Getting rid of a F.B.

[PRMoon]

I've got to get rid of my f*ck buddy as there is a nice looking well adjusted waitress working in the bar adjoining her pizza joint. I've been avoiding her calls for the last few days but I don't think that's really the way to go. Though she won't admit it, I believe she's developed feelings for me where as I feel very little for her.

I'm not necessarily looking for a "clean" seperation but what I do need is seperation where she doesn't disclose too much compromizing information to the girl I have my sights set on. Any thoughts?

 

[PRMoon]

hehe my bad mods, I just woke up and I forgot to go back to the discuss forum from anything else when I posted this one.

 

[familyguyfan]

She definitely has feelings for you. Almost all women that become "f*ck buddies" with guys do so because they like the guy, but all he wants is sex.

 

[flexion_]

Well if you truly are fbuddies then this shouldn't be a problem.

Unfortunately you are in a relationship (well at she thinks so) so you'll probably have to cut if off completely.

 

[NewMan]

if you are true f buddies - simply talk to her the next time she calls - and when she asks to come over (or you to go over there) - simply tell her that you want to cool things off.

No more explanation is required - unless of course you've been giving her other idea by going out on dates (which I suspect is the issue here).

 

[penkitten]

well actually a real f b would take a hint when she calls and you say "hey i got a hot date tonite" she would wish you good luck and all.

a real fb is only doing you because neither of you has anyone else to do.

are you sure this girl doesnt think you are more involved than you are??

 

[PRMoon]

I hope she doesn't think it's something it's not but i'm pretty sure that's not the case. She's openly admitted that she realizes that I'm not interested in a relationship with her, but calls me all the time like I would do if I were calling a girl I was having casual sex with hoping it would become something else.

Come to think of it most FB's I've had in the past are pretty much booty calls and other then that we don't really talk at all, maybe we'll go to a bar. This girl has called me at like 5am when she's gotten off work to come get her becasue she's drunk and being hit on by guys. Most of the time I say no but once or twice I've picked her up, then parleyed that into sex before I went home at 8 or 9. Still It's suppose to be a FB and not me baby sitting.

Regardless of the sitution, I need to call it off because I want to date the girl who works next door from her in the bar adjoining her place of work. My FB doesn't really like the girl but I think she's a pretty decent person and we have alot of common interest. Any advice given would be greatly appreciated.

 

[PRMoon]

Uhhh bump, don't ususally do this (especially concidering the other FB threads started up) but i could use a little more help with the situation as there are some intricacies that need to be addressed.

 

[PRMoon]

Update

so I handled the situation, can't say how I did it will go down as my finest hour, and thinking back on it, there were plenty of other routes that I could of chosen...but I didn't and what's done is done.

First I tried to tell here that I thought she wasn't exactly following the guidelines for being a FB and we should probably call the whole thing off. Well thad didn't really sit well as she called several times and sent me multiple text messages explaining how she'll do better to stay within the bounds of a FB. I then told here that I wasn't really interested in having a FB at all, but then she pointed out that if we weren't FB's then we probably wouldn't hang out at all and she didn't want that.

So then I decided to take the low road. I didn't want to have a FB anymore and I really wanted to date that waitress working adjacent to her place of employment, which would be equally difficult concidering the situation. To rectify I decided that I could no longer associate with this girl so I need for her to dislike me. What I did was reveal one of her less flattering moments to my room mate inconfidence of course. Needless to the information was too much for ole b-rad and he told one of our grimier friends who then told just about everyone. The next time I saw her she was swinging mad at me and had some choice words to say to brandon as well.

In any event she calmed down and said despite my betrayal she still loves me to death (very ucharactoristic for a FB wouldn't you say) and she's probably going to call me next week for drinks but is going to think about our "friendship" very carefully for the next few days. She ended up quitting her job because she was too embarrased to show up there anymore, so I actually got to spend some time with the waitress without having to look over my shoulder.

I can't argue with the results but my methodology for handling this one was boarderlinedeplorable. But even an ugly win is a win right?

Again not saying what I did was right but nobody can change the past.

 

[PRMoon]

Update x2

So she called me this morning telling me she just got some phat job with a lawyer/L.O./Car dealer/rock star liason. I'm not sure as to the legitamacy of it but if what she says is true I'd definately like to meet this guy (that's the kind of person I'd like to work for) Then again part of me kinda says set up.

She said I'm not her favorite person in the world but we should work on being friends first and maybe we can be co workers Weird that If I hadn't of done what I did she wouldn't even have this job. If it's legit (very questionable) this could be the capstone to my vegas life what could put me over the top. *fingers crossed*