Getting rid of Approach Anxiety?

[Viral]

Hey guys,

I'm really interested in what the Process is for eliminating approach anxiety and I'd like some advice on it.

Recently I've been going out a lot more, and for me I've found it really helps if you take this slow and really break down what you have anxiety about and work on each individual thing, but as far as I know, that could be a good idea or a bad idea.

So I'm hoping you guys can give me some tips and let me know things that worked for you and what didn't, how long it took, or whatever. I just want some advice.

 

[backseatjuan]

Lately I more and more think that feminism is what causing all kinds of anxiety. Think about it, will women approach usually? NO. Now what you call when dudes imitate women? FEMINISM!


Picture these women, if you have to pull up a photo or something. Notice what they wearing. It's some panties, bra, pantyhose and a dress, or a skirt and a top. That's freaking sexy and anyway you put it very little. Just pull a skirt or dress up, move the panties out and fak her.

With that kind of mind sex any woman looks sexy, just makes you want to look at them and take your time - and read her.

If you read her right and know how to approach her, you will approach and steer it wherever you want it to go.


You are anxious because a WOMAN for you is a Goddess. Mystical creature that can destroy you.

 

[rrrrr]

When I see a woman, and I want to talk to her, my problem is I don't know what to say most of the time. So usually when I come up with something to say, usually an observation, it becomes a lot easier. If you become good with things to say, there shouldn't be a problem. This is not at a bar where liquid courage helps, I'm just saying being out and about and running into a woman.

 

[Viral]

Lately I more and more think that feminism is what causing all kinds of anxiety. Think about it, will women approach usually? NO. Now what you call when dudes imitate women? FEMINISM!

You're right there is a double standard there.

When I see a woman, and I want to talk to her, my problem is I don't know what to say most of the time. So usually when I come up with something to say, usually an observation, it becomes a lot easier. If you become good with things to say, there shouldn't be a problem. This is not at a bar where liquid courage helps, I'm just saying being out and about and running into a woman.

Ya I've noticed that too, when I observe the situation it's fairly simple to say something.

 

[Stingers]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nIu20j0ecy8
here watch this first

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bKSHq_pN3Ug
then this one

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLU5PL4CsnM
then finally this one

this guys have some real good stuff.

 

[Mr Wright]

Evolutionary Psychology Lesson:

You are afraid because 20,000 years ago if you approached a woman and failed you would have isolated a good number of girls in your tribe, the one you hit on and her close friends, so thats lets say anywhere between 5-15%, so the more beautiful the girl, the more friends she has so the higher the stakes are. Also if she already has a mate that you dont know about, he might see you as competition and possibly kill you.

However, these days the stakes are not that high, if you approach a woman, chances are you dont know her and all you are risking is your time. We dont think like this though, those primitive emotions are still there but once you know their function they are easier to deal with. So break it down if you need to.

 

[Viral]

Evolutionary Psychology Lesson:

You are afraid because 20,000 years ago if you approached a woman and failed you would have isolated a good number of girls in your tribe, the one you hit on and her close friends, so thats lets say anywhere between 5-15%, so the more beautiful the girl, the more friends she has so the higher the stakes are. Also if she already has a mate that you dont know about, he might see you as competition and possibly kill you.

However, these days the stakes are not that high, if you approach a woman, chances are you dont know her and all you are risking is your time. We dont think like this though, those primitive emotions are still there but once you know their function they are easier to deal with. So break it down if you need to.

I think at some level we fear being a social misfit. We fear being recognized at something not normal because we want validation from people.


And Stingers, thanks for those videos Simple Pickup has some good stuff on this.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Viral don't be so outcome dependent.

Think about how you would act if you knew she was going to jump on your d!ck after talking to you. Imagine you are someone like Bradly Cooper and you KNOW 99% of women will f*ck you no questions asked. How would you act? What would you say to a woman you want to f*ck? YOU WOULD SAY WHATEVER THE F*CK YOU WANTED. Why? Because she is lower status than you and you know it.

Men need to stop elevating women and get out of this "I must prove myself" attitude. This attitude places the woman above you and you below her. You as a man are above 100% of women. 100%. Yes 100%.

This is the attitude that gets me laid. I view all women as beneath me so I don't fear their opinions or reactions. Why would I? They are beneath me. I'm a man. The dominate sex. Hello???

If you can't talk to her like a human being, then she isn't worth the time bro.

 

[Mike32ct]

I'm not disagreeing with any of the above. I see some good replies.

My angle is different, however. I don't think it's necessary to get rid of your approach anxiety. Honestly, just deal with it.

I don't think it's wise or necessary to approach any or all women you are attracted to. I recommend a sniper approach where you only approach those females you have a good gut feeling about.

I don't mind being "afraid" to approach females that my gut is telling me I shouldn't.

I don't need to lose my fear of approaching the following:

1. Chicks already with a guy.

2. Large groups of AWs.

3. Females that are too young.

4. A b@tchy girl who rolled her eyes at me.

What I'm trying to say, if she's not part of my "targeted group," why I do I have to force myself to lose fear of them? It's a pointless exercise.

So instead of forcing myself to do 500 random approaches to fight this mythical approach anxiety demon, I just approach maybe 2 women that I have a good feeling about. Do I still have to force myself and fight the anxiety? Sure. But it's not the Herculean Effort required to become fearless around all females. Plus, if you stop randomly approaching, the fear comes back anyway.