Getting the girl with the boyfriend

[oasis123]

Hey, first post here.
So here's my story, I'm at university and have known this girl for a few months but never hung out just had the odd chat. I have only have started to like her more now as I talk to her alot more than before.
The thing is that she a boyfriend back home a couple of hundred miles away, not too sure how long she has been in a relationship for.
I am so confused atm... when in a club she will start grinding with me, always touch me, hug me and the one time I went in for the kiss she said "I can't, I have a boyfriend." I felt like saying, "then why are you all over me?" but restrained myself. All the other times i haven't gone for the kiss. I'm still pretty sure she likes me as I will believe a girl's actions more than her words any day. Last weekend she was away for the weekend seeing her boyfriend but she didn't say this when i asked where she was.
I feel the problem is that we always have fun when together, constantly making each other laugh and making the conversation light but we don't really know each other. Perhaps, she doesn't want to cheat for a bit of fun for one night? I don't even know if that is the situation tbh.
Any advice guys on how to handle this situation and how to get her?
It should be noted that I'm not a ****, I don't want to sleep with her and then leave her but view her as relationship material. I haven't got oneitis as I still go out and have fun with other girls but at the end of the day i would prefer her.

 

[DonJuan11]

- when in a club,
- she will start grinding with me, always touch me, hug me
- the one time I went in for the kiss she said "I can't, I have a boyfriend."
- I'm still pretty sure she likes me

She likes you because you are a good ego booster for her. She feels attractive, sexy, has fun, and doesn't have to kiss you or have sex with you. It's a great deal for her.


Perhaps, she doesn't want to cheat for a bit of fun for one night? I don't even know if that is the situation

It's been asked so many times before "She has a great time with me but won't do anything with me and has a boyfriend. What can I do?

You disappear until she drops her boyfriend and starts to have sex with you.

When a girl offers resistance on the physical even though she had the time of her life with you, you are a ego booster for her. You make her feel good about herself without her giving anything in return. Her boyfriend may do that too, but he expects sex in return.

 

[oasis123]

Wow, never thought about that before. It makes so much sense.
Should I still give it a couple more attempts by going for a kiss to see where it takes me and then give up? To be fair I've only tried once and that night I was the idiot who talkd about her bf earlier in the night.

 

[SamMalone]

You're going to kiss a girl that has a boyfriend? That's a scumbag move, and if she does kiss you and you guys smash, would you still view her as relationship material? If she cheats on her boyfriend? I doubt it.

 

[The Logical Player]

Hey, first post here.
So here's my story, I'm at university and have known this girl for a few months but never hung out just had the odd chat. I have only have started to like her more now as I talk to her alot more than before.
The thing is that she a boyfriend back home a couple of hundred miles away, not too sure how long she has been in a relationship for.
I am so confused atm... when in a club she will start grinding with me, always touch me, hug me and the one time I went in for the kiss she said "I can't, I have a boyfriend." I felt like saying, "then why are you all over me?" but restrained myself. All the other times i haven't gone for the kiss. I'm still pretty sure she likes me as I will believe a girl's actions more than her words any day. Last weekend she was away for the weekend seeing her boyfriend but she didn't say this when i asked where she was.
I feel the problem is that we always have fun when together, constantly making each other laugh and making the conversation light but we don't really know each other. Perhaps, she doesn't want to cheat for a bit of fun for one night? I don't even know if that is the situation tbh.
Any advice guys on how to handle this situation and how to get her?
It should be noted that I'm not a ****, I don't want to sleep with her and then leave her but view her as relationship material. I haven't got oneitis as I still go out and have fun with other girls but at the end of the day i would prefer her.

please answer the following questions honestly:

1) what is so special about her? what does she have that other girls don't have? (besides a boyfriend LOL)

2) if you were a girl, would you date yourself?

3) Lets say for a second that you were indeed in a committed relationship, how badly would you kick the a$$ of some random chump who was trying to come in between you and your girlfriend?


you gotta start thinking with logic, and stop thinking with this wussified feminized emotion that most guys seem to have these days.

 

[oasis123]

1. I just have the most fun with her than any other girl, she's good looking and perhaps the bf does come into play as i do usually want girls i can't get, be it a girl with a bf or a perfect 10.

2. Hell yes I would date and sleep with myself. I'm not one of those people with inadequacy issues, I do believe in and genuinely like myself.

3. It's true I would get pissed off but hey if the relationship is so good then why would a girl cheat in the first place. She hasn't yet but even if I am just an ego-booster then surely it is wrong for her to give me attention and signs. I don't know the bf, but who know's if he is faithful. If he can get a girl like that, at university away from her with a window of opportunity I have concerns about his faithfulness.

 

[jocca]

So your going to try and get into the pants of a girl who currently see's you as a non entity, who has already made it clear to you that she has a b/f....... Classy.

There are plenty more fish in the sea but if you really wish to obtain such a girl wouldnt it be better for your own piece of mind and future advances if you just worked on improving yourself to the point where you stand above her current b/f.