting to wonder whether I might be losing hair myself, so I completely understand. The shape of my head also doesn't make my scalp look good shaven. Maybe it is my observation, but it seems like the guys who can pull off that look are all in great-to-top physical shape, so if nothing else, consider hairloss a motivation to get ripped if you are not.
 

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I'll suss it out but I really have no faith in anything other than devine intervention at this point lol. I'm at the gym 5-6 days a week and I've put on some good size, keeping lean. Not to come off arrogant but more often than not I'm in better shape than majority of the guys I'll be around so I'm fine with that.
But losing a head of hair is a game changer.. there's no coming back from that. Anyone can get ripped if they really want to, no one can grow their thinning hair back. And girls know this.
 

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If you think you're ugly, you're right and girls will believe you are too. If you think you'll have to settle for an average girl, you're right and that's exactly what you will get. Reality often correlates with your mindset.

The problem isn't hair loss, it's your attitude. Insecurity is more unattractive than a bald head.

I'm 23 and my hairline has been receding and thinning within the last year or two. I felt the same as you did for about a couple weeks but I got over it.

My self-worth has no connection with the amount of hair on my head. Obviously, I'd prefer a thick head of hair but I'm completely good with or without it. Wishful thinking, insecurity, fear, and comparing yourself to others are all completely 100% useless. And they are all choices, they are all mindsets.

And if a girl sees your hair (or lack of) as a deal breaker then she's not someone you'd want to be around to begin with.
 

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Yeah it is a big deal. But only in your head. Attraction is a one in 10 shot naturally. Tight game can move that to one in five. Bald guys tend to look much better ripped. So there you go hit the gym and tighten your game
 

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Or if it really bothers you and you can't move past it there's a hair loss treatment thread in the health and fitness forum.
 

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Meh Shave it own it work on your body and forget about it. There are natural ways to halt it. I know bald dudes who are killing it
 

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Well at least try to find the cause for your hairloss.

Sure it can be genetic but it may also depends on your diet or the environment you live in.

Stress, lack of minerals and vitamins play a role in that.
 

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Does your mom's father have any hair? From what I've heard, your mother's father is who you get your hair gene from
 

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Does your mom's father have any hair? From what I've heard, your mother's father is who you get your hair gene from
Both sides play a role, but the maternal side is way more prevalent than paternal. If both sides have a history of complete baldness on top, you're out of luck. You can't fight DNA.
On the other hand if maternal was bald, but paternal had some hair, you will thin quite a bit but probably not lose it all.
 
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Bald head will make you look ''older and more mature''.... hairloss aint fun... but you have to own it and accept it.

I recommend you shave your head... so you own it

And than you can have confidence.

When I shave my head... everyone said: I looked more ''mature''... i was teen back than but got more female attention that I remember... and I owned my baldness (cause I took the mesure).

Own it, accept it
 

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Go see a doctor (typically a dermatologist) and get a script for finasteride (Propecia), you could even mix in minoxidil (Rogaine) to the regimen but fin is the heavy hitter of the two. How far along are you? Like cancer, you have to catch hair loss early if you wish to treat it.

There are many ways to make taking finasteride cost-effective. Someone on a forum to which I once belonged would quarter the 5mg pills (Proscar) and take every other day. I’ve heard finasteride stays in the bloodstream for a few days so if you’re really on a tight budget that is an option. Whatever you do, steer clear of horror story threads on hairloss forums. The minute minority of folks with bad experiences are always the loudest and I question whether such side-effects are psychosomatic. These people delayed my starting the treatment for a year and a half. Since August of 2012 I have been on the drug (finasteride) and not experienced any side effects: functioning wee wee, etc. As I’ve had a good experience with the drug, I’ve had no reason to talk about it on the forums — thus proving my point that there is a silent majority with positive experiences.

It works and would cure your ills. You don’t seem like the type that would embrace the bald look and truthfully the look doesn’t work for many men. It’s good to be confident and “own it” but that sometimes only gets you so far. Women are visual creatures, too, not to the extent that men are but they still are. Why be confident without hair when you could be confident WITH hair.

Don’t take offense to this, but judging by your post it doesn’t seem like you’d be the type to be able to feign confidence in the wake of losing your hair. That’s why I question why many are advising you to take this route.

If you have any questions for me, I’d be happy to answer them. PM me if you want.
 

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Once hair is lost more than two years due to DHT, kiss them goodbye. If you want to keep your hair, you can, but you're going to have to make some decisions today.

Yes, FUT is expensive, but not necessary if you proactively get on the Big Three: Avodart/Finasteride, Rogaine, RU 58841. Search these terms within the forums for more info.
 

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Does your mom's father have any hair? From what I've heard, your mother's father is who you get your hair gene from
My mum said her parents had thick heads of hair so nothing wrong on that side of the fam. My dad and a lot of people on his side went grey very early between 18-early 20s but no male pattern baldness. My dad is bald now but his hair started thinning in his late 30s.

I do find that I'm stressed out quite a lot but I don't feel like it's that much worse than most people I know so it's hard for me to guage that, but I definitely do think that something can be done about my hairloss. I'm thinking it's mostly something more hormonal. I tried propecia for a while a couple years ago but about 3 months and didn't see any progress but maybe I wasn't on it long enough?

My crown is starting to thin a lot more as is the top of my head and my temples, especially on the left, which makes it worse because I style my hair from left to right and you can now see a massive gap in my hair line.
 

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Wear a cap.
 

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Rogaine and the other drugs barely work and have bad side effects, DHT is not even proven to be the cause check this site out to get a whole holistic approach, not this general fake science

http://immortalhair.forumandco.com/f1-natural-hair-regrowth

It has people using all types of methods from conventional to natural to a bit of both

Different theories and perspectives
 

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My personal belief is for whatever reason your scalp gets calcified kind of like cementing over a garden
 

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Here's some info you can do your homework on. Get yourself informed.

Those drugs have serious side effects including decreased libido because they were originally being tested as vasoconstrictors (reducers of blood flow). The dampening affect on the male member should be easily understood in that context. (Opposite of Viagra, which was originally studied as a vasodilator, which increases blood flow.). Erections were a side effect noted with such frequency when Viagra was in testing as a hypertension drug that the reason for use was changed (but hence the drop in blood pressure warning you get with Viagra.). It has cardiovascular action. So do vasoconstrictors.

Google sex linked male pattern baldness for more info. about cause.

My ex husband was well on the way to going bald when we married. Did not affect my attraction to him one bit. He was 33 and started noticing hair loss in his mid-20s. I snubbed a male model to date him. The male model also developed thinning hair as he got older.

My ex was started using Rogaine in his mid 20s, which did substantially slow the process in his opinion. He was using Rogaine when we got married but when we decided to think about children he quit using it.

Why?

It is a class C drug regarding pregnancy, meaning the scope of risk to the fetus is not concretely known but there have been safety reports to NIH associating minoxidil (the compound name) with fatal fetal malformations. So I did not want to be touching his head, his hair, the pillow cases etc and get exposure that could affect an unborn child or cause a miscarriage or stillbirth or serious birth defects.

You have to rock what you have rather than worry about what you don't. Yes there are treatments. They may work to varying degrees and they may be expensive. None are risk free.

Whatever makes you feel confident in yourself is what you should do. I dated a man who got a full surgical hair transplant, a guy who wore a high end hairpiece, and married a balding guy.

I also have gone out with men who have great hair.

Hair is nice but not necessary from a hot woman's perspective.
 
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